Discussion: Would you let your son wear a dress? - Page 5

Raphy23

Not until a certain age... like 16 or older. I wouldn't want him to get bullied, once he reaches that age I would let him decide. Of course I rather if my son didn't, but I try to be open minded.

That's how I would handle it, unless times change when I have children.

Wonda

Absolutely not!

Topherfy

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Originally posted by Monkey_Juice

So you think your SON walking down the street's in a DRESS is not going to cause him problem's.......

GURL.

YES! Until they are at least 18+ and even then I won't support it and they will have to pay for the surgery themselves. It does not mean I will disown them but I wont be cheering it on. if they did I will love them the same.

My son will be taught how to love themselves inside and out so they hopefully would not be having such thought's. God makes no mistakes, if he blessed you into this world as a man, then it was for a purpose. You don't have to agree or support everything your children say's or want's.

(I'm African so i might have different moral's)

I respect your opinion. It's disheartening to hear, but I can't really go and change someone's mind. That's not my place. Just one thing, god also blessed people who are women, he doesn't only bless men.

Auraeolux

I would as long as he completely understands the likely social repercussions of deviating from gender normative attire.

ugh, can you tell I just wrote an essay?

Edit: Definitely not as a child though. He could wear them inside the house if he wants , but not outside until he's an adult, or when he is very mature.

Echelon

If he can buy it he can wear it.

Honeyßéy

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Originally posted by Su-Barbie-A

How curious, this is the same thing some parents say when their sons come out of the closet.

Wearing a dress & coming out of the closet are too totally different situations.

Diarrhoea

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Originally posted by Nait Phoenix

I'd warn him about what to expect if he does, but it's ultimately his decision…

This.

Monkey_Juice

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Originally posted by Su-Barbie-A

And sometimes God BLESSES you by making you intersex, not everything in this life is black and white.
A parent's love must be unconditional, not whenever you feel like it will benefit you.

How curious, this is the same thing some parents say when their sons come out of the closet.

Well some children are raised differently

I can imagine me and you arguing outside school gates while we picked our sons up.

Heroine

I mean, it depends on a lot of things. If he was a little kid and wanted to just mess around with clothes and play dress-up at home, why not?

SHICD

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Originally posted by Echelon

If he can buy it he can wear it.

Which basically means he's not getting a job or an allowance.

BabyCantYouSee

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Originally posted by seaɴ.

Even today, my 20 YEAR OLD!! sister told me I shouldn't be peeing sitting down.

Well you need to educate her.

Caesar

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Originally posted by SHICD

Which basically means he's not getting a job or an allowance.

Danger

i don't plan on having children anytime soon but yeah, probably. like others have posted, no harm done

seaɴ.

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Originally posted by BabyCantYouSee

Well you need to educate her.

She also told me I was gay when I was 6 and wanted to wear a dress..

Javan

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Originally posted by seaɴ.

Even today, my 20 YEAR OLD!! sister told me I shouldn't be peeing sitting down.

I can't tell it this is real.

seaɴ.

People here acting like children don't know themselves and what they want until they're 18. No, that's not how it works honey bun!
It's like saying
'I'll let my son be gay or trans but not until he's 18!!!!1111'

RickyH.

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Originally posted by Truth Teller

Only if it's cute and avant garde. I don't want my son to be a basic bitch

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Mimie

g;dk;lgd

Rihinvention

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Originally posted by RudeBoyy

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Originally posted by Rihinvention

Of course I would.

That's a pretty open-ended question though. I mean most kids 0-5 love playing dress-ups, so wearing a dress wouldn't really mean anything.

If it wasn't for dress-ups though, and he wanted to wear it in public or on a day-to-day basis, I would take him to a therapist specialising in Gender Identity Disorder to find out if he was trans, and if she was, I'd start taking the necessary steps to help her transition, and would let her know that if she every changed her mind, all she'd have to do is let me know.

What if the child isn't trans and just wants to be a boy wearing a dress, or short shorts or some other clothes usually worn by girl.

I just went off in to hypotheticals because it's a fairly broad question and no hypothetical situation or details were given, but my answer remains:

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Originally posted by Rihinvention

Of course I would.

Nait Phoenix

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Originally posted by Monkey_Juice

So you think your SON walking down the street's in a DRESS is not going to cause him problem's.......

GURL.

My son could be walking around in a black shirt and blue pants and could cause problems. It's not always going to go the way we think it will. You say my son would be beaten up even if I taught him to defend himself, I say your son won't get beaten up because there are still good people and kids out there: who's to say we're not both right!? We make decisions only based on what we've experienced, not from what we believe will happen. So, I've experienced someone doing something just like this, getting hounded for it, but was able to stand up for himself and had his friends behind him. I didn't shun him, and we liked him for who he was. That was elementary school.

So, yeah, not everybody is cool in this world, but there are people who are willing to be…

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Originally posted by Honeyßéy

your his parent!
This world is very cruel, getting beat up is the least of his worries.
and I don't feel a CHILD is old enough to make those decisions
and know the real consequences of those actions, You're supposed to protect your
child from harm, not send them in harms direction.

And I understand that, but if we saw things in only one direction, we wouldn't get anywhere. If you think ultimately whatever decision your son makes that seems "out of the ordinary" or "socially unacceptable", then you do have the right to step in before they make a bad decision. But if they give that decision to you; if they actually ask "is it okay if I do this?", and you warn him about what could happen and tell him what to do if such a thing should happen and he still wants to, I would be doing an injustice to him by saying no if he has the justice enough to ask me beforehand.

TBH, we never know what triggers are going to set kids off. It shouldn't be all our fault that we let our kids be themselves. And I understand your worries, but at the end of the day, I'm his father and he is my son and I've got my son's back no matter what!