No, I still haven't yet. I struggle with it every day and nothing scares me more; it's like a paralyzing fear. I don't know how my family or friends would react. I know certain friends and family would be okay with it and would still love and accept me, but on the other hand some wouldn't. I live in Oklahoma and people here are very closed minded. There have been plenty of signs so I am sure some have questioned it or know, I'm just not ready yet. I'm 19 btw.
I'm normally not this open, but you all can relate.
No, I still haven't yet. I struggle with it every day and nothing scares me more; it's like a paralyzing fear. I don't know how my family or friends would react. I know certain friends and family would be okay with it and would still love and accept me, but on the other hand some wouldn't. I live in Oklahoma and people here are very closed minded. There have been plenty of signs so I am sure some have questioned it or know, I'm just not ready yet. I'm 19 btw.
I'm normally not this open, but you all can relate.
Don't rush it, my ex-boyfriend is 25 and not even his best friend knows he's gay, but he's happy with that. If you feel like it wouldn't be the best choice then just wait.
Don't rush it, my ex-boyfriend is 25 and not even his best friend knows he's gay, but he's happy with that. If you feel like it wouldn't be the best choice then just wait.
You're right, I'll just wait it out for now. *sigh*
I'm out to most of my friends. I came out to two prior to this school year and then I just let it be more known and now most people at school who I associate with know and they've all been very cool and even tried to set me up with my crush(it ended badly lol). I came out to my sister when she pulled me outside to tell me I was making my mother cry because I was always shut in my room depressed. I broke down in tears and I told her and she took it well but thinks I'm confused. I told my brother and he was more accepting than my sister but still thinks I should wait and see but I know it's **** that I want. As for my mom and dad...well not anytime soon that's for sure. I think at some point they will be fine with it. They don't think it's wrong religously but they have a negative view of gays. but I'm not ready to deal with that just yet.
I have a few, excuse the massive paragraph but I like this topic
When I came out to my best friend, we were discussing crushes, and I was being really nosy and wanted to know which girl it was he'd fallen so hard so it was a tell for tell thing. He said her name and so I had to hold up my part of the bargain. I could have lied and said it was any girl, but I explained it was a boy, and then 'yeah so I'm gay.' He's fine with it, virtually no response to that other than 'oh right, fine with it' etc. and nothing's changed! He's even fine with me talking about gay stuff
My other best friend told me she was bi when I got really close to her, and I was like 'well have a gay best friend then!' And she was really happy, she hugged me and she's absolutely the best. She talks to me about women and I talk to her about men!
The only other friend who knows I'm gay (and my crush) was like 'aww don't worry *name of another friend' we're all single.... Liam's single right?' at this point I'd been kind of talking to someone on Twitter so I said 'well kind of but we haven't met' and he was like 'ooh, so what's her name?' And I just said 'well you might as well know... It's a boy, not a girl. Off Twitter' and he just asked if I'm gay , I said yes and he said the sweetest thing 'well you're still my friend either way, whether you're gay or straight you're the same person' <3
My mum is the best one, she suspected and she literally went 'right don't take this the wrong way but are you gay liam?' so I took out my iPod and showed her my lock screen, Tom Daley in his speedos. No answers needed
My sister is gay too, I just told her outright. My foster parents who I live with don't know but I think they have suspicions. I have Olly Murs and his sexual thighs on my wall (but also Nicki Minaj practically naked and Little Mix!) plus they never ask me about girls. And I'm very camp anyway!
I only plan on telling my parents after I graduate from university and no longer require financial assistance.
Coming out for me is not a super joyous occasion. I feel awkward and for the first time in a long while wish that I could just fit in
okay I think thats very smart
But you fit in, you are not different, you are perfect they way you are and there is nothing wrong with it Believe in youself!!
No, I still haven't yet. I struggle with it every day and nothing scares me more; it's like a paralyzing fear. I don't know how my family or friends would react. I know certain friends and family would be okay with it and would still love and accept me, but on the other hand some wouldn't. I live in Oklahoma and people here are very closed minded. There have been plenty of signs so I am sure some have questioned it or know, I'm just not ready yet. I'm 19 btw.
I'm normally not this open, but you all can relate.
I have a few, excuse the massive paragraph but I like this topic
When I came out to my best friend, we were discussing crushes, and I was being really nosy and wanted to know which girl it was he'd fallen so hard so it was a tell for tell thing. He said her name and so I had to hold up my part of the bargain. I could have lied and said it was any girl, but I explained it was a boy, and then 'yeah so I'm gay.' He's fine with it, virtually no response to that other than 'oh right, fine with it' etc. and nothing's changed! He's even fine with me talking about gay stuff
My other best friend told me she was bi when I got really close to her, and I was like 'well have a gay best friend then!' And she was really happy, she hugged me and she's absolutely the best. She talks to me about women and I talk to her about men!
The only other friend who knows I'm gay (and my crush) was like 'aww don't worry *name of another friend' we're all single.... Liam's single right?' at this point I'd been kind of talking to someone on Twitter so I said 'well kind of but we haven't met' and he was like 'ooh, so what's her name?' And I just said 'well you might as well know... It's a boy, not a girl. Off Twitter' and he just asked if I'm gay , I said yes and he said the sweetest thing 'well you're still my friend either way, whether you're gay or straight you're the same person' <3
My mum is the best one, she suspected and she literally went 'right don't take this the wrong way but are you gay liam?' so I took out my iPod and showed her my lock screen, Tom Daley in his speedos. No answers needed
My sister is gay too, I just told her outright. My foster parents who I live with don't know but I think they have suspicions. I have Olly Murs and his sexual thighs on my wall (but also Nicki Minaj practically naked and Little Mix!) plus they never ask me about girls. And I'm very camp anyway!
Again sorry for the ramble
That's a really great story.
The bolded parts are amazing and kind of funny
- When did you first came out - This Summer
- Who was the first person to know - My best friend who's now my BF.
- How did you feel after it - The same
- Did you lose any friends - Only my close friends know, that ain't homophobic
- How is the Situation now - The same except my best friend is now my lover
I don't have a plan, tbh. The thought of it alone. My family are from the C'bean and that's like an embarrassment to be that way And the way they talk about gays
But I know there's a slim chance 1 of my sisters will accept me, I think she knows, well kinda
THIS. It's hard. Caribbean folk can be HARSH. My aunt thinks 2 men can't raise a kid
My cousins will be ok, as well as my brother. My parents know and are happy to keep it cool until I want people to know. It's gonna be hard though. The conversation alone and idea of coming out annoys me. Like I have/had something to hide I don't even feel happy about it all. I mean UK geighs are a mess at times, damn...not here for multicultural ****
I went to Catholic all boys school too. P.E. was hell and the RE class when they all got their peens out.........
THIS. It's hard. Caribbean folk can be HARSH. My aunt thinks 2 men can't raise a kid
My cousins will be ok, as well as my brother. My parents know and are happy to keep it cool until I want people to know. It's gonna be hard though. The conversation alone and idea of coming out annoys me. Like I have/had something to hide I don't even feel happy about it all. I mean UK geighs are a mess at times, damn...not here for multicultural ****
I went to Catholic all boys school too. P.E. was hell and the RE class when they all got their peens out.........
I screamed.
But I think you have really cool and suportive parents, thats good for you
You don't have to tell the other people that you are gay, I mean just do it!! So you can avoid the questions.
I do...but it's hard here...being white and LGBT is much easier I don't even feel cute or anything...
They did in class lmao, it was hilarious. The teacher left and the horniest guys started flashing. It was...well... time.
It was pretty uneventful. My mother and I were eating at a cheap restaurant, and she said, "So, you like boys?" and I said, "Yeah". And she said, "Cool". She's always been extremely accepting of gay people. I was 13, by the way.
I came out to nearly everybody else via Myspace. I changed my preference to "male", put "gay" in my About Me and started posting gay pride bulletins.
It was pretty uneventful. My mother and I were eating at a cheap restaurant, and she said, "So, you like boys?" and I said, "Yeah". And she said, "Cool". She's always been extremely accepting of gay people. I was 13, by the way.
I came out to nearly everybody else via Myspace. I changed my preference to "male", put "gay" in my About Me and started posting gay pride bulletins.
It was pretty uneventful. My mother and I were eating at a cheap restaurant, and she said, "So, you like boys?" and I said, "Yeah". And she said, "Cool". She's always been extremely accepting of gay people. I was 13, by the way.
I came out to nearly everybody else via Myspace. I changed my preference to "male", put "gay" in my About Me and started posting gay pride bulletins.