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Discussion: Being in your 20s is so confusing.
Member Since: 3/12/2011
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also, no one knows what the hell they're doing and very few have **** figured out. if you feel this way, relax, you're not alone.
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Member Since: 12/22/2011
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20-21 is going to be fun yet nervewrecking because if you are in college you party, meet your life long friends, get into some messed up relationships and run the gamut of emotions. It's the perfect segway of having limited responsibilities and consequences yet still be protected as being a college kid
22-25 you are new in the workforce (again assuming you are a college graduate) and learning to balance being early in your career, life stresses, balancing your budget (potential tension and lack of privacy if you get a roommate to help with bills), still trying to party as you are making a salary but all of your decisions will have consequences.
26-27 you are coming into your own, after a few years of work experience and figuring out how to have work life balance you are living it up, partying at Vegas, outside of the country etc. becomes easier, planning to get your first house/condo to hold your own events. Your friends begin creating their adult lives getting married, having kids...you begin getting used to going to weddings and baby showers often
27-29 you begin to have a completely different mindset from 20-26. You don't sweat the small stuff. You learn how to handle yourself and you think outside of yourself and strengthen your critical thinking skills. You are in a place to make moves to go further in your career. Twitter/facebook/instagram are ways to keep in contact with childhood friends and college friends and find yourself using those tools less and less as you have more and more responsibilities.
You probably own your first home, have a healthy savings and go to events networking. You understand the significance of family and friends more and more as weddings, baby showers, funerals etc become more and more prominent.
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You start off feeling like you know it all, you feel a little protection as you transition from college kid to adult.
Once you get out there and find survival tactics to deal with life as you constantly have to make sure that you are getting the right money, you are not being overcharged and that you can bail yourself out of any emergencies (car, house, life struggles) at any point.
The experience in your twenties should mature you, help shape your identity, promote your personal and professional goals. It should be a full circle phase of your life where you build confidence have assurance and learn to focus more on you and more about your legacy, impact, influence on those directly affected by you (being a great role modeled citizen and a mentor for younger people who are where you were).
You go from thinking you know everything to understanding there's so much to learn but you should feel great where you are in life...if you are successful.
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Member Since: 10/14/2010
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Originally posted by slw84
20-21 is going to be fun yet nervewrecking because if you are in college you party, meet your life long friends, get into some messed up relationships and run the gamut of emotions. It's the perfect segway of having limited responsibilities and consequences yet still be protected as being a college kid
22-25 you are new in the workforce (again assuming you are a college graduate) and learning to balance being early in your career, life stresses, balancing your budget (potential tension and lack of privacy if you get a roommate to help with bills), still trying to party as you are making a salary but all of your decisions will have consequences.
26-27 you are coming into your own, after a few years of work experience and figuring out how to have work life balance you are living it up, partying at Vegas, outside of the country etc. becomes easier, planning to get your first house/condo to hold your own events. Your friends begin creating their adult lives getting married, having kids...you begin getting used to going to weddings and baby showers often
27-29 you begin to have a completely different mindset from 20-26. You don't sweat the small stuff. You learn how to handle yourself and you think outside of yourself and strengthen your critical thinking skills. You are in a place to make moves to go further in your career. Twitter/facebook/instagram are ways to keep in contact with childhood friends and college friends and find yourself using those tools less and less as you have more and more responsibilities.
You probably own your first home, have a healthy savings and go to events networking. You understand the significance of family and friends more and more as weddings, baby showers, funerals etc become more and more prominent.
Overall
You start off feeling like you know it all, you feel a little protection as you transition from college kid to adult.
Once you get out there and find survival tactics to deal with life as you constantly have to make sure that you are getting the right money, you are not being overcharged and that you can bail yourself out of any emergencies (car, house, life struggles) at any point.
The experience in your twenties should mature you, help shape your identity, promote your personal and professional goals. It should be a full circle phase of your life where you build confidence have assurance and learn to focus more on you and more about your legacy, impact, influence on those directly affected by you (being a great role modeled citizen and a mentor for younger people who are where you were).
You go from thinking you know everything to understanding there's so much to learn but you should feel great where you are in life...if you are successful.
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What about experiencing your life like a unique human being and stop telling people how they are supposed to feel according to the number of their biological age. What a mess.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by slw84
20-21 is going to be fun yet nervewrecking because if you are in college you party, meet your life long friends, get into some messed up relationships and run the gamut of emotions. It's the perfect segway of having limited responsibilities and consequences yet still be protected as being a college kid
22-25 you are new in the workforce (again assuming you are a college graduate) and learning to balance being early in your career, life stresses, balancing your budget (potential tension and lack of privacy if you get a roommate to help with bills), still trying to party as you are making a salary but all of your decisions will have consequences.
26-27 you are coming into your own, after a few years of work experience and figuring out how to have work life balance you are living it up, partying at Vegas, outside of the country etc. becomes easier, planning to get your first house/condo to hold your own events. Your friends begin creating their adult lives getting married, having kids...you begin getting used to going to weddings and baby showers often
27-29 you begin to have a completely different mindset from 20-26. You don't sweat the small stuff. You learn how to handle yourself and you think outside of yourself and strengthen your critical thinking skills. You are in a place to make moves to go further in your career. Twitter/facebook/instagram are ways to keep in contact with childhood friends and college friends and find yourself using those tools less and less as you have more and more responsibilities.
You probably own your first home, have a healthy savings and go to events networking. You understand the significance of family and friends more and more as weddings, baby showers, funerals etc become more and more prominent.
Overall
You start off feeling like you know it all, you feel a little protection as you transition from college kid to adult.
Once you get out there and find survival tactics to deal with life as you constantly have to make sure that you are getting the right money, you are not being overcharged and that you can bail yourself out of any emergencies (car, house, life struggles) at any point.
The experience in your twenties should mature you, help shape your identity, promote your personal and professional goals. It should be a full circle phase of your life where you build confidence have assurance and learn to focus more on you and more about your legacy, impact, influence on those directly affected by you (being a great role modeled citizen and a mentor for younger people who are where you were).
You go from thinking you know everything to understanding there's so much to learn but you should feel great where you are in life...if you are successful.
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Omg, this made me feel so depressed BYE.
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Member Since: 12/22/2011
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Originally posted by ToxDuris
What about experiencing your life like a unique human being and stop telling people how they are supposed to feel according to the number of their biological age. What a mess.
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Have it your way...
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Member Since: 12/22/2011
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Originally posted by Dalai
Omg, this made me feel so depressed BYE.
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20s are fun, scary, stressful but if you make the right decision and your mistakes are not life changing then you can come out of it a better, smarter more important person.
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Member Since: 3/24/2012
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Originally posted by slw84
Overall
You start off feeling like you know it all, you feel a little protection as you transition from college kid to adult.
Once you get out there and find survival tactics to deal with life as you constantly have to make sure that you are getting the right money, you are not being overcharged and that you can bail yourself out of any emergencies (car, house, life struggles) at any point.
The experience in your twenties should mature you, help shape your identity, promote your personal and professional goals. It should be a full circle phase of your life where you build confidence have assurance and learn to focus more on you and more about your legacy, impact, influence on those directly affected by you (being a great role modeled citizen and a mentor for younger people who are where you were).
You go from thinking you know everything to understanding there's so much to learn but you should feel great where you are in life...if you are successful.
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Best post in this entire thread tbh.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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SCREW A 9-5 JOB
I'M BUILDING MY OWN COMPANY, AND IT WILL SLAY! I WILL LEAVE MY MARK IN THIS WORLD AFTER I DIE
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Member Since: 12/22/2011
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Originally posted by imabadkid
Best post in this entire thread tbh.
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Thanks.
The decisions you make from 17-22 will shape the remainder of your 20s. if you mess up, you can still turn it around but the world doesn't stop to wait for you so you have to work twice as hard.
if you go through your college life the right way, you just have to prep for a job after graduation and you are already on the right path.
The 20s are going to be complicated yet fun and painful with growing pains but later in your 20s things just start to CLICK and you really come full circle.
You know better and when you know better...you do better
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Javan
You're in your 20s?
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Not yet
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My twenties (I'm closer to my thirties now, to give some perspective) were also a bit of a rollercoaster. So much pressure put on us by the society and ourselves, as if we had control over everything (we don't) and each mistakes could ruin our lives forever... I'd advice for everyone feeling lost and confused to stay in the now, kiss the past goodbye and give the future the finger because you'll have enough time to obsess on it when you'll get there. Right now, only your present exist.
Try to not be too hard on yourself and remember that life is just like nature, it's cyclical so a pleasant surprise might always be around the corner and that ****** situations won't last forever. Continue having goals and projects but don't crucify yourself if everything doesn't happen as you planned it or as fast as you would like to. There's many things you have to go through to get from point A to point B and each steps of the journey is necessary for your "future" self.
Last but not least, always ask yourself if you're happy in your current situation, if not, whatever you're doing is not right for you. Don't have regret because you will learn from these "bad" experiences which in turn will bring you to better opportunities, and NEVER compare yourself to other people, you're unique, you're "you", what's working for them might not work for you and the other way around is also true.
Oops I almost forgot, when you'll feel down, never miss an opportunity to enjoy yourself and bask in positive energy. You'll never need it as much as in those troubled times .
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Member Since: 1/2/2014
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I feel like alot of you are university/college kids but what about those 20 something year olds who couldnt afford college or admit to a University/ get scholarships/ full time jobs,etc...
imagine how hopeless they feel? Why in America do people feel college is the only option to a better life? College can't be the end all be all there's other aspects to life than being a student I'm scared I'll end up being 20 something suicidal because the pressure of college / having a job is on me.
I know people who are fresh from high school turning 18/19/20 this year and they're married already.have kids. I don't even want to think about my age anymore I just want to live my life while I can. You'll never enjoy anything if you worry about it too much
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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ugh this thread just reminded me that im gonna turn 20 this year. i feel old
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Member Since: 12/22/2011
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Originally posted by TMTURKEY
I feel like alot of you are university/college kids but what about those 20 something year olds who couldnt afford college or admit to a University/ get scholarships/ full time jobs,etc...
imagine how hopeless they feel? Why in America do people feel college is the only option to a better life? College can't be the end all be all there's other aspects to life than being a student I'm scared I'll end up being 20 something suicidal because the pressure of college / having a job is on me.
I know people who are fresh from high school turning 18/19/20 this year and they're married already.have kids. I don't even want to think about my age anymore I just want to live my life while I can. You'll never enjoy anything if you worry about it too much
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They need to get a trade or do something like running or taking over a family business.
No one is saying that it's the end all be all...but we are speaking from our perspectives.
Life is full of pressure. If someone can't manage college and/or a job then it's going to get worse and worse fro them.
The people that don't attain a degree have to find a way to make a living and the likelihood of making a nice salary is slim.
Well, I wish you well but it's not so much worrying as it is thinking, preparing and being aware that life is not going to stop for you so you have to look forward and make important decisions to make it easier for you to manage life
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Member Since: 12/22/2011
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Originally posted by Blur
My twenties (I'm closer to my thirties now, to give some perspective) were also a bit of a rollercoaster. So much pressure put on us by the society and ourselves, as if we had control over everything (we don't) and each mistakes could ruin our lives forever... I'd advice for everyone feeling lost and confused to stay in the now, kiss the past goodbye and give the future the finger because you'll have enough time to obsess on it when you'll get there. Right now, only your present exist.
Try to not be too hard on yourself and remember that life is just like nature, it's cyclical so a pleasant surprise might always be around the corner and that ****** situations won't last forever. Continue having goals and projects but don't crucify yourself if everything doesn't happen as you planned it or as fast as you would like to. There's many things you have to go through to get from point A to point B and each steps of the journey is necessary for your "future" self.
Last but not least, always ask yourself if you're happy in your current situation, if not, whatever you're doing is not right for you. Don't have regret because you will learn from these "bad" experiences which in turn will bring you to better opportunities, and NEVER compare yourself to other people, you're unique, you're "you", what's working for them might not work for you and the other way around is also true.
Oops I almost forgot, when you'll feel down, never miss an opportunity to enjoy yourself and bask in positive energy. You'll never need it as much as in those troubled times .
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So true.
You rid as much negativity out of your life as possible
that saying some people come into your life for a reason, season and a lifetime has a newer meaning.
You'll need to be mentally, emotionally and physically strong to be your very best.
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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I feel the same and I'm turning 20 this year. I really don't know what I want in life.
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