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Poll: Are you in the closet?
View Poll Results: Are you?
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Yes
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57 |
37.01% |
No
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61 |
39.61% |
I'm straight ()
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25 |
16.23% |
I'm confused
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11 |
7.14% |
Member Since: 10/5/2009
Posts: 137,162
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Yep.
I've already spilled to online users, of course, but not to any friends nor family members. I'm nervous for how they'd react.. I don't think there's any LGBT in our whole entire family. I think my mom and sister already know but they just don't want to ask me, so I think they'd be fine with it, but idk about the other side of tha fam.
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Member Since: 3/5/2011
Posts: 30,130
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Originally posted by jackcampbell1
Also i might add, anyone scared of coming out: My parents are old school as ****.. My dad is covered in tattoos and rides motorbikes with all his friends.. basically a bikey. When he found out he said to me " What you do is your business, what you do in your private time doesn't concern me, i don't mind and anyone who DOES mind has insecurities of there own" and its the truest thing ever. ANYONE who judges you of being something they are not are horrible people, they are not worth your time, even if it is your parents. And trust me when i say this; your parents 80% of the time will not mind, they might be shocked, or a little disapoiinted if you are there only child, but alot of the time they move on and accept it (Just like you will some day accept it)
Being gay is nothing to be ashamed of, its completely normal! There are gay animals, dogs, horses, everything!
I dunno what im on about anymore but you get the point
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Member Since: 5/9/2012
Posts: 13,858
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My sister knows that I'm gay but she doesn't know that I know that she knows that I'm gay
I think my moms knows bout that, well I don't know I will be 20 the next year I think is time to come out in new year!
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
Posts: 30,196
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Quote:
Originally posted by chilicheese01
I believe it when you say it felt weird for a few days. It was like that with my mom, too, but it's just something that needs to settle in, honestly.
The more you do it, the more you realize people don't really give a ****. (This is especially evident around friends and younger people, in my experiences.) And if they do give a ****, then forget about them!
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It's hard to forget about them when you live with them/see them everyday though. I think I might come out once I leave for university, but I can't do it now- or else I'll be trapped with that uncomfortable feeling for the next 8 months. but thank-you for the encouragement!
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Member Since: 3/27/2012
Posts: 27,951
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Member Since: 3/7/2012
Posts: 8,365
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Member Since: 12/2/2011
Posts: 52,765
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Member Since: 9/1/2012
Posts: 2,640
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No one "knows" that I'm gay. But, I'm literally probably one of the gayest people you'd ever meet in person.
Like my only friends are girls and I'm known as the school gossiper. I know my parents will accept me if I'm gay... and I definitely think they know but I'm just too awkward and nervous of a person to tell them.
I think I've known I was gay since 5th grade, but up until about 8th grade it never really *hit* me. Like, whenever someone would ask me if I was gay, I'd say, "no."
I would get really sad when kids would call me "gay"...not because it's something to be ashamed of...but the way they were saying it.
Anyway, if I don't come out within the next year or so, definitely when I go to college. Wish me luck.
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Member Since: 6/1/2011
Posts: 15,684
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I'm straight
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Member Since: 3/8/2012
Posts: 39,015
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Quote:
Originally posted by Vespertine
Yaas, and I feel like such a loser because of it, I mean I'm gonna be 20 next year
wut?
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Same, and not a single f was given
JK alot of Fs were given but honestly I don't even care about coming out as much anymore. Back then I was like wanting to come out but I don't even think about it much now. I only think about it when people start talking about girls around me and ask if i like someone or not
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 11,808
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I'm out to whoever asks
Not out to my family bc they've never asked,
but they probably already know anyway,
so no need to be dramatic and sit everyone down
Bi, btw
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Member Since: 7/22/2012
Posts: 1,926
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In regards to my family and school/friends? Yes.
Here online, no.
But I think I'm getting to the point where I'm ready to come out to my Dad's side at least because I have 4 gay family members and they're all accepting and very open minded people including my father, I mean he's friends with his gay barber
But coming out to my Mom and that side of the family is the opposite. My mom is a huge homophobe. She won't disrespect or do mean things to gay people but she's openly said that if her children were gay she would disown us and kick us out on the spot
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Member Since: 9/1/2012
Posts: 2,640
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What I don't understand is why people care so much if one's gay...
Like it's that person's life. It's not affecting you in any way. Why can't one just live his/her life the way he/she wants to? So frustrating!
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
Posts: 11,464
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Yes. And I know it depends on the situation, but for me I came out the summer in between 10th and 11th grade, and it was like an enormous weight was lifted off my shoulders. I couldn't be happier to be out tbh
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 11,808
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It's weird when my family asks me about girls tho
I mean, I'm attracted to girls,
but I don't see myself having an intimate relationship with one
I'm too much of a girl myself for that to work
It's awkward bc they'll be like,
"Oh, when you meet a girl one day..."
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"Did you find a girlfriend?"
But, they don't know that I'm really tryna scope out a rich daddy
to turn out that cherry and turn up them bank account statements
It's sad really
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
Posts: 30,196
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Quote:
Originally posted by Latch
"Oh, when you meat a girl one day..."
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Not sure if a typo or your parents are really impatient for you to get laid.
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 18,655
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Quote:
Originally posted by Lethal
Yas, but I'll never need to come out cus I'm bi so good luck with coming out.
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This!
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Member Since: 2/17/2012
Posts: 33,611
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I came out at 16 but I still skirted the issue til I was like 18/graduated HS and now I'm out to anyone and everyone.
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
Posts: 2,618
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Voted Yes because if someone asks me i answer honestly and idc if my friends tell people any more but im not out to my family that **** was messy round 1 and i aint trying to see wat round 2 or 3 look like so once i find a partner imma move out tell my parents and they'll just have to deal if they want me in there life but my sister is 12 and im planning on telling her but idk if she's at the right age yet
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
Posts: 338
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My sister knows and my best friend knows, but that's it for me as far as offline folks are concerned. I live in a very homophobic environment so I don't know if I'll be ready to come out any time in the near future.
I do plan to emigrate and I figure once I do that, I'll probably take the big step and come out to everyone.
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