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Originally posted by Sazare
Yeah, I was wondering about the pronoun thing. I mean, I didn't think I should suddenly start calling her "him" now that she's out to me, but like I really didn't know if transitioning was like a sudden thing or gradual.
But yeah, I'm not going to push anything. I just want to seem supportive without inadvertently saying something hurtful or ignorant. 
Thanks.  |
Yeah, using the right pronouns was the most difficult part for me, it was like I either offended him by referring to him as a man or was being too pushy by calling him a woman before his transition was even done. However, it seemed, with my friend at least, that sticking with the masculine pronouns until the transition was well underway was the best decision. Hopefully your friend will give you subtle hints about when she's ready to start being referred to as a man.
As confusing as it is for us, it's even more confusing for them; so, all we really can do is be supportive every step of the way. For some people transitioning can be a really scary time and they'll often jump away from the idea and then back onto it multiple times. Just never press the issue and always be as understanding as you can!
I sincerely hope everything works out well for your friend.
Nice new golden plus, by the way.
Just got a job and already living like a king.
