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Discussion: Your boyfriend watching x-rated movies-Problems in Dating
Member Since: 9/1/2013
Posts: 18,649
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Originally posted by Attitude
Dating is exhausting. Especially at the beginning when you're still trying to feel each other out.
Where do y'all even meet guys? I would go out to bars but that's just not my scene.
I've tried dating sites but I mostly end up with clingy af people.
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i've found that the way to find relationships that don't end badly is to meet people through either activities where you share a mutual interest (like a college organization or charity event or something, not a party or a bar) or to be introduced by another friend.
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
Posts: 42,704
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Originally posted by Grumpy Gills
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All that extraness over a tiny ass hoop earring chh which is on HIS body btw
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
Posts: 37,384
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Originally posted by accelgors
i've found that the way to find relationships that don't end badly is to meet people through either activities where you share a mutual interest (like a college organization or charity event or something, not a party or a bar) or to be introduced by another friend.
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This is so hard when you're gay though. Like with activities, if I can tell a guy is gay he probably isn't my type to begin with. And I'm sick of meeting people on dating sites
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
Posts: 37,384
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Originally posted by DuffStan
See, this is what I don't get. When I start talking to a guy, I cannot deal with another one.
How can people handle 3 different people at once? It's kind of disgusting and hurtful.
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same with me. when i find someone i like I just lose the ability to like anyone else. It's totally not on purpose I'm just hopelessly monogamous I guess
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Member Since: 3/8/2014
Posts: 147
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Originally posted by Donquizote
One day you will find a guy who really wants a committed relationship. Dont go to Grindr for that. Most guys on Grindr are trash
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Yeah you're right, I'll just keep waiting or looking around
Although, I don't have grindr , it all just happens on instagram or snapchat
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Member Since: 5/3/2010
Posts: 26,013
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So I've been talking to this guys for a few weeks, we met on tinder but he's still in the closet and he was VERY scared to meet me, it's honestly sad. But anyways he finally came over this weekend and we like made out or whatever but I just don't know if he is my tea idk what to do. He's cute and very nice but kind of awkward and a little strange (not necessarily on a bad way) just not really the type that I'm attracted to. UGH
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Member Since: 2/2/2014
Posts: 2,978
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Originally posted by accelgors
i've found that the way to find relationships that don't end badly is to meet people through either activities where you share a mutual interest (like a college organization or charity event or something, not a party or a bar) or to be introduced by another friend.
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Originally posted by Jackson
This is so hard when you're gay though. Like with activities, if I can tell a guy is gay he probably isn't my type to begin with. And I'm sick of meeting people on dating sites
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If there's a guy that's your type in your class you're supposed to approach him? That's impossible tbh. Most of them are straight so it's risky to ask them and avoid a very awkward situation
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Originally posted by Jackson
same with me. when i find someone i like I just lose the ability to like anyone else. It's totally not on purpose I'm just hopelessly monogamous I guess
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Me too I can't focus on more than one guy at a time. I'm very monogamous too, mainly because of my education... even though I'd like to break out of that mold and be a jerk sometimes ugh
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Originally posted by Rigalo
So I've been talking to this guys for a few weeks, we met on tinder but he's still in the closet and he was VERY scared to meet me, it's honestly sad. But anyways he finally came over this weekend and we like made out or whatever but I just don't know if he is my tea idk what to do. He's cute and very nice but kind of awkward and a little strange (not necessarily on a bad way) just not really the type that I'm attracted to. UGH
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Think about all the headache that will come because of his uncertainties... Do you really wanna get into this mess? Plus, he's not really your type so.... :/
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 13,434
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Originally posted by Rigalo
So I've been talking to this guys for a few weeks, we met on tinder but he's still in the closet and he was VERY scared to meet me, it's honestly sad. But anyways he finally came over this weekend and we like made out or whatever but I just don't know if he is my tea idk what to do. He's cute and very nice but kind of awkward and a little strange (not necessarily on a bad way) just not really the type that I'm attracted to. UGH
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Try to go for a proper date with him. Maybe meet him at the coffee shop or movie theater and see how it goes. Sometimes you need more than one date before you can decide.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
Posts: 9,481
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Lack of interest, being too clingy, overthinking (its the worse ) and expectations, especially at the beginning of a relationship, we just have to over complicate everything. 😠😤😭
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 13,434
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Originally posted by ItsJim
Lack of interest, being too clingy, overthinking (its the worse ) and expectations, especially at the beginning of a relationship, we just have to over complicate everything. 😠😤😭
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Mess. My boyfriend must think I overthink too much
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
Posts: 37,384
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oh btw I think your pic thing is fine, how he won't delete the ones of him and his ex. i havent deleted my pics with my ex. i'm completely over him but deleting them seems petty to me and i look hot in them so i don't wanna delete some of my best pics. maybe it's just me but in my situation i don't think it's wrong
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 13,434
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Originally posted by Jackson
oh btw I think your pic thing is fine, how he won't delete the ones of him and his ex. i havent deleted my pics with my ex. i'm completely over him but deleting them seems petty to me and i look hot in them so i don't wanna delete some of my best pics. maybe it's just me but in my situation i don't think it's wrong
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Yes, that's what I think too. My boyfriend reassures me that he completely over his ex. In fact he hates him for cheating. But still
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Member Since: 2/2/2014
Posts: 2,978
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Originally posted by Jackson
oh btw I think your pic thing is fine, how he won't delete the ones of him and his ex. i havent deleted my pics with my ex. i'm completely over him but deleting them seems petty to me and i look hot in them so i don't wanna delete some of my best pics. maybe it's just me but in my situation i don't think it's wrong
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I haven't deleted mine for the same reason. Also, I think it's mature not to delete your pics with your ex because it proves you accept the relationship's failure and that you are ready to move on while learning from your past mistake.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 13,434
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Originally posted by DuffStan
I haven't deleted mine for the same reason. Also, I think it's mature not to delete your pics with your ex because it proves you accept the relationship's failure and that you are ready to move on while learning from your past mistake.
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Now I sound like a jealous, obsessive and crazy boyfriend
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
Posts: 18,649
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Originally posted by DuffStan
If there's a guy that's your type in your class you're supposed to approach him? That's impossible tbh. Most of them are straight so it's risky to ask them and avoid a very awkward situation
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it depends. i think you should try to be friends first (if someone hasn't already told you he's gay), because a) if you can't make it as friends, you probably can't have a serious relationship and b) he'll be more likely to not be weirded out by a friend rather than a stranger.
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Originally posted by Donquizote
Mess. My boyfriend must think I overthink too much
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i have a serious overthinking issue. my mind always comes up with reasons why any situation has the most horrible answer possible. it's the struggle
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
Posts: 15,700
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I think my boyfriend thinks I'm too clingy but doesn't/refuses to tell me if I am because he doesn't want to hurt my feelings. Which means he's learning because now he knows just how petty I am.
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Member Since: 2/2/2014
Posts: 2,978
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Originally posted by Donquizote
Now I sound like a jealous, obsessive and crazy boyfriend
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No you don't. I think each person deals differently with specific situations.
You're giving him 3 months at least
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Originally posted by accelgors
it depends. i think you should try to be friends first (if someone hasn't already told you he's gay), because a) if you can't make it as friends, you probably can't have a serious relationship and b) he'll be more likely to not be weirded out by a friend rather than a stranger.
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Thanks for the advice!
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
Posts: 37,384
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Originally posted by Donquizote
Now I sound like a jealous, obsessive and crazy boyfriend
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nah you sound like a normal human being worrying about your boyfriend, we all do it
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Member Since: 10/9/2011
Posts: 12,450
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Originally posted by Donquizote
I've been dating this guy for almost a month. I really like him and I think he's a loyal type who doesn't fool around and always committed in relationship. He's been hurt in the past because his partner for 3 years cheated on him.
I really like him and I feel so comfortable to be him. The biggest problem I have is he just got out from a long term relationship 3 months ago. Although I think I am way cuter than his ex, I think he's still not over his ex. And when I confronted him about that matter, he says "past is the past" and we should move on with our lives. Still, I can't trust him.
Also, I think our relationship is moving too fast. We've only been dating for a month but he already plans to introduce me to his mum next week
What should I do?
Post your problems in dating as well
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Mess. I don't want to sound like a crazy and obsessed boyfriend but he still has his ex's pictures up on instagram, facebook and twitter. When I asked him, he said they were all memories with his ex. I am so ready to dump his ass after 3 months trial if he still talked about his ex
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Ugh, I broke with my ex bc he "still friends" with his ex of 7 years. Honestly, there is no way you can be with somebody that still having "memories or a relationship" with his ex. According to my psychologist there is one that left the door open and the other one let the other to still into his life because there is no one over the other one.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
Posts: 9,619
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Ugh so I met this guy on tinder the other day, we talk a lot but on some days he is completely silent and it's driving me crazy Never had comunication issues before and I really want this to work.
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