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Originally posted by Arioso
I agree, a distinction should be made. As the person in here probably most open about dating a trans guy, I feel like I value the exact attractiveness or presence of the penis a lot less than most other people in here do. And that's not necessarily a bad thing - one can be attracted to certain things without being transphobic, I think, so it's important that people know that "no" is an okay answer. I just hope that people remember that "no" is only okay as far as whether you're attracted to that individual and their specific body - "no" is, in my mind, less okay when it's a sweeping thing just because they're trans. I mean, in theory, if the guy "looked" and more or less functioned exactly as you expect a biologically male partner to... then why would this be any different, you know? There are people who, even in that situation, would still say no, and that bothers me because in a hypothetical future society that isn't actually that far away, there may be no true external indications that a trans man is, in fact, trans, so in such a case knowing that they are trans would be a privilege they give to you and that you may never actually have. In the modern world with modern medicine, then saying no to trans men on the basis of sexual chemistry works fine - but because of a very possible near-future situation (and because of ethics in general), I don't think that saying no on the sole basis of them being trans is okay. And like you said, it's all super conditional, for everyone.
I rambled, sorry
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this sums it up perfectly.
on topic: yes, if i was attracted to them and we had a connection.
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