My mum used to hold my forearm and then slap the back of her hand. The sound of the slap would shock me, and make me think that I had been smacked, so I would realise I had done something wrong, without actually feeling any physical pain.
She has a degree in child psychology though, so she's anti-smacking, but very pro-discipline. She has, however, smacked my brother twice when he was a kid, both in life-threatening situations. Once when he ran out onto the road, and I can't remember what the other time was for. She said she didn't care how many child psychology books speak out against smacking your kids as discipline, she was always going to use it in situations when we were putting our lives (or another kid's life) at risk. She wanted to make him realise the seriousness of his actions. He never ran out on the road again, so I guess it worked.
For the most part, we had "naughty corners" but we were all actually really good kids. Discipline was never really necessary because we rarely did anything wrong. I got a detention once and a pink slip (a pink notice I had to take home and get my parents to sign because I had done something wrong) because on the bus home from school, two other guys and I had broken open a pen, and were using a paper clip to get ink out of it and brush it on the bus' walls, which were carpeted. Someone told the bus driver and we all got in trouble for it. I just joined in, peer pressure or whatever. I was like 11 years old and when my dad came home and I had to ask him and my mum to sign the pink slip, I cried and cried and cried. It was full on sobbing, I was so ashamed and sad hahahaha.
Yes...all the time. My dad was very abusive. He beat me all the time.
One time when I was 8 we had a party and a bunch of my parents' friends came over and they brought their kids. They were all in my room and there was a bunch of them, so the room was a mess at the end of the party. My dad was so enraged at me (it wasn't even my fault, there were like 20 kids there...I can't go running around playing maid the entire party and I was only 8). So he took me into the shower and beat the crap out of me. I had bruises the color of eggplants all over my legs and butt. When he was done he looked so disgusted when he saw what he did. He instantly started begging me not to tell on him and then my mom came crying and also begged me not to tell because he would get in trouble. I literally looked like I got jumped...I could barely sit in school because of the pain. Plus it was in the shower with the water running, so I slipped and had a huge lump on my head. This is only one example. This happened many times...it was like a recurrent nightmare.
Like I'm getting so upset writing this. He loved beating me with belts too, like he would announce he was going to get his belt and the look on his face was like he just won the lottery I even bled on a couple occasions.
Looking back, idk if I regret not telling someone. He's an "okay" dad, and I wouldn't want to start any drama or ruin his life, he just had that problem. He would beat me for every single thing, and sometimes no reason at all. If he had a bad day at work, he found a way to make it look like I was responsible for it. I hated him for it and I shed too many tears over that ****. It wasn't even like I learned my lesson and that was that. I stayed up all night crying. In a sense, he robbed me of my childhood.
All those beatings really messed me up.
I don't think I'll ever "beat" my kids, well at least I really hope so. I'm okay with 2-3 light spanks on the butt in extreme cases, but some people have no self control. I would never want my kids to think of me the way I thought of him while he was beating me. My image of him has forever been ruined.
Oh God I'm so sorry, stay strong
And answer to the OP, not really. I remember getting a slapped on the head and my butt
I didn't really get spanks probably because I was the youngest child and I almost died at birth so my parents were quite soft on me, but my elder siblings got it way worse
Yeah, my dad used to beat me a lot especially with a belt. I was so scared of him and even now I'm scared of him. But I broke up the contact with him like 1 month ago. As for my mum, she is really nice and the opposite of him, but we don't talk since 2 years either.
Whenever Dad smacked me as a child i just retaliated and hit him back. He eventually knew it made situations worst and stopped, and ive still turned out fine regardless.
Yeah, my dad used to beat me a lot especially with a belt. I was so scared of him and even now I'm scared of him. But I broke up the contact with him like 1 month ago. As for my mum, she is really nice and the opposite of him, but we don't talk since 2 years either.
This is what happens to children who are abused by their parents.
Yea, but that stopped around 13.
Since clearly it wasn't helping anything.
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Whenever Dad smacked me as a child i just retaliated and hit him back. He eventually knew it made situations worst and stopped, and ive still turned out fine regardless.
This is what happens to children who are abused by their parents.
It really depends on the situation, some parents go in on their kids. I think physical punishment (a slap on the wrist or the butt) is a nice resort as long as it's not severe and the parent tells their kid why they did that and why the kid deserved it.
But I see some of you are into some new age **** and let me tell you, when a parent doesn't put a stop to their kids because that's "immoral", their kid is more prone to beat and act like a brat.
I even bled on a couple occasions.
