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Discussion: Why are masculine guys
Member Since: 8/7/2010
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Originally posted by Joan
Thank you. This is the comment I was looking for.
As of now I am extremely feminine; I do my hair, paint my nails and do my makeup, no clothes yet but that's coming soon in my blossoming as a true female.
But even before I was this feminine I've had gay guys argue with me and get angry at me for being feminine when I wasn't even talking to them/interested in them. You can also see how much guys don't want to be associated with fems because around me the guys always have "hate fems/ NO FEMS" in capitals on their profiles.
I think it's a deeper issue than just preference to be honest.
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It goes back to patriarchy and this whole deal that feminism is seen as weak and masculinity is seen as strong, all powerful, most heroic, ect.
Feminism is NOT weakness and it is NOT negative. And if a guy wants to break the mold of being this super macho guy, I think that's a lot more brave than following patriarchal norms.
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 5/28/2011
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Originally posted by Harmonic Dreamer
It goes back to patriarchy and this whole deal that feminism is seen as weak and masculinity is seen as strong, all powerful, most heroic, ect.
Feminism is NOT weakness and it is NOT negative. And if a guy wants to break the mold of being this super macho guy, I think that's a lot more brave than following patriarchal norms.
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If anything, the fems are stronger & braver. I mean, they can be themselves and out there as much as they want, but the mascs are all reserved and scared that their masculinity is going to be hurt.
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Member Since: 10/10/2009
Posts: 10,662
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Originally posted by Cyanide
Because they want to date MEN, not females. I would date a guy who has girly tendencies, but not one that weighs 105 pounds, wears female clothing, and acts like a damn QUEEN. Of course I'll be friends with one but if I'm attracted to MEN, I'm sorry that I'm looking for a little bit of masculinity.
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Agree.
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Originally posted by NICKIMINAJ
Their excuse, "If I wanted to date a guy that's acting like a girl, I might as well date a girl."
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Why does it have to be an excuse though?
At the end of the day, not everyone can be attracted to everyone. People have preferences of all sorts (race, culture, height, weight, etc) and this is just another.
I personally have nothing at all against feminine guys. In fact, a few of my friends fit that category, but when it comes to what turns me on in a man, I can't help it that I want a full-out MAN.
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Member Since: 3/3/2012
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Us, bottoms twinks, make half of the gay population.
We need more appreciation.
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Originally posted by Bang Up
Internalized homophobia and misogyny.
A man is a man, no matter his weight, the way he dresses, or how he sounds. I mean, if you're going to block out an entire population of gay men for no reason other than "they're too girly," you're the one with the issues.
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Clock the self-hating gays.
We all learn to that you have to tone down the "gay" and fly under the radar in front of straight people's eye to get "accepted".
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
Posts: 12,955
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How does being gay make you any less of a man? How does being gay make you any less than masculine?
No one is out to get you feminine gays. Some are into you, some are not. It's never that serious.
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by X/O/X/O
If anything, the fems are stronger & braver. I mean, they can be themselves and out there as much as they want, but the mascs are all reserved and scared that their masculinity is going to be hurt.
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The real/cool masc dudes respect fem dudes. Because being "obviously" gay really does put you at a disadvantage when dealing with homophobic people. It takes balls to be fem.
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Member Since: 7/9/2010
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I'm liking some of the posts here.
I might be the only one that is a bit annoyed by this, but it's irritating whenever some ATRLer has an unpopular opinion and mocks others by calling them filthy bottoms, fems, etc.
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Member Since: 8/28/2012
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Originally posted by Harmonic Dreamer
It goes back to patriarchy and this whole deal that feminism is seen as weak and masculinity is seen as strong, all powerful, most heroic, ect.
Feminism is NOT weakness and it is NOT negative. And if a guy wants to break the mold of being this super macho guy, I think that's a lot more brave than following patriarchal norms.
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Uh, my dick doesn't think about that when it gets hard over a masc guy. It's a preference, and that just damn insecure if you get pressed over someone else's sexual preferences. It's as simple as that.
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Member Since: 11/9/2011
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Because we like MEN. It's a preference.. I don't see what the big deal is..
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Member Since: 4/7/2009
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Gay people are ****ed up individuals. Yall have a lot of growing to do as a community.
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Member Since: 11/5/2011
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Because most "masculine" guys who claim to be tops are the first ones to throw their legs back in the bedroom.
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 5/28/2011
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Originally posted by J. YONCÉ
The real/cool masc dudes respect fem dudes. Because being "obviously" gay really does put you at a disadvantage when dealing with homophobic people.
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This is true. I meant the fem-hating types that are generally being discussed.
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Member Since: 3/3/2012
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Originally posted by Bang Up
There's something incredibly ironic about a bunch of gay men on a pop music forum talking about how they don't like feminine gay men.
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I am a man full of testone, if I wanted a chick I would date one.
*bops to If I Were a Boy*
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by Mattyboy
Because we like MEN. It's a preference.. I don't see what the big deal is..
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"MEN" isn't specific tho. A man's a man's a man.
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Member Since: 8/28/2012
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I can be slightly feminine at times but degrees of feminine qualities aren't controlled or "toned down". It's just your personality that YOU'RE comfortable with.
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Member Since: 4/22/2012
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Lord forbide someone have an attraction with being labeled.
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Member Since: 1/11/2011
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It's just a preference. Don't take it personal.
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
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Because that act more feminine that actual females, and sometimes it's too much.
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Member Since: 4/7/2012
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Originally posted by IsidoraMarí
Because of misogyny.
There's a war on feminism, men are trained to hate feminine qualities.
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Member Since: 11/9/2011
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Originally posted by J. YONCÉ
"MEN" isn't specific tho. A man's a man's a man.
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I just get turned on by other guys who call me bro.
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