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Discussion: Straight crush experience?
Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by Blade
I don't know what it's like to crush on someone that ISN'T straight
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Member Since: 8/16/2011
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In high school, I texted my best friend and came out to him one night, cause we used to talk back and forth on the phone till we fell asleep.
At school we'd hang out together and sometimes have lunch in private and just talk about life.
So, like i said, I came out to him one night and told him I like him and he basically told me he was straight and that he valued our friendship and this didn't change anything etc.
Well it did. He went from being staunchly anti-gay (we were from a Republican state) to one of the most gay sensitive straight guys I ever met. At one point he had even done a US Government essay on why gays shouldn't be allowed to marry. But as soon as I came out, he was ready to thrown on his rainbow ally badge.
It was the best thing I never even had to ask for
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Had one on a close high school friend. 4 year long story story short once I finally got over it I told him and he though it was funny
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I'm really glad he at least knows about it now, cause I spent so much time tripping over his dumb ass
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Member Since: 8/16/2011
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Actually 3/5 of my best male friendships started out with me crushing on them
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Member Since: 10/22/2010
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Originally posted by Aurora
Ugh don't even get me started...
I'm in the final stages of getting over him, accepting reality and moving on but woo.
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same and it's hard isn't it. In my head I KNOW that I'm wasting my time and will be over it eventually but at the moment my heart is taking over and it's totally irrational and I know it but can't do anything about it
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Member Since: 3/14/2013
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Originally posted by Sunshine.
In high school, I texted my best friend and came out to him one night, cause we used to talk back and forth on the phone till we fell asleep.
At school we'd hang out together and sometimes have lunch in private and just talk about life.
So, like i said, I came out to him one night and told him I like him and he basically told me he was straight and that he valued our friendship and this didn't change anything etc.
Well it did. He went from being staunchly anti-gay (we were from a Republican state) to one of the most gay sensitive straight guys I ever met. At one point he had even done a US Government essay on why gays shouldn't be allowed to marry. But as soon as I came out, he was ready to thrown on his rainbow ally badge.
It was the best thing I never even had to ask for
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You have an amazing friend.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by Sunshine.
In high school, I texted my best friend and came out to him one night, cause we used to talk back and forth on the phone till we fell asleep.
At school we'd hang out together and sometimes have lunch in private and just talk about life.
So, like i said, I came out to him one night and told him I like him and he basically told me he was straight and that he valued our friendship and this didn't change anything etc.
Well it did. He went from being staunchly anti-gay (we were from a Republican state) to one of the most gay sensitive straight guys I ever met. At one point he had even done a US Government essay on why gays shouldn't be allowed to marry. But as soon as I came out, he was ready to thrown on his rainbow ally badge.
It was the best thing I never even had to ask for
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Aww this is amazing!
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Originally posted by PrettyHurts
Had one on a close high school friend. 4 year long story story short once I finally got over it I told him and he though it was funny
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I'm really glad he at least knows about it now, cause I spent so much time tripping over his dumb ass
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That really is probably the best thing to do. It's great that you were honest. If I were honest with my straight (or straight?) crushes, who knows? Maybe some of them could have liked me back. Or if not, it would make it easier to just get over them. I'm just not that brave though. I would be afraid of ruining the friendship or making things awkward. Plus, I'm not out yet, but that's an issue for another time lol.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by ThugginGrande
Omg sis...I want to give you a hug right now. I definitely know how you feel though. Why does it seem like crushes on straight friends always end in tragedy?
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I almost feel like texting him right now
Also mess at me saying my story was condensed before I typed those long ass paragraphs I had to edit out the word "condensed"
Edit: Also, between all that college mess, when I first dropped out of college we didn't talk for months, but suddenly one day he called me, and it put a smile on my face, then we reconnected . If you still value your friend, there's no problem with just randomly calling and saying "hey." But you might reignite feelings for him, so just be careful if you do.
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Member Since: 4/6/2014
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Ugh my ****ing life is all about unrequited straight guy love.
But recently I've fallen for one of my coworkers who's an absolute gentleman. I usually get over crushes really easily but he's probably the most stand up guy I've ever met in my life. He's extremely kind to everyone, always empathetic and definitely has the best advice whenever I'm running into problems. I haven't told him I was gay but I did ask him for relationship advice for this other guy I was seeing that didn't really work out in the end.
I'm not entirely sure what his deal is, but he's always been single and I don't know why it's hard for him to find a girlfriend because he's really attractive. I guess he has confidence issues in himself or something which is sad, but I don't bother him too much about it. We're pretty close friends and I think I pretty much told him all my insecurities and secrets, other than being gay.
I kind of just want to tell him and get it out of the way but I know it'll make things awkward because sometimes I joke around about how handsome/sexy he is or flirt and I don't want to lose that level of comfortableness around him. Honestly I can see myself marrying him and living our lives together because he's everything I want in a partner and he's the person that I look up to.
I think I have to distance myself from him because he's always on my mind and I know it'll never work out. We can be friends but I don't ever see myself ever being able to gain his affection and it's become detrimental for me in looking for partners that are actually attracted to me. Sometimes I wish people had signs on them that tells me if they're gay or not because I'm at a point where I'm tired of playing games. I don't want hookups or people who end up cheating, I just want a solid guy that I can depend on which is really hard apparently.
But if he's ever drunk and needs assistance I'll be there for him.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Not this thread serving tear jerker
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
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Originally posted by Aurora
Ugh don't even get me started...
I'm in the final stages of getting over him, accepting reality and moving on but woo.
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SAME. I've been listening to Paper Bag by Fiona Apple these past few weeks because I can really relate
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Literally all my crushes were straight... where the gays at?
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Originally posted by OneAndOnly
I almost feel like texting him right now
Also mess at me saying my story was condensed before I typed those long ass paragraphs I had to edit out the word "condensed"
Edit: Also, between all that college mess, when I first dropped out of college we didn't talk for months, but suddenly one day he called me, and it put a smile on my face, then we reconnected . If you still value your friend, there's no problem with just randomly calling and saying "hey." But you might reignite feelings for him, so just be careful if you do.
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Aw, it seems like your friend makes you feel the same way mine made me feel. I really should try to reach out to him. Your idea of a brief text is good. I might even try to start liking his posts on Facebook (he rarely posts though, so that could be a problem). Ugh I just need to man up and tell him I miss him.
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Originally posted by KiiPopHunty
Not this thread serving tear jerker
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Right? I thought everyone would just tell me my novel was too long. I didn't expect so many people to have their own just as tragic experiences. This is too much for my fragile heart.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by jonasha
Ugh my ****ing life is all about unrequited straight guy love.
But recently I've fallen for one of my coworkers who's an absolute gentleman. I usually get over crushes really easily but he's probably the most stand up guy I've ever met in my life. He's extremely kind to everyone, always empathetic and definitely has the best advice whenever I'm running into problems. I haven't told him I was gay but I did ask him for relationship advice for this other guy I was seeing that didn't really work out in the end.
I'm not entirely sure what his deal is, but he's always been single and I don't know why it's hard for him to find a girlfriend because he's really attractive. I guess he has confidence issues in himself or something which is sad, but I don't bother him too much about it. We're pretty close friends and I think I pretty much told him all my insecurities and secrets, other than being gay.
I kind of just want to tell him and get it out of the way but I know it'll make things awkward because sometimes I joke around about how handsome/sexy he is or flirt and I don't want to lose that level of comfortableness around him. Honestly I can see myself marrying him and living our lives together because he's everything I want in a partner and he's the person that I look up to.
I think I have to distance myself from him because he's always on my mind and I know it'll never work out. We can be friends but I don't ever see myself ever being able to gain his affection and it's become detrimental for me in looking for partners that are actually attracted to me. Sometimes I wish people had signs on them that tells me if they're gay or not because I'm at a point where I'm tired of playing games. I don't want hookups or people who end up cheating, I just want a solid guy that I can depend on which is really hard apparently.
But if he's ever drunk and needs assistance I'll be there for him.
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I hate those straight guys that are super attractive but you've never even seen them mess around with a girl or ever heard of them having a gf. Like damn, I'd just on that in a millisecond
And your last paragraph really hits home for me. Word for word.
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Member Since: 4/6/2014
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Originally posted by britkneepopboi
Literally all my crushes were straight... where the gays at?
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There was a gay guy that I had a crush on in College but he was just really rude to people and didn't even give me the time of day.
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
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OP, are you gay or garl?
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Member Since: 4/6/2014
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Quote:
Originally posted by Blade
I hate those straight guys that are super attractive but you've never even seen them mess around with a girl or ever heard of them having a gf. Like damn, I'd just on that in a millisecond
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Omg, it hurts me because sometimes he tells me that he feels really lonely and wants a girlfriend to cuddle with. I would cuddle with him so hard but he's not into that.
The pains of being a gay.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Quote:
Originally posted by jonasha
Ugh my ****ing life is all about unrequited straight guy love.
But recently I've fallen for one of my coworkers who's an absolute gentleman. I usually get over crushes really easily but he's probably the most stand up guy I've ever met in my life. He's extremely kind to everyone, always empathetic and definitely has the best advice whenever I'm running into problems. I haven't told him I was gay but I did ask him for relationship advice for this other guy I was seeing that didn't really work out in the end.
I'm not entirely sure what his deal is, but he's always been single and I don't know why it's hard for him to find a girlfriend because he's really attractive. I guess he has confidence issues in himself or something which is sad, but I don't bother him too much about it. We're pretty close friends and I think I pretty much told him all my insecurities and secrets, other than being gay.
I kind of just want to tell him and get it out of the way but I know it'll make things awkward because sometimes I joke around about how handsome/sexy he is or flirt and I don't want to lose that level of comfortableness around him. Honestly I can see myself marrying him and living our lives together because he's everything I want in a partner and he's the person that I look up to.
I think I have to distance myself from him because he's always on my mind and I know it'll never work out. We can be friends but I don't ever see myself ever being able to gain his affection and it's become detrimental for me in looking for partners that are actually attracted to me. Sometimes I wish people had signs on them that tells me if they're gay or not because I'm at a point where I'm tired of playing games. I don't want hookups or people who end up cheating, I just want a solid guy that I can depend on which is really hard apparently.
But if he's ever drunk and needs assistance I'll be there for him.
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YES and YES
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by ThugginGrande
That really is probably the best thing to do. It's great that you were honest. If I were honest with my straight (or straight?) crushes, who knows? Maybe some of them could have liked me back. Or if not, it would make it easier to just get over them. I'm just not that brave though. I would be afraid of ruining the friendship or making things awkward. Plus, I'm not out yet, but that's an issue for another time lol.
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To be more specific, my feelings for him were kind of eating me alive and I just kept wondering if I missed my shot at being with him, so I just decided to tell him (this was also my way of coming out to him) even though he didn't have a bad reaction to it....it wasn't good either. We laughed about it and stuff and he was supportive but not very mature...I was just expecting more out of him...he kinda didn't really tell me how he felt about it which was weird......It made me realize that maybe he wasn't as perfect as I thought he was...then I started looking back at the years and realized that he kinda was never worth it anyway and my feelings just got out of hand..
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by Bie
OP, are you gay or garl?
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I'm a gay guy
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