[D.Va]

Originally posted by BILLIONAIRE✘BOY

Oh boy, prepare to cry

Jk but we cant really go in depth about this on here but what I will say is just go slow and be careful!
You can really hurt yourself if you take things too fast

Actually, your post makes me even more scared
Like I've never seen a good comment about losing your virginity as a bottom. Everyone is saying that it hurts, it's not enjoyable and boring I even read someone talking about HOW he s**** by accident on his partner...

[Planet Mars]

Well, I guess it's back to this thread again. Let's see.

So the guy I talked about earlier who was in a class of mine NEVER showed up again, he was there once and left. Like WTF?!? I was expecting him at first but I stopped giving a ****. I started having feelings for this one girl in the class who I'm sure had feeling for me too. We would kinda flirt and stuff and the last day she basically begged me to ride the elevator with her and I did but that was it really. She's cute but not really my type.

In my school the Hot people aren't that many imo, my last school had SO many hot people, over here there are alot of hot black guys but that's literally it as far as guys are concerned

I kinda want to be in a relationship again, I've been in one's with girls but I'd like to try other things too. It's confusing but right now I guess I'm just focused on getting these exams done and going back home for break. My head has been in the books this whole week and BIO is literally killing me

That's it really lol

[BILLIONAIRE✘BOY]

Originally posted by Choppy "上帝與你常在"

Actually, your post makes me even more scared
Like I've never seen a good comment about losing your virginity as a bottom. Everyone is saying that it hurts, it's not enjoyable and boring I even read someone talking about HOW he s**** by accident on his partner...

Well like unless youve already been practicing its gonna not be as enjoyable as it could be. But I mean thats only that part of it. I'm sure you guys can find other things to do if that part doesnt really work out

Originally posted by Planet Mars

Well, I guess it's back to this thread again. Let's see.

So the guy I talked about earlier who was in a class of mine NEVER showed up again, he was there once and left. Like WTF?!? I was expecting him at first but I stopped giving a ****. I started having feelings for this one girl in the class who I'm sure had feeling for me too. We would kinda flirt and stuff and the last day she basically begged me to ride the elevator with her and I did but that was it really. She's cute but not really my type.

In my school the Hot people aren't that many imo, my last school had SO many hot people, over here there are alot of hot black guys but that's literally it as far as guys are concerned

I kinda want to be in a relationship again, I've been in one's with girls but I'd like to try other things too. It's confusing but right now I guess I'm just focused on getting these exams done and going back home for break. My head has been in the books this whole week and BIO is literally killing me

That's it really lol

Maybe you can find a summer boo back at home?
Are you out to your family?

[mxtthewdelrey]

idk why I haven't posted in here before when I have the messiest love life in the world

So I've spoken to this guy for like two years on and off now. He messaged me on Instagram a couple of years ago and said hi and stuff and told me that he lives like 20 minutes away from where I live, and when he first messaged me he told me he was bicurious. His sexuality was always very confusing to me because he always would say he was 100% straight but bicurious. We got talking a lot and we met and I started getting really really close to him up to the point where I had really fallen for him, but he would often remind me that he was completely straight, only curious, and he would never be interested in a relationship with me.

I felt hurt because I felt like he lead me on and I wasn't getting anything out of it in the end, when I'd spent months talking to him. He would barely ever meet me because he didn't want to be seen out in public with me. It was up to the point where I was started to get angry at him because he told me he loved me all the time and he clearly found me attractive, but I wanted more than what he was giving me. His sexuality continued to confuse me and he still said that he was straight to me.

So I just ended up getting tired of it, and I ended up getting really clingy about it and we parted on really bad terms and didn't speak for like a year or so, but I continued to try and message him and he wouldn't reply to me until about a year later. When we started talking again, he still insisted that he was 100% straight and that I wasn't gonna get anything out of it, and it was really dumb of me but I started talking to him again even though he hurt me a lot last time.

In that year, he had gotten very mean and he would often taunt me a lot and make fun of me because he thought it was very funny, even though he said he never meant any of it. It wasn't long before I was getting close to him again and his feelings were reciprocated. One day when I was with him, he told me that he did actually want to be with me. It meant everything to me. He said he wasn't going to go back on it now that he had told me, but then the next day, he went back on his word and said he didn't feel the same way anymore.

We stayed close and we loved each other a lot. He still told me that he wasn't sure whether anything would happen properly between us, but I started to get tired of it again, and then surprisingly, one day he told me that we could make it official, but only if I continued to keep it a secret between us (I wasn't allowed to tell anyone anything). I don't know whether he did this because he felt guilty or something, but I found out shortly after that he had been cheating on me. I was completely heartbroken and I split up with him.

He spent ages trying to contact me, and it felt good to know that he truly cared about me, and I slowly let him start talking to me again because I still loved him a lot. We agreed that it wasn't best for us to continue on like this because he said I deserved to have a public relationship with someone like I wanted with him. I hate myself because I wasted so much time and didn't end up getting anything out of it, and I miss him so much. I really feel like I want to talk to him at the moment so I kind of just need someone to assure me whether I've made the right decision.

We both loved each other and sometimes that felt like enough for me, but he still said he was completely straight and it was just a massive dilemma that I still haven't made my mind up about yet.

[LaNathan]

Originally posted by BILLIONAIRE✘BOY

Omg what?!?! What a dick

See I can't deal with **** like this, how do people just randomly do a 180 like that

I hate guys

Originally posted by Jackson

This sounds EXACTLY like the guy I was dating about a month ago. You're doing the right thing saying no, and it will make you feel more powerful and will give you closure. But what a dick, I hate when people that get their hearts broken go out and try to break someone else's heart

He actually got into contact with me again 3 days ago.
He asked if I would give him another chance. I entertained the idea and asked if he was actually ready to move on to a new guy. His response was "I mean yeah I think I am, but I do plan on going back to my ex by the time I'm 30. I really think I'll marry him one day. I love him too much". That made me cackle so I told him I'm good and to enjoy getting his heart broken again.

[DevonDreams]

[eli's_rhythm]

Originally posted by mxtthewdelrey

He spent ages trying to contact me, and it felt good to know that he truly cared about me, and I slowly let him start talking to me again because I still loved him a lot. We agreed that it wasn't best for us to continue on like this because he said I deserved to have a public relationship with someone like I wanted with him. I hate myself because I wasted so much time and didn't end up getting anything out of it, and I miss him so much. I really feel like I want to talk to him at the moment so I kind of just need someone to assure me whether I've made the right decision.

You have. You need to stay away from him because all it will bring you is hurt. The best decision I ever made in love was to detach and disempower the person who I thought had a hold on me after a rocky, fleeting puppy love. You'll find someone to actually share some life with, and someone who actually lifts you up, eventually.

[BILLIONAIRE✘BOY]

Originally posted by LaNathan

He actually got into contact with me again 3 days ago.
He asked if I would give him another chance. I entertained the idea and asked if he was actually ready to move on to a new guy. His response was "I mean yeah I think I am, but I do plan on going back to my ex by the time I'm 30. I really think I'll marry him one day. I love him too much". That made me cackle so I told him I'm good and to enjoy getting his heart broken again.

What the hell ... he's planning to marry him ?? What even

Originally posted by mxtthewdelrey

idk why I haven't posted in here before when I have the messiest love life in the world

So I've spoken to this guy for like two years on and off now. He messaged me on Instagram a couple of years ago and said hi and stuff and told me that he lives like 20 minutes away from where I live, and when he first messaged me he told me he was bicurious. His sexuality was always very confusing to me because he always would say he was 100% straight but bicurious. We got talking a lot and we met and I started getting really really close to him up to the point where I had really fallen for him, but he would often remind me that he was completely straight, only curious, and he would never be interested in a relationship with me.

I felt hurt because I felt like he lead me on and I wasn't getting anything out of it in the end, when I'd spent months talking to him. He would barely ever meet me because he didn't want to be seen out in public with me. It was up to the point where I was started to get angry at him because he told me he loved me all the time and he clearly found me attractive, but I wanted more than what he was giving me. His sexuality continued to confuse me and he still said that he was straight to me.

So I just ended up getting tired of it, and I ended up getting really clingy about it and we parted on really bad terms and didn't speak for like a year or so, but I continued to try and message him and he wouldn't reply to me until about a year later. When we started talking again, he still insisted that he was 100% straight and that I wasn't gonna get anything out of it, and it was really dumb of me but I started talking to him again even though he hurt me a lot last time.

In that year, he had gotten very mean and he would often taunt me a lot and make fun of me because he thought it was very funny, even though he said he never meant any of it. It wasn't long before I was getting close to him again and his feelings were reciprocated. One day when I was with him, he told me that he did actually want to be with me. It meant everything to me. He said he wasn't going to go back on it now that he had told me, but then the next day, he went back on his word and said he didn't feel the same way anymore.

We stayed close and we loved each other a lot. He still told me that he wasn't sure whether anything would happen properly between us, but I started to get tired of it again, and then surprisingly, one day he told me that we could make it official, but only if I continued to keep it a secret between us (I wasn't allowed to tell anyone anything). I don't know whether he did this because he felt guilty or something, but I found out shortly after that he had been cheating on me. I was completely heartbroken and I split up with him.

He spent ages trying to contact me, and it felt good to know that he truly cared about me, and I slowly let him start talking to me again because I still loved him a lot. We agreed that it wasn't best for us to continue on like this because he said I deserved to have a public relationship with someone like I wanted with him. I hate myself because I wasted so much time and didn't end up getting anything out of it, and I miss him so much. I really feel like I want to talk to him at the moment so I kind of just need someone to assure me whether I've made the right decision.

We both loved each other and sometimes that felt like enough for me, but he still said he was completely straight and it was just a massive dilemma that I still haven't made my mind up about yet.

Omg he cheated on you? Ugh.. what a dick. Idk why so many guys are so afraid to embrace their own feelings. They are literally terrified of looking a certain way, its sad really.

[BYoncé]

Hi y'all, first time poster here, but the wildest thing happened to me and I felt the need to share. Okay so I'm in Boy Scouts, and back when I first joined there was another guy that joined about 2 years older than me. Let's call him C, well after a year or two (I started scouts when I was 10) I realized I was gay, and more importantly that I had a huge crush on C. I had the most embarrassing crush on him, I'd constantly message him on Facebook, it was bad

Well two years after I got my crush on him (I was 14), he left scouts and ended up going to rehab up in like Colorado for a year and then went to boarding school, it was a pretty messed up situation, but I got over him. After he came back he didn't re-join scouts and moved on to college, but we kept in pretty okay contact. Over the last three or so years, we talked fairly frequently, etc. but I haven't actually seen him since close to when he came back, in 2013. Well a few days ago, he was posting some pretty depressed sounding stuff on his Snapchat Story, and whenever he's kinda done stuff like that I've peeked my head in and made sure he was okay, just trying to be a good friend type of stuff and to be there for him. It kinda helps that I'm the only one from our scout troop that really keeps in contact with him (even though he was better friends with my other friends than me when he left).

So I message him on SC, and C tells me "me and my girlfriend broke up, don't worry I am okay, staying with family" that kinda stuff, and then after I made sure he was okay he messaged me again about an hour or so later. This time he opened by saying that I was "such a real friend it made me a little teary eyed" and he included a heart emoji Right after, he told me that he'd only told a few people, but he's "going to explore" and that he doesn't know what he is but he knows he likes guys

I didn't outright be like "I wanna date you so bad omg" obviously because he just broke up so I wanna give him space to heal but oh my god I had a heart attack when I read that. He said he think's it's always been there (liking guys) but that he just figured it out in the last year, and I did mention that I had a crush on him back in the day and he said he was honored, and we basically told each other we're glad we're still friends and we can come to each other if we ever need to talk. But holy **** did reading that he likes guys give me a heartattack

I was so head over heels for C that I think this has brought back some residual feelings, and it really sucks because on top of this, right now I'm currently in a relationship and things had been strained (before I ever even talked to C). So now I'm just right back to imagining "What if I have a chance with C" even more as an excuse to end my relationship which has been on the rocks Obviously I can't justify this as a reason to break up with my BF because I do care about him, and C isn't even dating for a while because him and his ex were pretty serious, so I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place, plus I don't even know IF i was single if C would wanna go on a date with me .

Sorry that was so long I just had to vent it somewhere

[Jackson]

^ wow that story was giving me all kinds of emotions. I mean if you weren't in a relationship I'd say go for it, but if you're even considering how things would be if you were single are you really happy in that relationship? But that's a really amazing story

[King Maxx]

Originally posted by BYoncé

Hi y'all, first time poster here, but the wildest thing happened to me and I felt the need to share. Okay so I'm in Boy Scouts, and back when I first joined there was another guy that joined about 2 years older than me. Let's call him C, well after a year or two (I started scouts when I was 10) I realized I was gay, and more importantly that I had a huge crush on C. I had the most embarrassing crush on him, I'd constantly message him on Facebook, it was bad

Well two years after I got my crush on him (I was 14), he left scouts and ended up going to rehab up in like Colorado for a year and then went to boarding school, it was a pretty messed up situation, but I got over him. After he came back he didn't re-join scouts and moved on to college, but we kept in pretty okay contact. Over the last three or so years, we talked fairly frequently, etc. but I haven't actually seen him since close to when he came back, in 2013. Well a few days ago, he was posting some pretty depressed sounding stuff on his Snapchat Story, and whenever he's kinda done stuff like that I've peeked my head in and made sure he was okay, just trying to be a good friend type of stuff and to be there for him. It kinda helps that I'm the only one from our scout troop that really keeps in contact with him (even though he was better friends with my other friends than me when he left).

So I message him on SC, and C tells me "me and my girlfriend broke up, don't worry I am okay, staying with family" that kinda stuff, and then after I made sure he was okay he messaged me again about an hour or so later. This time he opened by saying that I was "such a real friend it made me a little teary eyed" and he included a heart emoji Right after, he told me that he'd only told a few people, but he's "going to explore" and that he doesn't know what he is but he knows he likes guys

I didn't outright be like "I wanna date you so bad omg" obviously because he just broke up so I wanna give him space to heal but oh my god I had a heart attack when I read that. He said he think's it's always been there (liking guys) but that he just figured it out in the last year, and I did mention that I had a crush on him back in the day and he said he was honored, and we basically told each other we're glad we're still friends and we can come to each other if we ever need to talk. But holy **** did reading that he likes guys give me a heartattack

I was so head over heels for C that I think this has brought back some residual feelings, and it really sucks because on top of this, right now I'm currently in a relationship and things had been strained (before I ever even talked to C). So now I'm just right back to imagining "What if I have a chance with C" even more as an excuse to end my relationship which has been on the rocks Obviously I can't justify this as a reason to break up with my BF because I do care about him, and C isn't even dating for a while because him and his ex were pretty serious, so I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place, plus I don't even know IF i was single if C would wanna go on a date with me .

Sorry that was so long I just had to vent it somewhere

Oh wow. This is cute yet heartbreaking at the same time. I would just wait a little while longer to see where C is at emotionally, and see where your current relationship is headed.

[Luminary]

Wow, it's been so long I've been on here, but I could use some outsider's advice. This is gonna be looong.

So there's this freshman at my uni, who kinda got my interest. We have a really small campus, so after a while, you just recognize some faces and I had seen him a few times but didn't really think much of him at the beginning.

(sidenote: I know he's gay but I'm more somewhere in between asexual and gay, like I really don't care about sex, I'm rarely really attracted to someone and even if I am, I have barely any sexual attraction but it's more on a romantic level. This is also making me somewhat insecure cause I always dread those convos since people can be really judgmental about that stuff. I once went on a date with this guy, who I didn't even like, but he kept on insisting so I was okay fine. I tried to explain this to him and he literally told me I was just scared and should let it go and that he would totally "convert" me. Never saw his stupid ass again But okay I'm derailing.)

So I noticed him a few times at school, but not really interested or anything like that. However, then I saw him at a party once and we have a couple of mutual friends, so we were standing pretty close for quite some time and I started noticing he was actually kinda cute. So a few weeks pass, we eventually started following each other on IG, became friends on FB and just from stalking his profiles I felt like we really had some common interests and we enjoy the same stuff. So by now, you could say I pretty much had a crush on him.

Now, as I said I'm not easily interested in people and I rarely crush on someone. I've maybe had 2 crushes like him my entire life. This is also kind of problematic, cause once I do develop a crush I really have the feeling they must be my soulmate or something At first I wasn't really sure if I just thought he was cute or if I really was attracted to him, so I decided to ask one of our mutual friends (whom I'm pretty close with) what she thought and she was super enthusiastic: "he's funny, you're funny, he's cute, you're cute,... perfect match and such, go have some drinks, will be fun." so I was pretty excited and decided to just send him a message and ask him out, cause why not.

All went well, he was super friendly and told me he would let me know when he's free. The next day, we were actually both at the same party and at first I was a bit nervous but when I finally got the courage to talk to him, it was great. Afterwards, we almost spent the entire party together, I had a lot of fun and I had the impression he did too. We exchanged numbers when we left and started texting, but then it all kinda changed He took hours to reply to my texts and almost always very short answers so I was kinda bummed and it didn't take long for the convo to die. He went silent for days and didn't contact me anymore about our "date" so I was getting salty af and since we have finals coming up in two weeks, I just sent him via FB that we might best reschedule somewhere after our finals (with the idea of it never happening of course). He said that it was indeed a better idea and we started casually messaging back and forth on FB again, but once again it started to take hours to get a reply and he actually waited 2 days to reply to my last message and I was just done I was like okay let me not respond for now, eventually I did tho. And all of a sudden, he immediately replies and I see him actually trying to engage a convo, really asking questions and ****. So I'm like should I answer, should I not, eventually I do and we actually had a decent conversation and for the first time since that party, I really had the feeling he was like genuinely interested in me. That's where we are at right now. I saw him at school yesterday, but I was kinda in a rush so I was like "hey, bye" I do regret not taking the time to talk to him tho.

So yeah, now I'm actually feeling like having that date after all. But I just don't know, help me. I really can't get my head wrapped around it, he's so weird. Or am I reading too much into this? Maybe he just has a really busy personal life or idk, but I do sometimes have the feeling he's just not really interested so maybe best to let him go? Or should I just straight up ask him? Pfff this is why I'm quite happy that I'm usually not interested in guys but when I do it hits me ten times harder or something

[DevonDreams]

wasting all that beauty on some old ass guy

[BILLIONAIRE✘BOY]

Originally posted by Luminary

Wow, it's been so long I've been on here, but I could use some outsider's advice. This is gonna be looong.

So there's this freshman at my uni, who kinda got my interest. We have a really small campus, so after a while, you just recognize some faces and I had seen him a few times but didn't really think much of him at the beginning.

(sidenote: I know he's gay but I'm more somewhere in between asexual and gay, like I really don't care about sex, I'm rarely really attracted to someone and even if I am, I have barely any sexual attraction but it's more on a romantic level. This is also making me somewhat insecure cause I always dread those convos since people can be really judgmental about that stuff. I once went on a date with this guy, who I didn't even like, but he kept on insisting so I was okay fine. I tried to explain this to him and he literally told me I was just scared and should let it go and that he would totally "convert" me. Never saw his stupid ass again But okay I'm derailing.)

So I noticed him a few times at school, but not really interested or anything like that. However, then I saw him at a party once and we have a couple of mutual friends, so we were standing pretty close for quite some time and I started noticing he was actually kinda cute. So a few weeks pass, we eventually started following each other on IG, became friends on FB and just from stalking his profiles I felt like we really had some common interests and we enjoy the same stuff. So by now, you could say I pretty much had a crush on him.

Now, as I said I'm not easily interested in people and I rarely crush on someone. I've maybe had 2 crushes like him my entire life. This is also kind of problematic, cause once I do develop a crush I really have the feeling they must be my soulmate or something At first I wasn't really sure if I just thought he was cute or if I really was attracted to him, so I decided to ask one of our mutual friends (whom I'm pretty close with) what she thought and she was super enthusiastic: "he's funny, you're funny, he's cute, you're cute,... perfect match and such, go have some drinks, will be fun." so I was pretty excited and decided to just send him a message and ask him out, cause why not.

All went well, he was super friendly and told me he would let me know when he's free. The next day, we were actually both at the same party and at first I was a bit nervous but when I finally got the courage to talk to him, it was great. Afterwards, we almost spent the entire party together, I had a lot of fun and I had the impression he did too. We exchanged numbers when we left and started texting, but then it all kinda changed He took hours to reply to my texts and almost always very short answers so I was kinda bummed and it didn't take long for the convo to die. He went silent for days and didn't contact me anymore about our "date" so I was getting salty af and since we have finals coming up in two weeks, I just sent him via FB that we might best reschedule somewhere after our finals (with the idea of it never happening of course). He said that it was indeed a better idea and we started casually messaging back and forth on FB again, but once again it started to take hours to get a reply and he actually waited 2 days to reply to my last message and I was just done I was like okay let me not respond for now, eventually I did tho. And all of a sudden, he immediately replies and I see him actually trying to engage a convo, really asking questions and ****. So I'm like should I answer, should I not, eventually I do and we actually had a decent conversation and for the first time since that party, I really had the feeling he was like genuinely interested in me. That's where we are at right now. I saw him at school yesterday, but I was kinda in a rush so I was like "hey, bye" I do regret not taking the time to talk to him tho.

So yeah, now I'm actually feeling like having that date after all. But I just don't know, help me. I really can't get my head wrapped around it, he's so weird. Or am I reading too much into this? Maybe he just has a really busy personal life or idk, but I do sometimes have the feeling he's just not really interested so maybe best to let him go? Or should I just straight up ask him? Pfff this is why I'm quite happy that I'm usually not interested in guys but when I do it hits me ten times harder or something

I've gone through the same and eventually I just came to the conclusion that if they really want to talk to me they can contact me if they need to but don't expect me to just wait around for you to message me back However I say give it like another try but just let him now that its weird that he just goes cold out of nowhere

[Quiqui4eva]

Originally posted by DevonDreams

wasting all that beauty on some old ass guy

Who is that? How is it even possible to have an ass that big

[BILLIONAIRE✘BOY]

^mess

[Black Umbrella]

Originally posted by DevonDreams

wasting all that beauty on some old ass guy

Damn

Originally posted by Luminary

Wow, it's been so long I've been on here, but I could use some outsider's advice. This is gonna be looong.

So there's this freshman at my uni, who kinda got my interest. We have a really small campus, so after a while, you just recognize some faces and I had seen him a few times but didn't really think much of him at the beginning.

(sidenote: I know he's gay but I'm more somewhere in between asexual and gay, like I really don't care about sex, I'm rarely really attracted to someone and even if I am, I have barely any sexual attraction but it's more on a romantic level. This is also making me somewhat insecure cause I always dread those convos since people can be really judgmental about that stuff. I once went on a date with this guy, who I didn't even like, but he kept on insisting so I was okay fine. I tried to explain this to him and he literally told me I was just scared and should let it go and that he would totally "convert" me. Never saw his stupid ass again But okay I'm derailing.)

So I noticed him a few times at school, but not really interested or anything like that. However, then I saw him at a party once and we have a couple of mutual friends, so we were standing pretty close for quite some time and I started noticing he was actually kinda cute. So a few weeks pass, we eventually started following each other on IG, became friends on FB and just from stalking his profiles I felt like we really had some common interests and we enjoy the same stuff. So by now, you could say I pretty much had a crush on him.

Now, as I said I'm not easily interested in people and I rarely crush on someone. I've maybe had 2 crushes like him my entire life. This is also kind of problematic, cause once I do develop a crush I really have the feeling they must be my soulmate or something At first I wasn't really sure if I just thought he was cute or if I really was attracted to him, so I decided to ask one of our mutual friends (whom I'm pretty close with) what she thought and she was super enthusiastic: "he's funny, you're funny, he's cute, you're cute,... perfect match and such, go have some drinks, will be fun." so I was pretty excited and decided to just send him a message and ask him out, cause why not.

All went well, he was super friendly and told me he would let me know when he's free. The next day, we were actually both at the same party and at first I was a bit nervous but when I finally got the courage to talk to him, it was great. Afterwards, we almost spent the entire party together, I had a lot of fun and I had the impression he did too. We exchanged numbers when we left and started texting, but then it all kinda changed He took hours to reply to my texts and almost always very short answers so I was kinda bummed and it didn't take long for the convo to die. He went silent for days and didn't contact me anymore about our "date" so I was getting salty af and since we have finals coming up in two weeks, I just sent him via FB that we might best reschedule somewhere after our finals (with the idea of it never happening of course). He said that it was indeed a better idea and we started casually messaging back and forth on FB again, but once again it started to take hours to get a reply and he actually waited 2 days to reply to my last message and I was just done I was like okay let me not respond for now, eventually I did tho. And all of a sudden, he immediately replies and I see him actually trying to engage a convo, really asking questions and ****. So I'm like should I answer, should I not, eventually I do and we actually had a decent conversation and for the first time since that party, I really had the feeling he was like genuinely interested in me. That's where we are at right now. I saw him at school yesterday, but I was kinda in a rush so I was like "hey, bye" I do regret not taking the time to talk to him tho.

So yeah, now I'm actually feeling like having that date after all. But I just don't know, help me. I really can't get my head wrapped around it, he's so weird. Or am I reading too much into this? Maybe he just has a really busy personal life or idk, but I do sometimes have the feeling he's just not really interested so maybe best to let him go? Or should I just straight up ask him? Pfff this is why I'm quite happy that I'm usually not interested in guys but when I do it hits me ten times harder or something

imo the best relationships comes after friendship, after that point where two people knows fair enough about each other, cares for each other to some point and share interest in a fair amount of things. So I'd say you start getting friendly with him with no thoughts or expectations of a relationship, if you guys actually get along and both have interest in each other, you'll eventually go out together and see what comes out of it.

This is just my humble opinion tho.

[Luminary]

Originally posted by BILLIONAIRE✘BOY

I've gone through the same and eventually I just came to the conclusion that if they really want to talk to me they can contact me if they need to but don't expect me to just wait around for you to message me back However I say give it like another try but just let him now that its weird that he just goes cold out of nowhere

Originally posted by Black Umbrella

imo the best relationships comes after friendship, after that point where two people knows fair enough about each other, cares for each other to some point and share interest in a fair amount of things. So I'd say you start getting friendly with him with no thoughts or expectations of a relationship, if you guys actually get along and both have interest in each other, you'll eventually go out together and see what comes out of it.

This is just my humble opinion tho.

Thank you so much, this actually kinda opened my eyes a bit. Imma just try to let it go its course.

[BILLIONAIRE✘BOY]

Originally posted by Luminary

Thank you so much, this actually kinda opened my eyes a bit. Imma just try to let it go its course.

No problem
There are people now that wish they could be in my life but when they had the chance they messed it up tbh. Life ALWAYS goes on so eventually so did I. Life is way to short for me to be in a ****** mood because someone isnt messaging me back. **** that.

[Goaty]

Originally posted by Luminary

Wow, it's been so long I've been on here, but I could use some outsider's advice. This is gonna be looong.

So there's this freshman at my uni, who kinda got my interest. We have a really small campus, so after a while, you just recognize some faces and I had seen him a few times but didn't really think much of him at the beginning.

(sidenote: I know he's gay but I'm more somewhere in between asexual and gay, like I really don't care about sex, I'm rarely really attracted to someone and even if I am, I have barely any sexual attraction but it's more on a romantic level. This is also making me somewhat insecure cause I always dread those convos since people can be really judgmental about that stuff. I once went on a date with this guy, who I didn't even like, but he kept on insisting so I was okay fine. I tried to explain this to him and he literally told me I was just scared and should let it go and that he would totally "convert" me. Never saw his stupid ass again But okay I'm derailing.)

So I noticed him a few times at school, but not really interested or anything like that. However, then I saw him at a party once and we have a couple of mutual friends, so we were standing pretty close for quite some time and I started noticing he was actually kinda cute. So a few weeks pass, we eventually started following each other on IG, became friends on FB and just from stalking his profiles I felt like we really had some common interests and we enjoy the same stuff. So by now, you could say I pretty much had a crush on him.

Now, as I said I'm not easily interested in people and I rarely crush on someone. I've maybe had 2 crushes like him my entire life. This is also kind of problematic, cause once I do develop a crush I really have the feeling they must be my soulmate or something At first I wasn't really sure if I just thought he was cute or if I really was attracted to him, so I decided to ask one of our mutual friends (whom I'm pretty close with) what she thought and she was super enthusiastic: "he's funny, you're funny, he's cute, you're cute,... perfect match and such, go have some drinks, will be fun." so I was pretty excited and decided to just send him a message and ask him out, cause why not.

All went well, he was super friendly and told me he would let me know when he's free. The next day, we were actually both at the same party and at first I was a bit nervous but when I finally got the courage to talk to him, it was great. Afterwards, we almost spent the entire party together, I had a lot of fun and I had the impression he did too. We exchanged numbers when we left and started texting, but then it all kinda changed He took hours to reply to my texts and almost always very short answers so I was kinda bummed and it didn't take long for the convo to die. He went silent for days and didn't contact me anymore about our "date" so I was getting salty af and since we have finals coming up in two weeks, I just sent him via FB that we might best reschedule somewhere after our finals (with the idea of it never happening of course). He said that it was indeed a better idea and we started casually messaging back and forth on FB again, but once again it started to take hours to get a reply and he actually waited 2 days to reply to my last message and I was just done I was like okay let me not respond for now, eventually I did tho. And all of a sudden, he immediately replies and I see him actually trying to engage a convo, really asking questions and ****. So I'm like should I answer, should I not, eventually I do and we actually had a decent conversation and for the first time since that party, I really had the feeling he was like genuinely interested in me. That's where we are at right now. I saw him at school yesterday, but I was kinda in a rush so I was like "hey, bye" I do regret not taking the time to talk to him tho.

So yeah, now I'm actually feeling like having that date after all. But I just don't know, help me. I really can't get my head wrapped around it, he's so weird. Or am I reading too much into this? Maybe he just has a really busy personal life or idk, but I do sometimes have the feeling he's just not really interested so maybe best to let him go? Or should I just straight up ask him? Pfff this is why I'm quite happy that I'm usually not interested in guys but when I do it hits me ten times harder or something

Try not to read too much into it. His behavior may reflect a genuine lack of interest, or there could be a variety of different valid reasons that explain his poor response time. If you ditch the idea of seeing him now you may be missing an opportunity to connect with someone you really like -- which by your own admission is quite rare.

I'm the type of person who is terrible about responding to messages, and it's usually not because I'm apathetic about continuing the conversation. I just get distracted or tell myself I'll respond to it later or try to think of something significant to say and then end up forgetting about it all together. He could be like that.

The end of the semester is always a really tricky time to make plans with people because it can turn very busy and stressful on the turn of a dime. If it's several weeks into the summer and you're still not seeing improved effort on his part -- I say walk away.