[Adonis]

Originally posted by AvrilLaQueen

because once your parents accept your homosexuality (hopefully) they will stop with their prejustice of gay people.

everything changes once people meet a person who is openly gay!

That's not necessarily true. Many families have rejected gays who've come out. I say just be yourself. That means talking about crushes and boyfriends like you would normally talk to your family about other things. Include and educate. This gives them time to evolve on the idea that you might be gay and come around and realize they love you regardless of who you have a romantic relationship with. Many gay people haven't even given their families a chance to really know them or be included in their lives fully. Again include and educate. That doesn't need a "coming out". You can be out without the drama.

[getback]

I can't @ some of you dummies say coming out is not a big deal
maybe you're so lucky that your family is accepting, you can support yourself blah blah blah
others people are not that lucky MANY PEOPLE ARE STILL BEING DISOWNED BY THEIR FAMILY FOR BEING GAY. EVERY YEAR THERE ARE KIDS WHO COMMITTED SUICIDE BECAUSE EVEN THEIR FAMILY CAN'T ACCEPT THEM. So yes, coming out is a ****ING BIG DEAL

[getback]

Originally posted by Adonis

That's not necessarily true. Many families have rejected gays who've come out. I say just be yourself. That means talking about crushes and boyfriends like you would normally talk to your family about other things. Include and educate. This gives them time to evolve on the idea that you might be gay and come around and realize they love you regardless of who you have a romantic relationship with. Many gay people haven't even given their families a chance to really know them or be included in their lives fully. Again include and educate. That doesn't need a "coming out". You can be out without the drama.

WOW, SUCH AN EASY LIFE YOU SAY.
I literally have a ****ing huge Lady Gaga poster in my room and my mom still tries to talk about girlfriends and shows her disgust to gay people
If you don't know their stories, then don't talk like you know ****
Based on your past opinions on many subjects I don't expect anything better from you tho

[Antonini]

Coming out wasnt a big deal for me really. It was more a "We knew" type of deal. My parents were kinda disappointed tho. But eh. they're over it. I dont really disclose much about my homo lifestyle to them. :/

[Musickid203]

My brother and one of my friends knew. The other didn't care.

[Stitches.]

I've been always scared to come out but then I was forced to came out because of rumors last year, so I've got to tell to my parents. They said they always knew ( ) and told me that they'd still support me no matter what. So it was pretty normal but you should tell to your parents or relatives when you feel one hundred porcent confident with yourself, if they're really harsh with this, I think you should tell when you have money enough to take care of yourself.

[Guernica]

IDK if I'll come out to my parents. My family is not close at all. My one brother who has moved out only comes round like once every 4 months even though he lives in the same town still I can see myself being the same way. It's sad, but not all families are meant to stay together I guess. What makes it even trickier is my other brother is gay, and so IDK how my mom in particular would react to having another queer child. It feels kinda weird when I think about it. I'm not too stressed though, I can imagine myself moving to another place and having such limited contact with my parents that they won't know anything about my life at that point. It is what it is. If we're not going to be a major part of each others lives in the future, what is even the point of talking about it. Just unnecessary emotions

[Vertigo Stick]

Originally posted by Adonis

That's not necessarily true. Many families have rejected gays who've come out. I say just be yourself. That means talking about crushes and boyfriends like you would normally talk to your family about other things. Include and educate. This gives them time to evolve on the idea that you might be gay and come around and realize they love you regardless of who you have a romantic relationship with. Many gay people haven't even given their families a chance to really know them or be included in their lives fully. Again include and educate. That doesn't need a "coming out". You can be out without the drama.

not the best advice

[Satan]

Ugh some of y'all ... Must be killing you.
Really hope it works out for you guys.
Whatever you plan to do

[Doogle]

It's been 3 years today since I came out and it has made me such a happier and more free person, now I've got a boyfriend and a happy life being comfortable with who I actually am. If it's safe to, I couldn't recommend it enough. It's worth any initial **** you go through in the long run.

[kennylovesRihanna]

I did and it's scary but always make sure that you have a safety zone and hope for the best but be prepared for the worst....I'd say that if you have parents who will likely kick you out dont come out to them until you are independent

[Notorious MINAJ]

Originally posted by Guernica

IDK if I'll come out to my parents. My family is not close at all. My one brother who has moved out only comes round like once every 4 months even though he lives in the same town still I can see myself being the same way. It's sad, but not all families are meant to stay together I guess. What makes it even trickier is my other brother is gay, and so IDK how my mom in particular would react to having another queer child. It feels kinda weird when I think about it. I'm not too stressed though, I can imagine myself moving to another place and having such limited contact with my parents that they won't know anything about my life at that point. It is what it is. If we're not going to be a major part of each others lives in the future, what is even the point of talking about it. Just unnecessary emotions

are you cool with your siblings?

[Adonis]

Originally posted by Vertigo Stick

not the best advice

It worked for me and my parents are black and were super religious.

[Temporal]

I need to at some point but I have no idea what to expect from anyone sans my grandparents who probably won't care.

[willmcclure9]

I always forget there are people that are in the closet
I came out when i was 14 (i'm 18 now). Everyone was really accepting and life has been amazing since then. Being gay is the best thing ever. Good luck to all you guys that are planning to come out soon. It's really easier than alot of gays think

[katycat737]

I am terrified of coming out, I honestly don't know what will become of me.

[HALFAXA]

People think that I am because I never talk about girls and I don't even try to date girls. Only a friend and the guy I'm starting to date know clearly that I like the d.
I'm not scared but I don't know when or how I'm going to talk about it with my family, they think that I'm dating my bestfriend and she doesn't help at all, also my mom makes casual homophobic comments and my dad is obviously agaisnt it. I don't think I'll ever "come out", I'll just bring a guy to my house one day and if they get mad It'll be their problem.

[Rico Shameless v2]

Coming out to my mom and brothers won't be an issue. I'm not scared just haven't done it. My mom is pretty much waiting for me to say as she has unintentionally met my boyfriend and said he was cute and such lol. I'm also pretty sure she's seen Jack'd and URLs when using my phone/laptop. She's pretty open about stuff like this so yeah no worries. There just hasn't been a time to say it, idk.

I told two of my best friends this week, one of them who came out to me 3 years ago so I felt obligated to share with him since he's been so open. My other is like a brother. We've had an apartment and known each other for almost a decade now, went through college etc. He actually thought I was joking as I don't really showcase any gay "traits" or whatever. He asked some questions and what not and we went back to our usual talking like regular.

There is a sense of relief when you do tell the people you're around regularly. I doubt I'll be anymore open than I am now when I'm out to family, as in talking about boys or anything. Have never really felt like I'm on eggshells or something like that. I'm just being lazy about it.

I know most aren't so fortunate so I won't say it's not a big deal in general.

[Priyanka Chopra]

I told my parents years ago. I basically said Deal With It.

Originally posted by Giselle

I'm not gay but the whole thing has become so blase and pedestrian. Why does anyone even have to "come out" and make a big show? It fosters an environment of drama and unneeded conversation. It's so tired. If you're gay and get asked about girls say "no, that's not really my thing" and move along. No need for the big Broadway production.

What kind of fake, ideal CW television show script situation.

Being gay is still a big deal because being straight is the default and it's expected/wanted by parents and, actually, pretty much everyone including the gay person in question. There's a reason why most gay people are in the closet and there is a conversation whenever gay people come up. Let's not forget that thread where you claimed that gay people are a result of being molested during their youth.

[LaNathan]

I'm not officially out, but I'm working on it.
Only my close friends and my mother know. I started coming out to my friends when I was 15 and I told my mom when I was 16, at artRave of all places.


Unfortunately, I cannot tell my dad because I risk getting kicked out. My father already threatens to kick me out because I'm "the biggest mistake of his life", so I'm trying not to push it, especially since he's really physical / abusive. Although my mother says she wouldn't let him kick me out, she always sides with him and turns on me whenever there is an argument, so I'm just waiting till I'm about to go to college before telling him and the rest of my family (who aren't tolerant of gays as well). I hate not being open about it, because it's slowly destroying me with all this stress to seem straight to my dad and other family members and concealing how I truly feel. As much as I'd like to check out guys and stuff when I'm out with my family, I just have to talk about girls and try to force myself to be interested in them.

Also, my mom gives me **** saying how terrible it is to have a gay son since she wanted legitimate grandchilden. She can't seem to grasp the concept of surrogates and insemination, so she's basically a lost cause. She keeps trying to out me to my father all the time, which really pisses me off. It really makes me question whose side she's really on since she knows how she'll react.


College is going to be the best years of my life (I hope), since I'll finally be openly gay and find real relationships and just overall finally lead a positive life. I'll finally be able to hang out with other guys (since my father hasn't allowed me to hang out with guys since a gay rumor in 9th grade), party, go on dates, have a first kiss, etc. My parents always comment on how sad and depressed I look and even my mom can't understand why so it makes me extremely pressed. I really can't deal with all their hate and prejudice and it gets super overwhelming trying to keep up with a lie.