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Originally posted by Sunshine.
Ok maybe we all just need to be nicer to each other.
I mean, why is it that masculine men are almost always looked at as "acting", who the hell says gay men HAVE TO BE feminine? If not then they are just putting up a show?
Same with our perceptions of femme men. Many gays believe they exaggerate typical feminine qualities. But who are we to determine whether or not they're exaggerating? Why can't they just be the way they are?
Let's just accept each other the way we are.
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This.
All gay men know what it's like to be excluded from society. It's a shame that they feel the need to further exclude others when they know exactly how it feels. I hate seeing someone write "straight acting" on their grindr profile. Or even "bi" or when they send you message they say "Hey, 23 bi" or "Hey you bi?" Like why the **** does that matter? If you're bi, then just be bi. There's no need to tell others about it. If you like having sex with women as well...then just...have sex with women as well. Like when we get together I'm not going to be thinking "ohhhh, yeahhhh, you also claim to sleep with women even though you probably don't, yeahhhh." Telling people you're bi as the first thing you say to them just makes you seem insecure about being gay.
Objectively, I'm relatively masculine. I go to the gym, I'm muscley, I have really short hair, I have a really deep voice and people are always surprised when I come out to them. But I don't like sports and I spend a lot of my time on a forum discussing female pop stars. So I can recognise that that's quite feminine, even though I present myself as being quite straight. But that's just who I am. It's not an act, and after a few drinks I can be as camp as **** for laughs, and crack jokes about my sexuality doing it. The thing is, I'm perfectly secure with being gay, and even though I don't look or sound gay, I have no problem with those who do. As a result I don't have "straight acting" on my grindr profile. It says that I'm into "rainbows and sparkles and unicorns and fairies and glitter" because I don't want someone who's so insecure about his sexuality that he feels the need to tell me he's not really gay, he's just bi, and he's "straight-acting" (the key word being acting) before he's even said "hello" to me.
That doesn't defer them though. I still get guys with "no fems" written on their profiles saying "hi 28 masc" and "hey 26 straight acting" and "hey 29 bi, u?" because I'm so ***flawless
Also probably because I'm wearing a basketball jersey in my profile pic