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Discussion: Is Bullying Worse Today or Are We Too Sensitive?
Member Since: 8/19/2013
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I think it was always bad, but now it's getting more notoriety. That's all. So I say neither to the question asked by the OP.
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Originally posted by OprahIsBlack
We're too sensitive in that we toss the label "bullying" around way too frequently. Not every incident of someone making fun of another is bullying, and celebrities cannot by definition be bullied, as bullying can only be done by someone with power/influence over another.
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Oh.
So the paparazzi, or thousands of people that join forces to hurl negativity towards a celebrity have less power than that one person? Victim blaming isn't cute sis. None of it in this thread is.
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Member Since: 7/15/2012
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Both. It's become worse, and therefore we've become more sensitive, to the point where people get rilled up over the smallest things.
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
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The whole argument about bullying being worse back in the day reminds me when parents tell their kids to eat certain foods they don't like. That argument being there are starving kids in Africa so you should be grateful and eat it.
That situation has nothing to do with them and the current issue effects them personally.
Same goes with bullying now I am not saying you should let every little thing get to you but kids have a different mentality than adults. Some of you sound so far removed from reality.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by 91Winchester
A lot of times, bullies carry on their behaviour not because they're awful human beings, but they are simply responding to their environment the only way they know how...and if they do develop socially unacceptable attitudes down the line, they may be bullied as well, or thrown into prison. It all balances out in the end.
I was bullied during much of Jr. High and I've learned and grown from that experience. I've learned to stand up for myself and not be a pushover. I've also learned to cut down on behaviours that would lead to people bullying me. Short-term pain is now my long-term gain.
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But that's you. Everyone isn't you. You might have dealt with it one way. The 11 year old who attempted suicide clearly couldn't do the same, and the same goes for all the others who have accomplished it because of bullies.
The first paragraph is a mess. So people should be OK to be bullies because they'll end up in prison anyway? Oh yeah, way to go. You should run for president.
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Member Since: 1/4/2014
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Originally posted by I Am Music
They have no idea who schools work either.
You defend yourself you get in trouble you record it to show proof you get in trouble.
We should challenge school administrations instead of saying "lol you're too sensitive go do something about it hur dur"
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People have tried to bully me both in school and online. I pushed the first one up against the wall using a desk and threw a chair at a guy who hit me on the nose with his big ass backpack. Sure I got yelled at for it and punished a bit but it was worth it. I understand that sometimes the really weak ones cannot do this and stand up for themselves, then you go to the teacher, you go to the principal, to your parents to the bullys parents and tell them to ask the bully to stop. You don't make a big issue and a pity party out of it. and if you are bullied online and you can't even fight back with words then use the god dam report or block buttons or at least the log out button and be done with it.
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Member Since: 3/7/2014
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Perhaps, I should use an example that would resonate with the people here:
The LGBT population has been the target of bullying for centuries. Did the gays just lay down and die? Sure, some did, but a majority came back stronger. The community fought tooth-and-nail to get non-discrimination bills passes, to get the right to marry the people they love, and to get acceptance.
Sensitive people could never have done that.
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
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Originally posted by SlayingOnTheEarth
But that's you. Everyone isn't you. You might have dealt with it one way. The 11 year old who attempted suicide clearly couldn't do the same, and the same goes for all the others who have accomplished it because of bullies.
The first paragraph is a mess. So people should be OK to be bullies because they'll end up in prison anyway? Oh yeah, way to go. You should run for president.
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People who think like that clearly has the complex of if I dealt with it a certain way you should too.
Such a selfish mentality to have.
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Member Since: 4/5/2014
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We use to call every thing bulling when it's not.When someone insults you doesn't mean that they are bullying you, i call it bullying when it's constantly.
But i can't believe either that every single celebrity has been bullied.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by I Am Music
The whole argument about bullying being worse back in the day reminds me when parents tell their kids to eat certain foods they don't like. That argument being there are starving kids in Africa so you should be grateful and eat it.
That situation has nothing to do with them and the current issue effects them personally.
Same goes with bullying now I am not saying you should let every little thing get to you but kids have a different mentality than adults. Some of you sound so far removed from reality.
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You're making some great points
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Originally posted by Yourfavefan
The fact that people want to blame the victim for not being able to handle a tough situation is disgusting...
Bullying might be better now then it was before, but why are we trying to excuse such horrible behaviours by saying that victims are too sensitive
Is it not disgusting what they bullies are doing? Going out of their damn way to make a kid miserable? Shouldn't we be focusing to spread more love and kindness instead of hate?
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So is this post
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Originally posted by JungleDisturbia
A damn mess @ the "cyberbullying doesn't exist!!11" "just log out!11" comments.
You're telling me a kid who has insecurities from the comments they receive at school or online simply don't care once they log out? As if the stress and paranoia of "what are they saying about me right now?" just vanish once they step away from the computer.
Bullying is still very much an issue and I'm glad more people are shedding light on it.
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Especially this one.
I want to add, to everyone saying "Um, they should stop being sensitive and log out". They shouldn't HAVE to log out from anywhere because someone is trying to make them feel less than. To say such a thing really shows your character imo
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Member Since: 8/4/2012
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Originally posted by SlayingOnTheEarth
But that's you. Everyone isn't you. You might have dealt with it one way. The 11 year old who attempted suicide clearly couldn't do the same, and the same goes for all the others who have accomplished it because of bullies.
The first paragraph is a mess. So people should be OK to be bullies because they'll end up in prison anyway? Oh yeah, way to go. You should run for president.
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Exactly, what works for one doesn't always work for the other.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by 91Winchester
Perhaps, I should use an example that would resonate with the people here:
The LGBT population has been the target of bullying for centuries. Did the gays just lay down and die? Sure, some did, but a majority came back stronger. The community fought tooth-and-nail to get non-discrimination bills passes, to get the right to marry the people they love, and to get acceptance.
Sensitive people could never have done that.
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That's completely different though. We're talking about kids getting bullied, not a civil rights movements. Kids getting bullied are usually singled out. At least the LGBT population was more than one person and could stick up for it's allies. Who stands up for those kids being picked on relentlessly, if it's not in their nature to fight back themselves?
It has nothing to do with being "sensitive". Nobody should be bullied. The end. You can't be sensitive over something that shouldn't even be happening to you. Do you consider rape victims "sensitive" also?
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Member Since: 3/7/2014
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Originally posted by SlayingOnTheEarth
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Especially this one.
I want to add, to everyone saying "Um, they should stop being sensitive and log out". They shouldn't HAVE to log out from anywhere because someone is trying to make them feel less than. To say such a thing really shows your character imo
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So much for freedom of speech.
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
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Originally posted by LoveTheWayILie
People have tried to bully me both in school and online. I pushed the first one up against the wall using a desk and threw a chair at a guy who hit me on the nose with his big ass backpack. Sure I got yelled at for it and punished a bit but it was worth it. I understand that sometimes the really weak ones cannot do this and stand up for themselves, then you go to the teacher, you go to the principal, to your parents to the bullys parents and tell them to ask the bully to stop. You don't make a big issue and a pity party out of it. and if you are bullied online and you can't even fight back with words then use the god dam report or block buttons or at least the log out button and be done with it.
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I see your point I really do but what if the school doesn't do anything?.
For me words never really got to me until it got physical but some react differently to others.
Schools have a responsibility to keep things in check so things don't escalate.
You never know what some bullied people are thinking.
It's never an issue until someone gets hurt and then comes the "should have,could have,would have " when it's too late in typical fashion. And then it happens again it's rinse, wash and repeat.
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Member Since: 1/4/2014
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So let me get this straight. You are getting bullied, you cannot help but care about what the bully says, you can't fight back and yet you still go to the site where you know you will be bullied? Sounds like the guy is just looking for a reason to cry. And even if you do not use the log out button, there is the report button, the block button or something only people with logic can figure out. Do not read what they write to you. Ikr, Shocking to ignore hings that make you sad. Just plain shocking
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Member Since: 3/7/2014
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Originally posted by SlayingOnTheEarth
That's completely different though. We're talking about kids getting bullied, not a civil rights movements. Kids getting bullied are usually singled out. At least the LGBT population was more than one person and could stick up for it's allies. Who stands up for those kids being picked on relentlessly, if it's not in their nature to fight back themselves?
It has nothing to do with being "sensitive". Nobody should be bullied. The end. You can't be sensitive over something that shouldn't even be happening to you. Do you consider rape victims "sensitive" also?
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Because bullying=rape?
OK, let's do a thinking exercise here: What happens when these sensitive kids get artificially protected and they go to the workplace/real world and find they don't have the skills needed to navigate the adult world? We'll have a whole generation of dysfunctional adults.
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Member Since: 1/4/2014
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Originally posted by I Am Music
I see your point I really do but what if the school doesn't do anything?.
For me words never really got to me until it got physical but some react differently to others.
Schools have a responsibility to keep things in check so things don't escalate.
You never know what some bullied people are thinking.
It's never an issue until someone gets hurt and then comes the "should have,could have,would have " when it's too late in typical fashion. And then it happens again it's rinse, wash and repeat.
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I'm saying you guys are making it a bigger issue than it should be, not that it shouldn't be one. There are many ways to deal with bullying in school other than just standing up for yourself. Singing Roar or writing Born This Way lyrics on your tumblr page doesn't fix things. Getting help by talking to real people does.
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Member Since: 7/9/2010
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Bullying was worse before. But IMO nobody is too sensitive when being bullied.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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cyber-bullying isnt a problem, you can just log off!
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Member Since: 8/31/2012
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People are too dang sensitive. A little bullying should teach kids valuable lessons about fighting for themselves and facing their fears. Now, we just have people looking to coddle everyone so that when these kids grow up, they will expect someone to coddle them too when they are in trouble, instead of solving the problem themselves.
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Personally, I'm glad I was bullied a bit as a kid because I learned that when I needed to, I could face the things I feared. And it also taught me not to give a crap what anyone else thinks of me.
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Member Since: 3/7/2014
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Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be...sensitive.
Wait, that's not what Sara sang, was it?
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