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Discussion: Your Coming Out...
Member Since: 3/14/2013
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Originally posted by Save-Me-Nialler
My 16th birthday that night was a mess, i decided i was going to come out and i was dropping a friend off at her house with my mom and said mom i'm bi at a red light and she said what's that, She's hispanic, i said i like girls and guys and when we got home she went inside and locked herself in her room my grandma her mom was there and my dad came out his room and was a mess we all got in a screaming fight my dad finished a whole bottle of jack and was telling me how he was a bad father and wasn't there for me and would never have grand children. I was surprised my grandma actually said i love you no matter who you love i ran away that night but my parents caught up to me and at a road my dad stopped the car and my mom ran out and screamed NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO and my dad was like please listin to your mom i got in the car and the next day they took me to a psych i went to him for like a month and he told them that he couldn't change genetics so i was in fact bi then they took me to church they never talked bout it again and a year later i accepted i was gay
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What kinda Oscar-winning real life story
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Originally posted by Quiqui4eva
My parents seemed a bit disappointed. They're pretty religious. After that, they treated me pretty normal except they stopped asking the "do you have a girlfriend/do you like a girl in school?" questions. Some family friends and family members still ask that today in front of my parents (it's soooo awkward)
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This. My parents were horribly disappointed (they would never disown me) because I'm an only child. They seem to think they won't ever have grand kids (who says I can't?). But yes, only my parents know, so family gatherings are horribly awkward when I'm asked if I have a girlfriend, especially when all my cousins do
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Member Since: 8/31/2013
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My parents were disapproving at first, were in denial, kept telling me I was just going through a phase that'll pass. My friends were all great about it. My parents don't really mind it hugely now too so I can't complain. My coming out wasn't bad. It was an emancipating experience.
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Member Since: 3/27/2012
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I got into a fight with my brother. We lived in the same room together, and it was small and I was 18 at the time, and he was 21. So we would always argue. This one night idk what he said but it got me mad so I just started punching him in the face. Then my mom came in and the next day she wanted a reason. I couldn't just say "he got me mad" cause that was a poor excuse. So I just pulled the "I'm GAY" card on her. She hugged me and told me she loved me. Well she first asked if I had done anything with a guy and I just lied and said no so kii. Then my Dad called me, said he loved me. My brother ignored me for about 3 weeks, not because I was gay but because I punched him in the face.
Now my whole family knows and they don't treat me any different then they use too, me being gay is as normal as my brothers being straight to them, so I'm very blessed. Except my mom won't stfu about me not having a boyfriend
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I'm proud of all of you and the struggles you have gone through to be who you want to be. Keep slaying and get that man (or woman ) in your life and show the world who YOU are and what you DESERVE.
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I was sleep and I woke up and overheard my mom sister and brother talking about me and how they had their suspicious . So I got up went to the bathroom came out and went into the room my brother asked if I was gay and I said yess. It was silent but they were like they didn't care and we laughed and went on with life
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Member Since: 1/2/2014
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Originally posted by Meowster
I'm proud of all of you and the struggles you have gone through to be who you want to be. Keep slaying and get that man (or woman ) in your life and show the world who YOU are and what you DESERVE.
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It was kinda awkward, there were some fights between my mom and me, and then she asked me: ''is there something u want to tell me? Are you gay?''
And I said yes.
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Member Since: 3/14/2013
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Originally posted by DripDrip
I got into a fight with my brother. We lived in the same room together, and it was small and I was 18 at the time, and he was 21. So we would always argue. This one night idk what he said but it got me mad so I just started punching him in the face. Then my mom came in and the next day she wanted a reason. I couldn't just say "he got me mad" cause that was a poor excuse. So I just pulled the "I'm GAY" card on her. She hugged me and told me she loved me. Well she first asked if I had done anything with a guy and I just lied and said no so kii. Then my Dad called me, said he loved me. My brother ignored me for about 3 weeks, not because I was gay but because I punched him in the face.
Now my whole family knows and they don't treat me any different then they use too, me being gay is as normal as my brothers being straight to them, so I'm very blessed. Except my mom won't stfu about me not having a boyfriend
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Awwwwwwww'' *grabs tissues*
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Originally posted by DripDrip
I got into a fight with my brother. We lived in the same room together, and it was small and I was 18 at the time, and he was 21. So we would always argue. This one night idk what he said but it got me mad so I just started punching him in the face. Then my mom came in and the next day she wanted a reason. I couldn't just say "he got me mad" cause that was a poor excuse. So I just pulled the "I'm GAY" card on her. She hugged me and told me she loved me. Well she first asked if I had done anything with a guy and I just lied and said no so kii. Then my Dad called me, said he loved me. My brother ignored me for about 3 weeks, not because I was gay but because I punched him in the face.
Now my whole family knows and they don't treat me any different then they use too, me being gay is as normal as my brothers being straight to them, so I'm very blessed. Except my mom won't stfu about me not having a boyfriend
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bdsfs bitch.
And drag a bit.
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Originally posted by NewRihannaStan
I was sleep and I woke up and overheard my mom sister and brother talking about me and how they had their suspicious . So I got up went to the bathroom came out and went into the room my brother asked if I was gay and I said yess. It was silent but they were like they didn't care and we laughed and went on with life
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My favorite one so far tbh. What kinda bad bitch?
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Reading through this thread, I almost feel guilty with how many people had a bad coming out I hope to see the day when "coming out" isn't even a thing, or has as much impact as confessing that that's not your natural hair color
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Originally posted by JonJo486
I was talking to my sister when she asked me, "Are you gay?" and I said that I didn't know, I said that I wasn't in to girls and she said that's OK, then my mum came up to me and said "What's wrong?" and my sister told me to tell her I was gay, I eventually said that and she said that's OK and she will love me no matter what, my dad was the same, he said that he'd love me no matter what, same goes for my aunt and uncle and great aunt, they said that they'll love me no matter what, I hate when my grandparents and my other family members ask, "Have you got a girl yet?" and I'm like: .
My family knew for some time.
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This sounds so anticlimactic, just casually being convinced to come out of a glass closet
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I was driving back to my house from the airport and just suddenly got the courage to tell my Grandma. My voice started shaking cause I was so afraid but she already pretty much knew. After that, it got easier and easier to tell people, each next person wasn't as difficult and eventually I didn't have to tell anyone it just got spread around. I was so afraid my Dad would be furious and he was like the most mellow about the whole thing. I've never really had a bad reaction, I think a lot of it is just you building it up in your mind to be this horrible experience. But I know there are stories of people getting kicked out, disowned, etc. so I understand why people are afraid.
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Member Since: 3/21/2012
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Originally posted by ForeverNow90
My favorite one so far tbh. What kinda bad bitch?
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I always slay
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Originally posted by Dancehall Queen
First family member: My brother and I had an intense conversation in our kitchen table that lasted like three hours (it was like around 3am, and being that tired high feeling is what loosened me enough to do it. .) He was accepting but it was just really emotional for me and I was crying during the entire time. This was like 5 or 6 months after I came out to my friends/school. Was 15 still. My entire family basically knew already because I did a "soft coming out" a year before. I stopped answering, saying or implying anything that would point to me being straight (questions about girls, etc.) and even before that they just knew.
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Some of it came back and I know I said "I'm a f***ot" at some point in tears. My brother made fun of me like a month ago because of that.
I think he asked if I was gay and I aggressively, in tears answered that.
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Originally posted by NewRihannaStan
I was sleep and I woke up and overheard my mom sister and brother talking about me and how they had their suspicious . So I got up went to the bathroom came out and went into the room my brother asked if I was gay and I said yess. It was silent but they were like they didn't care and we laughed and went on with life
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Best and easiest story ever, I wish I had this LMAO. My sister got mad at my mom for accidentally saying boyfriend instead of girlfriend (her Dutch isn't that well so she just said ''boyfriend''). I'd tell my mom is my sister moved out, I don't even want her to know.
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What kinda slayage
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I really do hope this thread is help to alot of people.
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My older sister: I told her i had a boyfriend and she said 'So?'.
My older brother: I think my mom told him. Her snitchin ass Im sure he knew as we were growing tho. He sent me a text saying 'I don't care if you like guys or dinosaurs, you're my brother and i love you no matter what'.
My mom: Im sure she knew while i was growing up as well. Im sure she got even more suspicious when i had a ThugMart catalog come in tha mail and her lyin ass told me it was in tha mailbox open. I was like gerl, of all tha things to be open it would be my pron booklet, right? We had a long talk about it and i just lied and told her i was asexual. Anywho, one day i was just bored and i told her i i was gay. She said she never thought i was gay but she always thought i was bi. After that, it was smooth sailing. It's crazy tho cuz she used to be so damn homophobic but ever since i came out she's alot more calm about it. She may attempt to throw her shade here and there but i take it all with a grain of salt.
My best friend: I don't remember how i told her. Growing up though, all tha experiences and people i dated and talked to i told her it was girls. Now i talk to her about dick and ass freely without a care in tha world.
I never got to tell my dad, kinda glad i didn't get to tell him being that he thought i was such a ladies man. He thought i had all tha bitches, which i did, but no in that perspective.
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Member Since: 3/25/2012
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Originally posted by Save-Me-Nialler
My 16th birthday that night was a mess, i decided i was going to come out and i was dropping a friend off at her house with my mom and said mom i'm bi at a red light and she said what's that, She's hispanic, i said i like girls and guys and when we got home she went inside and locked herself in her room my grandma her mom was there and my dad came out his room and was a mess we all got in a screaming fight my dad finished a whole bottle of jack and was telling me how he was a bad father and wasn't there for me and would never have grand children. I was surprised my grandma actually said i love you no matter who you love i ran away that night but my parents caught up to me and at a road my dad stopped the car and my mom ran out and screamed NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO and my dad was like please listin to your mom i got in the car and the next day they took me to a psych i went to him for like a month and he told them that he couldn't change genetics so i was in fact bi then they took me to church they never talked bout it again and a year later i accepted i was gay
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That's terrible, I'm so sorry. I'm glad they have come around to accepting you for who you are.
I still can't bring myself to tell my mom I'm bi. She completely gave me a chance to do it last week too and I pussied out. I think she probably already knows though. I just don't want to be another disappointment in her life, she's had more than her fair share already. But tbh I don't think I'll ever tell my family and most of my old friends. They're all very conservative religious people and they've said homophobic things constantly, even very recently. Most of my closest friends know though, and all of my college friends are aware. Most of them didn't care but I've lost a couple really close friends after telling them. They flipped out on me, called me a ****** and then outed me to a handful of my other friends. Some of them were ok with it but most of them stopped talking to me after that and assured me that I will burn in hell with Satan and Hitler. Oh and my dad surely will not be ok with it so that was never even a thought that crossed my mind.
I plan to take this secret to my grave tbh. I feel like it's not worth the tears. It just kinda sucks because even though I'm attracted to women, I'm more attracted to guys so I'm more likely to end up falling in love with a guy. I don't know what id do at that point.
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