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Discussion: ATRL Cares | Vent and Support
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I hope someone can help with my problem
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Member Since: 1/1/2013
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Originally posted by I Am Music
I don't have trouble expressing my issues I can tell you exactly what is going through my head but I prevent myself from seeming weak or a burden.
I have tried to tell people I trusted but they're nowhere to be found no one really sticks around.
I don't have much of a relationship with some of my family members and my mother is in kidney failure she has her own problems.
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As I suggested in my previous post, you could try writing everything down. Otherwise, I can tell you this: I was like that once, but it was eating me up from the inside. I talked to someone and they convinced me I had to talk to him or someone I was close with, because YOU MATTER. Your parents/family/friends love you and they would want to know, they want you to be happy and they could help you, even if that means you do not talk to them about it, but find someone, like a professional, to talk to. Just try to trust them and let them in on the fact sometimes you need someone to talk to but cannot talk to them or are scared or something. The man I talked to really helped me get over my problem, I only talked to him twice or thrice I think. Also, you can try to build that kind of relationship with someone.
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Member Since: 1/1/2013
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Originally posted by Tragique
I hope someone can help with my problem
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What's your problem? PM me if you like
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
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Originally posted by BadMonster
As I suggested in my previous post, you could try writing everything down. Otherwise, I can tell you this: I was like that once, but it was eating me up from the inside. I talked to someone and they convinced me I had to talk to him or someone I was close with, because YOU MATTER. Your parents/family/friends love you and they would want to know, they want you to be happy and they could help you, even if that means you do not talk to them about it, but find someone, like a professional, to talk to. Just try to trust them and let them in on the fact sometimes you need someone to talk to but cannot talk to them or are scared or something. The man I talked to really helped me get over my problem, I only talked to him twice or thrice I think. Also, you can try to build that kind of relationship with someone.
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Originally posted by Cupid
It seems to me like you have a defense up and you're scared to let the ones close to you in, for fear of them taking advantage or leaving? What you should think about is, when you bottle up these feelings and frustrations, you're just internalizing your emotions and ultimately burdening yourself.
A suggestion might be keeping a diary, I know it sounds silly but if you find it hard letting your guard down with people, it might be easier to get it all out on paper. Anything is better than keeping it inside because it just builds and becomes bigger and bigger in your mind.
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Thank you for the advice and I will take this to heart. I always try to listen to good advice and you two are being very helpful thank you.
I do have trust issues due to things that have happened and continue to happen.
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Member Since: 3/21/2012
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My PM is always open .!
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Member Since: 5/28/2010
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I'm so tired of lying, pretending, and acting. Why are you so against gays? You're not religious, so the Bible excuse is a load of crap. Like how can you be against a group of people who were born a certain way, just like whites were against you all a few decades ago? You want to call it wrong, yet all the stuff that you've have done has been worse. None of you are clean, saved Christians. Neither of you go to church, you just use God as an excuse to be a bigot. You know I'm gay, I know you do. Stop pretending and being a little bitch about it. You know I'll never have a wife, I'm not taking a girl to prom, I'm not doing any of that **** because it's not me. You can't choose your child, so shut up and become open minded. The day I bring a guy home I don't want to hear **** about it because I don't have to ever see you again. [/rant]
I don't need any support, I just needed to let that out. In theory, that's what I would say to my parents, but I ain't got time to be kicked out and ****.
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
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Originally posted by Cupid
Feel free to PM if you ever need to talk, I always try to be as honest as I can with advice.
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Thanks
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Member Since: 3/21/2012
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Originally posted by Deuces
I'm so tired of lying, pretending, and acting. Why are you so against gays? You're not religious, so the Bible excuse is a load of crap. Like how can you be against a group of people who were born a certain way, just like whites were against you all a few decades ago? You want to call it wrong, yet all the stuff that you've have done has been worse. None of you are clean, saved Christians. Neither of you go to church, you just use God as an excuse to be a bigot. You know I'm gay, I know you do. Stop pretending and being a little bitch about it. You know I'll never have a wife, I'm not taking a girl to prom, I'm not doing any of that **** because it's not me. You can't choose your child, so shut up and become open minded. The day I bring a guy home I don't want to hear **** about it because I don't have to ever see you again. [/rant]
I don't need any support, I just needed to let that out. In theory, that's what I would say to my parents, but I ain't got time to be kicked out and ****.
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It's okay sis .!!! We feel like this too
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Member Since: 9/3/2011
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I love this!
Recently I've been going through a really hard breakup, and I don't know what to do
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Member Since: 9/3/2011
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Originally posted by Cupid
I take it that it wasn't mutual if it was hard? Let it all out, let's see if we can help
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Actually, I don't want to talk about it here right now but I'll send you a FR and I'll tell you the story
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Member Since: 3/21/2012
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Originally posted by HausOfGerard
Actually, I don't want to talk about it here right now but I'll send you a FR and I'll tell you the story
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I'm here too sister
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Member Since: 5/14/2011
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Ugh I hate being in the closet, but my parents are such bible worshipers. I feel like I can never publicly be in a relationship because I'll be disowned and shunned by them..
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Member Since: 3/14/2013
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Originally posted by Auraeolux
Ugh I hate being in the closet, but my parents are such bible worshipers. I feel like I can never publicly be in a relationship because I'll be disowned and shunned by them..
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Have you tried talking to them or maybe hinted something about your sexuality?
I mean, maybe they will be supportive rather than show you the door. They say a mother knows their child, talk to her first. Maybe you'll be surprised.
If all else fails, quote an effective line from the bible
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I am of the reserved type myself.I'm not gonna tell people too much of my internal problems because I don't feel
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I feel really alone most of the time. I've lost pretty much all my close friends and I'm in the closet and I'm unsure of my future it just sucks
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Member Since: 3/14/2013
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The Hive and Navy rivalry annoys me
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Originally posted by I Am Music
My issue is I don't speak on my problems like at all no one not even my closest friends or family know about what I think or feel. You will know what I am thinking only if I tell you and even then it will be what I want to tell you.
I am open but not too open you will only get the surface of who I am while I keep the deeper stuff to myself.
I have times where I get depressed some days due to my lack of an outlet but in my mind no one wants to hear your troubles so why talk about them?.
I get asked all the the time how I am doing I could be a total wreck but you wouldn't know I'll just say "I'm ok" and go about my day.
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OMG this is SO me. I used to never tell anyone anything... ever. Not even my closest friends. The bolded part is particularly interesting to me, every time I feel like saying something to my friends, I stop and think - who gives a ****, they don't tbh. It's obviously not their fault that I think this way, but... it's a weird feeling.
But lately I've doing some sharing here and there and it feels good tbh! Even to people you aren't that close. I feel like everyone is secretly making assumptions about me lol, and it makes me uncomfortable, so I needed to work on that.
It's basically a fear. You're afraid of what people may talk or think about you if you give them enough information, but again if you don't, they'll make assumptions either way , so it's better to just confront that fear and be more open!
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Well let me come in here and talk about what's been troubling me for nearly a year now, I've come to terms with my sexuality but don't want to come out because I just don't like the gay community, they are very bitchy, bitter, racist and all sorts, I'll rather stick with being closeted but with better people.
I'm not saying that the whole LGBT group fits into that stereotype because I know a few people that I can count with one hand that are nice people but they will agree.
I'm just really frustrated :/
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Member Since: 3/14/2013
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Originally posted by Demiboyx
Well let me come in here and talk about what's been troubling me for nearly a year now, I've come to terms with my sexuality but don't want to come out because I just don't like the gay community, they are very bitchy, bitter, racist and all sorts, I'll rather stick with being closeted but with better people.
I'm not saying that the whole LGBT group fits into that stereotype because I know a few people that I can count with one hand that are nice people but they will agree.
I'm just really frustrated :/
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This is me basically. My close friends and family knows I'm bi, but I don't tell anyone outside of my circle about my sexuality. And I don't have gay friends at all because the one I had told me that I'm just closeted and need to admit that I'm really gay. So I just stopped talking to him, because I'd rather surround myself with people who want to be friends with me for my persona, not my sexuality. You're right, if you're gonna come out, you should do it for YOU, not to please others
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Okay lemme try this again, because the last time I posted this on another thread no1curred.
If someone wants more context I'll write it down on another post... I'm just not really in the mood rn.
So anyway, I hooked up with a boy recently in a trip I had with my friends in a way I never could have imagined (because life). He was really sweet and all, he told me that he isn't out to his family yet and was concerned about it obvs. He came to me in a very silly way, using some kind of lingo I didn't understand, but everything went fine either way. So we kissed a bit, then we went to meet up with everyone afterwards, got really drunk and then slept together (literally, we didn't have sex or anything). BTW IT WAS AMAZINGGGGGGGG
We hit it off pretty well, but then on the last day, we woke up, everyone started to prepare everything because we had to leave and stuff... and we didn't talk at all anymore... he never even said goodbye. I was like OK then.
I came to talk to him on Facebook a couple of times. He's now traveling because his family isn't from here and he's gonna spend New Years Eve there in his native town with his High School friends.
The problem is that I didn't bring the whole thing up yet. He's like a CONCEALED book. I have no idea what does he want, if he wants to hook up again, or keep acting like nothing happened ( ). It's weird because he's college friends with my high school friend and we hang out pretty often still. Idk what to do honestly.
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