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Discussion: In black/white biracial couples, WHY...
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I see both all the time (NC.)
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Yall, I don't think what the people have to offer in bed should matter much. Maybe in meaningless hook ups, but I'm talking about serious couples that lead to marriage,children,etc
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Originally posted by Michete
It's because the media has a very narrow portrayal of feminine beauty and our culture finds light skin much more desirable than dark skin.
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Originally posted by theoyella jukebox
My friend is doing a paper on this, some reasons she found in her research:
-Black women don't want to "betray" their race.
-Black men apparently don't like dealing with "aggressive" black women, so they date a "more subservient" white woman.
-White standards of beauty make it more unlikely for a black woman/white man couple
-Lingering racial tension
-Black women/white men often don't start relationships due to a lack of desire to interact with each other apparently
-Black women get more negative attention for interracial dating than black men
-Preconceived notions about feminine beauty (lighter is better)
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yasss
this all adds up. Gah, **** the way society STILL is when it comes to race. ![mad](http://www.atrl.net/forums/images/smilies/images/smilies/mad.gif)
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Member Since: 1/2/2012
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I've seen maybe one or two black woman/white man couples.
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Originally posted by ManDown
It seems to usually be overweight white women with physically fit black men. ![deadbanana](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/bananas/deadbanana2_zpsd45da7d4.gif)
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My former neighbors fit this description.
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Originally posted by InsureTer
But, there are a lot of BF/WM relations, especially these days... in America. You must live in a hick town.
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I don't know any black females who are dating white men, maybe you're right.
I'm black, and I asked my eldest sister if she would ever date a white man, and she was against the idea. It's sad tbh.
And we're not even American, we were all born in England
I don't think either of my two older sisters would seriously consider being with a white man.
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You think it's funny that I don't follow the one drop rule?
She's just as much white as our "First Black President" is black, so sit down ![Lipton](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/5b373a2e.gif)
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Originally posted by Deemy
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sis she is.
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Because its very uncommon. Black women, overall are shallow. They are more particular in choosing a man. He gotta be over 6 foot, fit, loves Sports, have a big dick etc. They tend to focus more on the physical and their standards are mostly geared towards black men making it hard for them to date outside their race. Whereas on the other hand, men see beauty differently. They are also more sexually charged beings so "pussy is pussy to them.
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It's pretty rare where I live, but I have seen it before.
White/asian couples seem to be more common.
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Member Since: 9/21/2010
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Originally posted by Orsay
You think it's funny that I don't follow the one drop rule?
She's just as much white as our "First Black President" is black, so sit down ![Lipton](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/5b373a2e.gif)
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My response wasnt in regards to that. It was just to the point that you feel the need to say that Halle doesnt defy the stereotype of Black women/white men rule just because she's biracial. She identifies as a Black woman. America itself categorizes her as a black woman. ![:o](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/redface_zpsfd99364e.gif)
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Originally posted by Midnight
As for black women, it might not even be that. Lots of times black women are made out to be unattractive and if you hear it all the time, you just might begin to believe it. It's just like when gays say they don't find black men attractive. Lots of straight men claim to find black women unattractive.
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![cries](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/45ab1e3e.gif) @ bold.
These are some pretty depressing social norms, hopefully it's different outside of the US as some of you guys are saying..
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My family had this discussion Christmas dinner. My 3 sisters and mother, and aunt said they are just not attracted to white and asian men.
My mother who is black is married my father who is Dominican
2 of my sisters are married to black men.
My other sister is married to a P. Rican
My aunt is married to an Albania. She had been married to him for 16 years. She said that when they got together they got so much negativity for being an interracial couple and that most people that were talking mess didnt even know what he was. All they knew that he wasnt black or white.
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Many reasons:
1. Black women tend to prefer to stick to their own kind (it would take too long to explain why).
2. White men have a very narrow perception of what beauty is (Long hair, skinny body, no curves, submissive, etc.). And Black women tend to be on the polar opposite side of what most of them consider to be attractive.
3. Black men tend to be much more glorified in the media than Black women. Whether it be sports, politics, television, music, etc. And women, regardless of race, love an alpha male.
Women also love a bad boy, and the media loves to portray Black men as the "hard, hypermasculine, fearless" male.
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Originally posted by Orsay
![cries](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/45ab1e3e.gif) @ bold.
These are some pretty depressing social norms, hopefully it's different outside of the US as some of you guys are saying..
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No it's really not. It's beyond hard being black and seeing the words 'ugly'all the time. And blacks having superstardom who don't tend to actually look how most blacks do...it's a struggle ![JonnyϟLightning](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/jonny_zpsc73391c5.png)
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Member Since: 2/16/2012
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Originally posted by NE.
Many reasons:
1. Black women tend to prefer to stick to their own kind (it would take too long to explain why).
2. White men have a very narrow perception of what beauty is (Long hair, skinny body, no curves, submissive, etc.). And Black women tend to be on the polar opposite side of what most of them consider to be attractive.
3. Black men tend to be much more glorified in the media than Black women. Whether it be sports, politics, television, music, etc. And women, regardless of race, love an alpha male.
Women also love a bad boy, and the media loves to portray Black men as the "hard, hypermasculine, fearless" male.
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![clap3](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/67d90ee8.gif) Perfectly explained.
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Most straight black men wont someone that they can control. Someone who will back down and be submissive to him.
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Originally posted by Airhead
Most straight black men wont someone that they can control. Someone who will back down and be submissive to him.
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Funny. In the relationships I've seen, it's the other way around. Black men are actually controlled by those women. They dictate a lot, although may seem submissive (due to societal conditioning).
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my mom is black and my dad is white ![too funny](images/smilies/images/smilies/priceless.gif)
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I've seen it heaps of times
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Originally posted by ManDown
It seems to usually be overweight white women with physically fit black men. ![deadbanana](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/bananas/deadbanana2_zpsd45da7d4.gif)
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The fumes I always feel.
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