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Discussion: Your Stance on Spanking/Hitting Your Kid?
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My parent's always slap my nephew and niece and I hate it. it teaches them to hit, plus the cussing 24/7 doesn't help.
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Member Since: 9/7/2011
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Originally posted by Praise Mariallah
Would you say you are traumatized by the "spankings"?
Maybe you would've turned out a better person without them?
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LOL @ your Oprah role playing..
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Member Since: 10/28/2011
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Originally posted by BLaCKPoWeR
The thought of getting dat ass whoopedT could be the difference between experimenting with a drug or just saying no; stealing something from a store or trying to earn money; hanging out with kids designated as dangerous/troublesome or spending time with good kids; going to a party instead of studying and failing a test the next day, or not.
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Originally posted by MP2K
I remember as a child that if I did something bad or was thinking about doing something bad my ass would be beat therefore I knew better and that fear made me more behaved ![@michael.](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/micheal_zps45ccf519.gif) .
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I mean...
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Member Since: 12/10/2011
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Member Since: 5/14/2012
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Originally posted by Praise Mariallah
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Both videos you should us are necessary situations. We get it. But they should only be used when NECESSARY, not over simple and petty ****. ![coffee2](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/b80efe23.gif)
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Member Since: 4/20/2012
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Originally posted by Praise Mariallah
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1. The child has a disorder
2. The parent doesn't seem very capable
Both of those factors could attribute to his unacceptable behavior. And when you consider those factors his actions do not warrant physical discipline.
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Member Since: 3/5/2011
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I'm all for disciplining the kids, up to a certain age. I believe the spankings i got when i was younger made me a better person.
Tough love all the way.
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Member Since: 4/7/2009
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Originally posted by BLaCKPoWeR
I mean...
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Like... I thank my mom for whopping my ass cause god knows where I would be now if she didn't.
I mean... We gucci now ain't we? Where your bruise mark at, oh-oh nowhere sis? Right! Cause we KNEW betta. Our black mothers don't play that ****.
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Member Since: 9/3/2011
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My aunt believes in time outs and no physical harm, and her kids (mainly her son) are brats ![Bibliotheque](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/biblio_zps23dff242.gif) obviously you should never hit your kid, but being spanked lets you know that you did something wrong. If you're too young to comprehend that, your brain still translates that as something bad.
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Member Since: 3/5/2011
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If parents love thier children, why would they hit them?
Punishment like grounding, facing the wall, depriving of internet access or phone is more acceptable to me than spanking, whipping, slapping.
Remember, the physical pain may be healed but not the wounds in the heart.
It will only result for a kid to be violent when he grows up like a woman beater, rapist, etc.
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Member Since: 4/20/2012
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Originally posted by stoic_1987
If parents love thier children, why would they hit them?
Punishment like grounding, facing the wall, depriving of internet access or phone is more acceptable to me than spanking, whipping, slapping.
Remember, the physical pain may be healed but not the wounds in the heart.
It will only result for a kid to be violent when he grows up like a woman beater, rapist, etc.
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Just making sure you aren't taken aback when you're come after shortly
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Member Since: 8/7/2010
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I only got TWO spankings in my entire life.
TWO. One, two.
I think groundings and punishments work SO much better.
You take away those privileges and amenities and you let them wallow in their boredom and let them start thinking, yeah... That's what really gets them.
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Member Since: 11/23/2011
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Originally posted by CoolestPerson12
I was never spanked. My parents set the rules, and I didn't dare disobey them. It depends on your parenting, a good parent never has to spank their kids. Ever heard of positive reinforcement? Spanking doesn't work, it only makes them afraid of you? You have to set the rules out, and take things away from them when they don't behave.
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Spare me.
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Member Since: 5/6/2010
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Originally posted by MP2K
Our black mothers don't play that ****.
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Can't say the same for fathers. ![coffee2](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/b80efe23.gif)
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Member Since: 9/7/2011
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Originally posted by Lil Misty
My parent's always slap my nephew and niece and I hate it. .
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your parents shouldn't be hitting other peoples children. Thats just not on. ![Bibliotheque](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/biblio_zps23dff242.gif)
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Member Since: 4/7/2009
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Originally posted by Shaliydah88
Can't say the same for fathers. ![coffee2](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/b80efe23.gif)
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Oop. I don't know him.
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Member Since: 3/5/2011
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Originally posted by stoic_1987
If parents love thier children, why would they hit them?
Punishment like grounding, facing the wall, depriving of internet access or phone is more acceptable to me than spanking, whipping, slapping.
Remember, the physical pain may be healed but not the wounds in the heart.
It will only result for a kid to be violent when he grows up like a woman beater, rapist, etc.
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I'm sorry but what kind of ******, smothering and ineffective parenting would that be? ![psyduck](images/smilies/images/smilies/psyduck.gif)
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Member Since: 8/7/2010
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Originally posted by Damien M
I'm sorry but what kind of ******, smothering and ineffective parenting would that be? ![psyduck](images/smilies/images/smilies/psyduck.gif)
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That worked PERFECTLY for me.
I went cray cray without my phone, car, and computer.
No tv, no company.
Just coming home after practice or whatever I was involved in looking at the walls.
That is NO kinda fun.
I want my luxuries!
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Member Since: 5/6/2010
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Originally posted by MP2K
Oop. I don't know him.
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Obviously.
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Member Since: 4/7/2009
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Originally posted by Harmonic Dreamer
That worked PERFECTLY for me.
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And getting a spanking worked perfectly fine for others.
(not directing the rest towards you...)
No one is wrong here so let's not downplay our parents parenting skills too. A mess @ because you were spanked you're now a rapist, woman beater, violent and your father/mother were bad parents and don't love you. What kind of logic people, come on.. ![Bibliotheque](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/biblio_zps23dff242.gif)
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