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Discussion: Girls, will you take his name?
Member Since: 8/7/2010
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Originally posted by (Cole)
Women taking the last name of their husbands is a remnant of the past when, in marriage, women essentially became the property of the man. They were branded with his last name.
Kind of a disgusting "tradition" when you think about it.
Also, if I ever happen to get married, which I don't like the idea of at all, I wouldn't change my last name...no hyphenation, either.
But hyphenation is much better than completely changing your last name...symbolistically, hyphening your last name is kind of cool....representing the merging of two people. Completely changing your last name isn't, though.
That's symbolistic of male-domination and a patriarchal society.
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Perfect post.
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Member Since: 12/21/2010
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Gay and taking his name; I loathe my last name with a passion & the relatives that bear it (much closer to my mom's side of the family).
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Member Since: 4/27/2012
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I'd take his last name. I used to question it when I was younger, but now it honestly isn't a big deal for me
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Member Since: 4/13/2012
Posts: 3,421
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Originally posted by shanners
Sis a solution so that the kids would be siblings.....
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Haha, I didn't mention that, but yes that is what I want to go with too. They will have the same mother so they will be genetically related in some way.
I'm actually dating a guy right now that wants 8 kids I like him but I don't think its gonna last and I'd never have that many kids, but anyway
if I were to hypotehtically have four kids the way we'd do it is
my sperm, mother A's egg
his sperm, moth B's egg
my sperm, mother B's egg
his sperm, mother A's egg
Just alternate so all the kids have some kind of link. (because I doubt one woman would surrogate 4 times)
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Member Since: 3/27/2012
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Originally posted by rwoznia
If I was getting married, she would be taking this last name. And this dick.
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Member Since: 2/16/2012
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Originally posted by Beautiful Sinner
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Your avi is so appropriate Im not sure....it depends. Most likely hyphenate, but my surname doesn't lend itself well.
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Member Since: 4/17/2012
Posts: 495
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Quote:
Originally posted by (Cole)
Women taking the last name of their husbands is a remnant of the past when, in marriage, women essentially became the property of the man. They were branded with his last name.
Kind of a disgusting "tradition" when you think about it.
Also, if I ever happen to get married, which I don't like the idea of at all, I wouldn't change my last name...no hyphenation, either.
But hyphenation is much better than completely changing your last name...symbolistically, hyphening your last name is kind of cool....representing the merging of two people. Completely changing your last name isn't, though.
That's symbolistic of male-domination and a patriarchal society.
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Women had their movement and have equal rights now. I don't think you can apply the perceived meaning back then to how it is now. Plenty of women these days look forward to the day they can get married and because Mrs...whoever.
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Member Since: 4/17/2012
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Originally posted by Beautiful Sinner
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Member Since: 8/17/2010
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Originally posted by rwoznia
Women had their movement and have equal rights now.
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Are we talking about the same country? In the America I know, women are far from being on the same standing as men.
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I don't think you can apply the perceived meaning back then to how it is now.
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Yes you can. It's a remnant of oppression in a nation where people are still oppressed. It's completely relevant.
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Plenty of women these days look forward to the day they can get married and because Mrs...whoever.
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Okay. I look forward to making myself a grilled cheese sandwich in five minutes because I'm getting hungry.
I'm not a feminist, though....I'm a humanist....people should be seen as people.
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Member Since: 9/22/2011
Posts: 5,131
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Quote:
Originally posted by (Cole)
Women taking the last name of their husbands is a remnant of the past when, in marriage, women essentially became the property of the man. They were branded with his last name.
Kind of a disgusting "tradition" when you think about it.
Also, if I ever happen to get married, which I don't like the idea of at all, I wouldn't change my last name...no hyphenation, either.
But hyphenation is much better than completely changing your last name...symbolistically, hyphening your last name is kind of cool....representing the merging of two people. Completely changing your last name isn't, though.
That's symbolistic of male-domination and a patriarchal society.
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Pretty much every marriage tradition is disgusting. Engagement rings were essentially hymen insurance at one point.
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Member Since: 8/17/2010
Posts: 3,155
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Originally posted by WoozyFloozy
Pretty much every marriage tradition is disgusting. Engagement rings were essentially hymen insurance at one point.
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Well, I'm glad we live in a society where those disgusting traditions are tossed out like the trash they are!
Oh wait.
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Member Since: 12/14/2011
Posts: 21,274
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Originally posted by shanners
Sis a solution so that the kids would be siblings.....
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They wouldn't be twins if they had two different fathers, they'd just be half-brothers.
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Member Since: 4/17/2012
Posts: 495
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Originally posted by (Cole)
Are we talking about the same country? In the America I know, women are far from being on the same standing as men.
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Being on the same standing is one thing, that can fall into many things, some subjective. However women are allotted the same basic rights as men in this country, yes.
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Yes you can. It's a remnant of oppression in a nation where people are still oppressed. It's completely relevant.
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Let me rephrase that. I think we're a generation or two removed from husbands really feeling as if they "own" their wife. In fact you can argue that once married its become more popular nowadays for men to settle and become subordinate to their wives.
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Okay. I look forward to making myself a grilled cheese sandwich in five minutes because I'm getting hungry.
I'm not a feminist, though....I'm a humanist....people should be seen as people.
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One person wanting the other to share their last name doesn't demean the worth of the other. I personally don't take issue with people who keep their last names, or decide to go for hyphenated. I just don't think it's a disgusting tradition like you're making it out to be.
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Member Since: 8/30/2011
Posts: 1,960
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I like my last name. I plan on keeping my own last name and my boo can keep his own last name, and out kids' last names will be hyphenated.
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Member Since: 6/28/2008
Posts: 4,530
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I'm male.
I think I have a really ugly last name, so if my significant other's last name is decent, I'll probably hyphenate mine. My significant others can do whatever he/she wants with his/her last name. Our children will probably have hyphenated last names.
EXCEPTIONS:
1. If my significant other's last name is really ugly
2. If my significant other's last name is the same as a historical Communist leader (my last name is already a Communist last name, imagine if someone's last name was, for example, Castro-Stalin, that's a surefire way to ruin anyone's life)
3. If my significant other's last name is really awesome. Then I'd probably just take it. (Imagine a last name like Rockefeller, or Batman.)
4. If my significant other already has a hyphenated last name. I don't want two hyphens in my name.
5. If the hyphenated last name is really stupid or makes a really stupid pun
6. I'm sure there are other exceptions I can't think of.
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Member Since: 3/20/2011
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If his last name was cute I wouldn't mind taking it as my own but I don't want to be seen as the woman in the relation ship. Being gay is so hard.
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Member Since: 4/21/2012
Posts: 20,463
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Yes, I would.
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Originally posted by Doc
Eh, I guess it never seemed like a big deal to me. But then again, I am a guy.
I just feel like coming together, taking on one name, and becoming "Mr. and Mrs. ________" is symbolic.
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I'm a female and I agree with this. That's exactly how I feel.
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Member Since: 4/21/2012
Posts: 2,805
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I would honestly prefer to just choose a new name.
I'm Hispanic you see, and if I end up marrying a guy with an
English or American name like Smith or something, it'll be
awkward for me to say my name in Spanish (I refuse to anglicize
it) and then my last name in English... but then again, I'm planning
on changing my name to something else, so this might not matter
by the time I marry my future hypothetical husbear.
And hyphenation just sounds like a lot of extra unnecessary work.
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Member Since: 6/25/2012
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I don't care
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Member Since: 4/24/2011
Posts: 17,221
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Originally posted by Kool_Aid_King
I'm giving my wife my last name.
Hate to be a control-freak in this respect, but this is something important to me
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