I found myself on a lesbian forum somehow when googling tegan and sara, and it got me thinking maybe there's a gay forum like it, so i just googled gay forum.
back in 2010 I actually found out about Marina from a member on there though! and I used to talk to a few people on there and met quite a few nice ones. You kind of have to be attractive to post pictures of yourself though, because there's no harassment rules or anything. They are much less strict that ATRL and they will eat you alive if you have a flaw.