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Poll: Do you want Kids?
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View Poll Results: Do you want kids?
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Yes, I want a family when I find the right person.
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35 |
25.18% |
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Yes, when I'm 20-25.
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5 |
3.60% |
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Yes, when I'm 25-30.
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48 |
34.53% |
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Yes, when I'm 30+
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26 |
18.71% |
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No, I do not want kids.
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28 |
20.14% |
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I'm not sure.
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16 |
11.51% |
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I am gay and I want a family like any other couple.
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26 |
18.71% |
Member Since: 7/12/2010
Posts: 9,704
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Originally posted by Bea.
I'm the only one wanting kids young 
Whatever, I'll be a yummy, young Mommy. |
I'm not gonna lie, I would love to have kids now, but my boyfriend isn't having it.  I'm only 20 anyways 
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Member Since: 6/16/2010
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Originally posted by Mani
Yep. But I'd advise waiting till you're out of your prime. 25+
I want at least 2. |
Why? If you aren't into partying, drugs, alcohol, if you already have the partner you want to stay with and who wants the same things as you, if you are financially stable, why wait to be out of your prime?
Physically it is better for the Mother and the baby to have the baby during your prime, your body recovers faster, the whole process is easier...
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Member Since: 6/16/2010
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Originally posted by Mani
I'm not gonna lie, I would love to have kids now, but my boyfriend isn't having it. I'm only 20 anyways |
As I explained earlier, I want kids young for medical reasons, I'm not willing to take the risk of not being able to have kids cause I waited to long, I just got engaged and he knows the full story and that I'll want kids in the next few years.
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Member Since: 6/16/2010
Posts: 19,686
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Originally posted by Regina George
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There was no shade...
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Member Since: 3/5/2011
Posts: 15,413
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Of course, 5-6 years from now (which is not a lot when I think of it  )
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Member Since: 3/5/2011
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Originally posted by Bea.
Why? If you aren't into partying, drugs, alcohol, if you already have the partner you want to stay with and who wants the same things as you, if you are financially stable, why wait to be out of your prime?
Physically it is better for the Mother and the baby to have the baby during your prime, your body recovers faster, the whole process is easier...
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26-27 is still good age for women to give birth. The same case with men is very different - the age practically doesn't matter.
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Member Since: 7/12/2010
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Originally posted by Bea.
Why? If you aren't into partying, drugs, alcohol, if you already have the partner you want to stay with and who wants the same things as you, if you are financially stable, why wait to be out of your prime?
Physically it is better for the Mother and the baby to have the baby during your prime, your body recovers faster, the whole process is easier...
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If you're in your early 20's, IMO you should not make extreme life decisions like that. i.e Kids or Marriage. I mean, some people can handle that of course, but I think it's just best to live, learn & enjoy life before you focus on creating one. Having kids that young means you have to grow up faster than you intend to.
And girl.. it's women 40+ having kids now. If you're not even 30 yet, that shouldn't be a worry at all. But I understand. I think that's a fear every woman has.. including me 
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Originally posted by Cas
26-27 is still good age for women to give birth. The same case with men is very different - the age practically doesn't matter.
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A woman reaches her physical prime at like 20 whereas a mans physical prime is in his 30s, it is downhill from there to be honest.
Although bitches like Beyoncé stay trying to prove science wrong.
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Member Since: 6/16/2010
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Originally posted by Mani
If you're in your early 20's, IMO you should not make extreme life decisions like that. i.e Kids or Marriage. I mean, some people can handle that of course, but I think it's just best to live, learn & enjoy life before you focus on creating one. Having kids that young means you have to grow up faster than you intend to.
And girl.. it's women 40+ having kids now. If you're not even 30 yet, that shouldn't be a worry at all. But I understand. I think that's a fear every woman has.. including me |
I said earlier I share a medical condition that my Mother had and it prevented her from having kids after she was 23, not a risk I'm willing to take.
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Member Since: 3/30/2009
Posts: 79,408
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Originally posted by Bea.
You'd make a great Daddy. Little Justin and Britney will be adorable  |
Thank you. You'd make a great Mom. 
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It's everyone's choice on when/if to start a family. I personally couldn't imagine spending my 20s on anyone but me, though. If my partner absolutely wants kids, then we'll talk later in life.
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Member Since: 7/12/2010
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Originally posted by Bea.
As I explained earlier, I want kids young for medical reasons, I'm not willing to take the risk of not being able to have kids cause I waited to long, I just got engaged and he knows the full story and that I'll want kids in the next few years.
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But sis slow down, you're only 18.  You have your whole life ahead of you. Trust me, when say I've experienced it first hand. Take your time
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Originally posted by Bea.
I said earlier I share a medical condition that my Mother had and it prevented her from having kids after she was 23, not a risk I'm willing to take.
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Oh ok.. that's totally different then. Well if you're ready at that age, go for it.
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Member Since: 6/16/2010
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Originally posted by Katie
It's everyone's choice on when/if to start a family. I personally couldn't imagine spending my 20s on anyone but me, though. If my partner absolutely wants kids, then we'll talk later in life.
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That's a good attitude to have, I think when you are faced with the fact that having kids might not be possible it really shakes your mind up.
I've been lucky enough to have someone who knows all of this, has loved me and looked after me for 5 years and agrees wholeheartedly with starting a family young. We've talked about it at depth, understand how difficult it will be and that it means giving up a lot of our lives but we are planning on getting married regardless, it doesn't change much for us.
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Member Since: 11/2/2010
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Member Since: 6/16/2010
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Originally posted by Mani
But sis slow down, you're only 18. You have your whole life ahead of you. Trust me, when say I've experienced it first hand. Take your time |
It's not like we just met or are planning to get married in a month. I used to live in the states, I met him as a kid, we started dating around 4 years ago with him and I flying back and forth to see eachother, if we don't get married we have to continue that, we have to keep saying goodbye for months at a time, we both have our lives on hold waiting to be together permanently and this is the solution, we both want it, there was no pressure involved and the fact that we have had to work so hard to be together let's us know that it's a relationship worth investing in.
I will not be exchanging vows until I turn 20 and until then will continue spending 3 months with him a ta time.
All situations are different and there is no point in judging them until you have all the facts, some people are ready when they are young, some aren't. Everyone is different.
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Member Since: 1/3/2010
Posts: 21,098
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I don't know about a family, but I want a kid. I've wanted a kid ever since I was just a little boy. If I had a guy to raise the kid with, I definitely wouldn't mind. 
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Member Since: 10/31/2010
Posts: 1,496
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Yes and no. I'm still undecisive about it.
... If I don't, I'll just spoil the masses out of my sisters kids. 
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Member Since: 3/18/2008
Posts: 40,057
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Absolutely, my life will not complete until I become a father. 2 kids at the very least.
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