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Originally posted by TheLuckyOnes
we are allowed to have our own opinions on social issues
I believe masculinity is not toxic but then again i was never bullied, grew up in a gay friendly town and am apart of a fraternity so i guess im an outlier among you gays
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Your need to distance yourself and separate yourself from other gays to assert your own masculinity is why it is a toxic notion.
I live in a "gay friendly" city too, in New Zealand, yet on the weekend no longer than literally 5 seconds since a guy I was on a date with took my hand strolling the waterfront, then some middle-aged man cycled passed and yelled "homos!" You don't get to control social attitudes - and I didn't see anyone around me who heard this do anything but gawk at us in response.
That's the reality of toxic masculinity - not always violence and hate, but little, irksome things to ostracise and single you out as different, therefore making you the weak one and the other the strong "masculine" type.