[qmpierre]

Not everything is about looks though. It's also about personality and interests. Also a lot of black guys on dating sites at least in my case feel entitled for me to date them because they are black and I am too which is a huge turn off even if they are attractive.

[Jay Fenty]

Get that money

[♚ PRiNCE HiGH ♚]

Originally posted by RatedG²

Excluding a whole race and saying you aren't attracted to them is not a preference no matter how you define it

Preference means both things are good, but one is better than the other to you. If you are excluding hundreds of millions of people because of skin color and saying you won't date them because you aren't attracted to that skin color then it's not a preference at all

This pretty sums up my thoughts on this topic.

[Almighty Gaga]

Preference.

To each their own. Doesn't really matter.

[CakeLike]

Mess at people trying to play it off as a preference. The fact that you can exclude a whole race is not a preference it is a prejudice. I've never understood people who say I'm not attracted to a certain race, like literally every race has some guys who are hot as hell, their loss I guess.

[Haunter]

Originally posted by Swag

Self-loath and insecurity at it's finest, it's really sad.

!!!

[Airhead]

I honestly wouldn't entertain anyone like that. I wouldn't even befriend them.

[DDRdashing]

internalized racism tbh

[dayydreaam]

Honestly those certain black guys need to stop, why limit yourself when there's so many yummy black guys out there

[Mariano]

It's a preference.

I am not racist, yet I am mostly attracted to white guys , becuase that's what I've been surrounded my whole life with. However, I am also very attracted to some black guys, like a lot of them are so ****ing hot to me. I am rarely attracted to latinos, but some of them are so ****ing hot as well and i am like

And I am even more rarely attracted to Asian guys, but sometimes it happens.

Doesn't mean I am racist. (I'm white btw).

I have a friend who don't like white guys with dark hair etc. (unless they are really hot) he says they are too dark for him He really prefers blonde guys with really white/pale skin. He is not into black guys either And he is not racist, he is very open minded etc.

I'd never limit myself tho, why ?

But there is always something fishy when you just exclude a whole race, just like that u know. . . It's not necessarily racism, it can be prejudice, it can be ignorance etc. (although those characteristics form the term racism, but still it's a bit different)

[NX127]

I'm middle eastern, and I also will only be dating men from select races.

Not to mention, there're also certain races and ethnicities that I don't even imagine myself having sex with for one night.

If that makes me "racist", that's fine. As long as I'm not hurting anyone with my "racism", I'm totally convinced with what I'm doing.

[Deuces]

Originally posted by Parker

Typical straw man argument. You can shout preferences all day but when you intentionally exclude those that share the same ethnic makeup as you, it's self-hate. It's preference disguised as discrimination. There have been countless studies on this particular issue and the majority of black gay men that prefer to date outside their race have ADMITTED to struggle w/ self-hate and identity issues. Black Americans are conditioned to feel inferior based on European standards of beauty which would explain why so many seek out anything that looks like anything but themselves. It's not preference, it's a social construct and conditioning.

Yes yes yes.

[Bey'Knight]

I can't speak for AA gays but I've only dated white guys. It's due to a geographical constraint; i live in freaking Ireland. If u know a cute black gay guy, feel free to send him my way. My 1st kiss was with a black guy though

[G.U.Y. Gaga]

I never usually ask people out, the other guy usually asks me. No black guy has done this yet though

[Bey_Rihstan]

Ya'll needa stop with this preference mess. Do you know how much **** I could get away with if "preferences" was used as the reason as to why i'm doing them if it was acceptable? a lot.

[tittieslap]

People stay saying "preferences!",but how many people are going to have this so called "preference" that always excludes a minority group?

[Wonda]

People care way too much about what others think. If a black man doesn't want to date other black people, so whattttttt????

I think there are a few races of which I couldn't see myself marrying. Obviously the situation is case by case, but as a means of simplification, I would probably flat out say I wouldn't marry these races, given the opportunity to sort through various options. Those who focus so much on what others believe seem insecure and bitter.

[StonedSoulPicnic]

That's kind of sad.

[Deuces]

Originally posted by Bey'Knight

I can't speak for AA gays but I've only dated white guys. It's due to a geographical constraint; i live in freaking Ireland. If u know a cute black gay guy, feel free to send him my way. My 1st kiss was with a black guy though

I don't think the problem is dating white men in general, the problem is purposefully excluding other men on the basis of internalized racism.

[Deemy]

Im black and I wouldn't date an asian because I rarely ever find their men attractive. I don't think thats racist I just like to be with someone that I have similarities with and can identify with and that is from the same culture.

But for those black gays that only want white men its almost like self hating. Because If you're black and only find white men attractive... does that mean you don't find yourself attractive? IDK.. its something just iffy about it.