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Discussion: Your boyfriend watching x-rated movies-Problems in Dating
Member Since: 2/2/2014
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Originally posted by iLays
That's because you're not tha only one they're talking to.
And you can't possibly have been In 7 relationships in a matter of 5 months?
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Originally posted by that G.U.Y.
@moonlight sis! the number 1 rule to keep in mind when dealing with men is understanding you arent their one and only. They will always have 3+ guys/girls on their minds. Dont be pouring your heart out to every man you keep for a month
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See, this is what I don't get. When I start talking to a guy, I cannot deal with another one.
How can people handle 3 different people at once? It's kind of disgusting and hurtful.
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Member Since: 3/30/2011
Posts: 33,325
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Originally posted by DuffStan
See, this is what I don't get. When I start talking to a guy, I cannot deal with another one.
How can people handle 3 different people at once? It's kind of disgusting and hurtful.
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It depends on your mind set. If you're single and just wanting to have fun, then it's obviously easy. If you're single and looking for a relationship, then you'll eventually weed out the ones who don't interest you and eventually end up with one.
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Member Since: 3/8/2014
Posts: 147
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Originally posted by moonlight.
my problem with dating is that guys can go from talking to you EVERYDAY then go to avoiding you and never talking to you again, without a single damn trace.
it's so.. ugh.
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OMG, this is so true
So I have been in talks with this guy, and he always talked to me because he wanted me to go to his house and I've always said no, because I just wanted a normal date
But after a lot of insisting, I said yes (
and things happened
) and after that he just stopped talking to me
I finally talked to him, and he watched the message but didn't answer so I just eliminated him
I feel like all the guys that talk to me just want me for naughty things, but I just want to have a relationship
And thats my only "relationship" so far
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 13,434
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Originally posted by Reibax
OMG, this is so true
So I have been in talks with this guy, and he always talked to me because he wanted me to go to his house and I've always said no, because I just wanted a normal date
But after a lot of insisting, I said yes (
and things happened
) and after that he just stopped talking to me
I finally talked to him, and he watched the message but didn't answer so I just eliminated him
I feel like all the guys that talk to me just want me for naughty things, but I just want to have a relationship
And thats my only "relationship" so far
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One day you will find a guy who really wants a committed relationship. Dont go to Grindr for that. Most guys on Grindr are trash
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
Posts: 16,870
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Good places to find a long term man:
Gym
Bookstore
Jail/Prison
Church
School
Theatre/Playhouse
Military
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 13,434
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Originally posted by that G.U.Y.
Good places to find a long term man:
Gym
Bookstore
Jail/Prison
Church
School
Theatre/Playhouse
Military
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 13,434
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Mess. I don't want to sound like a crazy and obsessed boyfriend but he still has his ex's pictures up on instagram, facebook and twitter. When I asked him, he said they were all memories with his ex. I am so ready to dump his ass after 3 months trial if he still talked about his ex.
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Member Since: 3/20/2011
Posts: 26,615
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Dating is exhausting. Especially at the beginning when you're still trying to feel each other out.
Where do y'all even meet guys? I would go out to bars but that's just not my scene.
I've tried dating sites but I mostly end up with clingy af people.
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Originally posted by Donquizote
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Mess. I don't want to sound like a crazy and obsessed boyfriend but he still has his ex's pictures up on instagram, facebook and twitter. When I asked him, he said they were all memories with his ex. I am so ready to dump his ass after 3 months trial if he still talked about his ex.
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Ugh I hate people like that. Why put yourself out there in the first place if you're still hung up on someone?
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 13,434
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Originally posted by Attitude
Dating is exhausting. Especially at the beginning when you're still trying to feel each other out.
Where do y'all even meet guys? I would go out to bars but that's just not my scene.
I've tried dating sites but I mostly end up with clingy af people.
Ugh I hate people like that. Why put yourself out there in the first place if you're still hung up on someone?
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I met him through a mutual friend. The reason that he didn't delete the pictures was because his ex has already become his past memories and nothing he could ever do about it. But from what I heard, he's loyal type and I'm trying to give him the benefits of doubt. Still, I can't at people who is in a new relationship but still clingy towards his past memories.
I checked his ex's instagram and his pictures are still up too Idk what I should do. I think I might break up with him after our 3 months trial expires. I want him to make up his mind first before dating me
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Member Since: 11/13/2011
Posts: 6,570
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I legitimately HATE when people believe it's flirty to wait HOURS until texting back.
Fyi, it's not. It's just super annoying unless you have a reason to do so.There's no need to text 24/7, but I hate when they read the messages and decide to answer like 12+ hours later with no good reason.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 9,012
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My bf of 2 months is/was the cutest thing ever. He connects with me like no other. However, last week his friends game him the idea to get an ear ring. Not ear rings. Ear ring. Just one. I don't know what it is, but that is WILDLY unattractive to me. It can make the most attractive person in the world unattractive and even slimy to me.
I didn't think he was going to get it, but he did. I showed up to hang out with him with my best friends who had never met him and he had this hoop ear ring in on the gay side I couldn't look at him. I avoided him actually and barely talked to him. I ended up getting super high and it only made things worse. It was so uncomfortable for me.
I know this sounds so superficial, but since that night I haven't been able to get it out of my mind. When I think of him, it's not the same giddiness I used to get. I think of the ear ring, and I feel sliminess. I thought I completely understood him, but I cannot understand what went on in his head to make him get that ear ring. He told me he won't wear it in front of me anymore, but I don't want him to wear it at all. I want him to take it out, let it heal, and for me to try to wash this out of my memory
This situation is just so unfortunate, like, I am able to look past so much oddity, physical and mental. Even if he was missing fingers or something I would be able to look past that. I'm willing to look past so damn much, but for some reason I can't get passed this.
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Member Since: 11/13/2011
Posts: 6,570
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Originally posted by Buddy
My bf of 2 months is/was the cutest thing ever. He connects with me like no other. However, last week his friends game him the idea to get an ear ring. Not ear rings. Ear ring. Just one. I don't know what it is, but that is WILDLY unattractive to me. It can make the most attractive person in the world unattractive and even slimy to me.
I didn't think he was going to get it, but he did. I showed up to hang out with him with my best friends who had never met him and he had this hoop ear ring in on the gay side I couldn't look at him. I avoided him actually and barely talked to him. I ended up getting super high and it only made things worse. It was so uncomfortable for me.
I know this sounds so superficial, but since that night I haven't been able to get it out of my mind. When I think of him, it's not the same giddiness I used to get. I think of the ear ring, and I feel sliminess. I thought I completely understood him, but I cannot understand what went on in his head to make him get that ear ring. He told me he won't wear it in front of me anymore, but I don't want him to wear it at all. I want him to take it out, let it heal, and for me to try to wash this out of my memory
This situation is just so unfortunate, like, I am able to look past so much oddity, physical and mental. Even if he was missing fingers or something I would be able to look past that. I'm willing to look past so damn much, but for some reason I can't get passed this.
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I can relate and feel just as awful about it as you. I think the best thing you can do is to really sit down and talk to him about it and make sure to tell him how you feel about him on the one hand and how you feel about this ear ring on the other.
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
Posts: 15,732
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Originally posted by Buddy
My bf of 2 months is/was the cutest thing ever. He connects with me like no other. However, last week his friends game him the idea to get an ear ring. Not ear rings. Ear ring. Just one. I don't know what it is, but that is WILDLY unattractive to me. It can make the most attractive person in the world unattractive and even slimy to me.
I didn't think he was going to get it, but he did. I showed up to hang out with him with my best friends who had never met him and he had this hoop ear ring in on the gay side I couldn't look at him. I avoided him actually and barely talked to him. I ended up getting super high and it only made things worse. It was so uncomfortable for me.
I know this sounds so superficial, but since that night I haven't been able to get it out of my mind. When I think of him, it's not the same giddiness I used to get. I think of the ear ring, and I feel sliminess. I thought I completely understood him, but I cannot understand what went on in his head to make him get that ear ring. He told me he won't wear it in front of me anymore, but I don't want him to wear it at all. I want him to take it out, let it heal, and for me to try to wash this out of my memory
This situation is just so unfortunate, like, I am able to look past so much oddity, physical and mental. Even if he was missing fingers or something I would be able to look past that. I'm willing to look past so damn much, but for some reason I can't get passed this.
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how old are you?
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 13,434
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Originally posted by Buddy
My bf of 2 months is/was the cutest thing ever. He connects with me like no other. However, last week his friends game him the idea to get an ear ring. Not ear rings. Ear ring. Just one. I don't know what it is, but that is WILDLY unattractive to me. It can make the most attractive person in the world unattractive and even slimy to me.
I didn't think he was going to get it, but he did. I showed up to hang out with him with my best friends who had never met him and he had this hoop ear ring in on the gay side I couldn't look at him. I avoided him actually and barely talked to him. I ended up getting super high and it only made things worse. It was so uncomfortable for me.
I know this sounds so superficial, but since that night I haven't been able to get it out of my mind. When I think of him, it's not the same giddiness I used to get. I think of the ear ring, and I feel sliminess. I thought I completely understood him, but I cannot understand what went on in his head to make him get that ear ring. He told me he won't wear it in front of me anymore, but I don't want him to wear it at all. I want him to take it out, let it heal, and for me to try to wash this out of my memory
This situation is just so unfortunate, like, I am able to look past so much oddity, physical and mental. Even if he was missing fingers or something I would be able to look past that. I'm willing to look past so damn much, but for some reason I can't get passed this.
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Mess
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 9,012
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Originally posted by *-ChriZ-*
I can relate and feel just as awful about it as you. I think the best thing you can do is to really sit down and talk to him about it and make sure to tell him how you feel about him on the one hand and how you feel about this ear ring on the other.
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That's what I'm going to do. I just need someone to reassure me I'm not a ****ing asshole.
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Originally posted by Brunette Ambition
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21 next month, but my disgust for one sided hoop ear rings will live on FOREVER. Even Morgan Freeman makes me uncomfortable once I notice it
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
Posts: 15,732
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i think there are different things for you to worry about than an earring.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Brunette Ambition
i think there are different things for you to worry about than an earring.
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I mean logically I understand this, but emotionally the one sided hoop ear ring has such a strong negative connotation for me. It just freaks me the **** out and makes me uncomfortable
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 23,375
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Originally posted by Buddy
My bf of 2 months is/was the cutest thing ever. He connects with me like no other. However, last week his friends game him the idea to get an ear ring. Not ear rings. Ear ring. Just one. I don't know what it is, but that is WILDLY unattractive to me. It can make the most attractive person in the world unattractive and even slimy to me.
I didn't think he was going to get it, but he did. I showed up to hang out with him with my best friends who had never met him and he had this hoop ear ring in on the gay side I couldn't look at him. I avoided him actually and barely talked to him. I ended up getting super high and it only made things worse. It was so uncomfortable for me.
I know this sounds so superficial, but since that night I haven't been able to get it out of my mind. When I think of him, it's not the same giddiness I used to get. I think of the ear ring, and I feel sliminess. I thought I completely understood him, but I cannot understand what went on in his head to make him get that ear ring. He told me he won't wear it in front of me anymore, but I don't want him to wear it at all. I want him to take it out, let it heal, and for me to try to wash this out of my memory
This situation is just so unfortunate, like, I am able to look past so much oddity, physical and mental. Even if he was missing fingers or something I would be able to look past that. I'm willing to look past so damn much, but for some reason I can't get passed this.
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I'm sorry but you could have just told him you didn't like it. He's probably so god damn confused too
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Member Since: 2/2/2014
Posts: 2,978
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Originally posted by that G.U.Y.
Good places to find a long term man:
Gym
Bookstore
Jail/Prison
Church
School
Theatre/Playhouse
Military
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Are you supposed to give hints that you're potentially interested? I am totally clueless
I only started really paying attention to guys on the street a couple of weeks ago. I've had like 2 approach me while grocery shopping or buying alcohol... One of them was a Brazilian hottie but I was so overwhelmed by the situation that I didn't actually realize he might have been flirting...
I feel like I'm stuck in a circle, I'm so busy with university, my student job and my social life that I don't have time for boys I'm done with my semester in a month and I will make more efforts to find someone. I've been single for like a year and a half now... I'm sick of sex friends, I want more than that with the right person
But I don't feel like anyone is interested... neither in real life nor on the gay apps
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Member Since: 3/20/2011
Posts: 26,615
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Originally posted by Donquizote
I met him through a mutual friend. The reason that he didn't delete the pictures was because his ex has already become his past memories and nothing he could ever do about it. But from what I heard, he's loyal type and I'm trying to give him the benefits of doubt. Still, I can't at people who is in a new relationship but still clingy towards his past memories.
I checked his ex's instagram and his pictures are still up too Idk what I should do. I think I might break up with him after our 3 months trial expires. I want him to make up his mind first before dating me
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Do you think he'd run back to his ex if he had the chance?
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Originally posted by DuffStan
Are you supposed to give hints that you're potentially interested? I am totally clueless
I only started really paying attention to guys on the street a couple of weeks ago. I'm sick of sex friends, I want more than that with the right person
But I don't feel like anyone is interested... neither in real life nor on the gay apps
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Yeah I don't get how this work either. Do I just go up to someone at a bookstore who I suspect to be gay and start flirting? What if they end up being straight?
You could try OkCupid. I've heard good things about it.
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