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Discussion: Your Crush Thread 2.0
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Originally posted by Quiqui4eva
You shouldn't call them ****s. Respect them. But they shouldn't be getting on your case either. I think I would pass as well if a guy fooled around with 20 other guys. Like, I just couldn't trust them and I feel they would break my heart with ease. Don't feel bad tho
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I have trouble respecting the one guy though.. 
I mean the fact he went on a vacation and slept with a new guy each night... There's nothing to respect about that. I think he's made poor life choices and now he's suffering because nobody wants to be in a relationship with him. Nobody thinks he's able to handle commitment and the main reason is, because he's fooled around too much.
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Originally posted by Sugar Rush
I have trouble respecting the one guy though..
I mean the fact he went on a vacation and slept with a new guy each night... There's nothing to respect about that. I think he's made poor life choices and now he's suffering because nobody wants to be in a relationship with him. Nobody thinks he's able to handle commitment and the main reason is, because he's fooled around too much. |
You shouldn't respect him because of the guys he sleeps with? I understand you don't want to be in a relationship with him and that's fine, but in general you shouldn't shame someone for that. He might be a very nice person. I'm sure he'll find a special someone soon. There's always a few people who don't care about those kinds of things.
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Member Since: 5/22/2011
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Originally posted by Quiqui4eva
You shouldn't respect him because of the guys he sleeps with? I understand you don't want to be in a relationship with him and that's fine, but in general you shouldn't shame someone for that. He might be a very nice person. I'm sure he'll find a special someone soon. There's always a few people who don't care about those kinds of things.
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Just I don't know, My feelings won't change about him and the more times he tries to get me the more times he's going to hear what I feel about him. He keeps telling me if that's the only reason I don't want to date him than I'm shallow, but it's true. I don't think he can handle commitment and I'm repulsed by his history. 
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Member Since: 7/9/2010
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Originally posted by Sugar Rush
Just I don't know, My feelings won't change about him and the more times he tries to get me the more times he's going to hear what I feel about him. He keeps telling me if that's the only reason I don't want to date him than I'm shallow, but it's true. I don't think he can handle commitment and I'm repulsed by his history. |
Don't mind him then. Having standards does not make you shallow. He'll just have to find someone else.
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Member Since: 8/3/2012
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Originally posted by kwek_kwek
I have a crush. I really, really like him. He told that he just broke up with his 14 years partner few months ago. So, I said to myself that's good and started to entertain him through text messages and phone calls. He said that he like me and he want me because I am sensible and accommodating and we even sharing intimate thoughts and funny conversations. He even told me his deepest secret. But after few days, he said that he and his ex is trying to work their relationship again.
We continuously talking and sending text messages after that and then I offered what he want to get from me but he declined and offered a friendship. I've tried sending text messages to him and never got a reply now.
I think, he just used me as a rebound and I've been friend zoned by him.
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So happy that I didn't give up on him. He declined me at first but now, he's liking me. We've met twice now on his place. I need to push harder so that he'll be mine! 
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Member Since: 7/9/2010
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Originally posted by kwek_kwek
So happy that I didn't give up on him. He declined me at first but now, he's liking me. We've met twice now on his place. I need to push harder so that he'll be mine! |
Aww! Get ya man 
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Bump  is this the decline?
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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The ARTPOP era is upon us.
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Originally posted by Quiqui4eva
Bump is this the decline? |
Yes. We're allowing it to die a peaceful death right now. If it gets bumped, it gets bumped. But it's pretty much dead.
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So I've just spent the weekend in Sapporo and I actually think I might have fallen in love. I met this guy at this foreigner conference thing and he was really drunk but flirting up a storm with me (and he is GORGEOUS and STYLISH.  ) and he pretty much was like being uber keen the whole night. Unfortunately I didn't know my way around the city and there were a million tagger-ons that loved him, but didn't know me so it was a bit awkward. Anyway we finally got to a raving club and we were both drunk but him far more than I, anyway we started making-out hardcore like literally all over the club and the poor Japanese were eyeballing the dear life out of us. Some girls even like started like cheering and clapping and even though I was a bit  about that side of things, he was serving some quality lip/tongue and I was there for it.
Anyway he, and annoying his dumb female friend, came back and crashed at the place we were crashing at and literally was right beside us so we couldn't do anything other than subtle groping which was boring but we didn't get home until like 4.30am anyway. When we woke up I expected him to a) not be keen or b) literally not even remember me, so when he came for cuddles I was like  ! And we spent all morning cuddling and kissing and just let the damn friend feel awkward, and we got breakfast and walked around and held hands and we just had this connection. We have the same birthday which is cool, and our interests are different but in the same field.
I had to drive back early in the afternoon and I was depressed and we were like holding hands all day (not something I normally do - but I'm in such a weird country and it was a foreign city for me so whatever I let loose). Eventually we had to say bye and I was gutted, but we'd both acknowledged how sucky it was. He literally lives like a 6-7 hours drive from me which is literally devastating. The entire ride home were messaging each-other and he was saying how he's never met anyone like me, and IDK it's just so confusing and heartbreaking.
Now I'm home in my tiny corner of Hokkaido and I'm really depressed, lonely and literally just want to cry about how unfair the distance is.
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Originally posted by Dinosauer
So I've just spent the weekend in Sapporo and I actually think I might have fallen in love. I met this guy at this foreigner conference thing and he was really drunk but flirting up a storm with me (and he is GORGEOUS and STYLISH. ) and he pretty much was like being uber keen the whole night. Unfortunately I didn't know my way around the city and there were a million tagger-ons that loved him, but didn't know me so it was a bit awkward. Anyway we finally got to a raving club and we were both drunk but him far more than I, anyway we started making-out hardcore like literally all over the club and the poor Japanese were eyeballing the dear life out of us. Some girls even like started like cheering and clapping and even though I was a bit about that side of things, he was serving some quality lip/tongue and I was there for it.
Anyway he, and annoying his dumb female friend, came back and crashed at the place we were crashing at and literally was right beside us so we couldn't do anything other than subtle groping which was boring but we didn't get home until like 4.30am anyway. When we woke up I expected him to a) not be keen or b) literally not even remember me, so when he came for cuddles I was like ! And we spent all morning cuddling and kissing and just let the damn friend feel awkward, and we got breakfast and walked around and held hands and we just had this connection. We have the same birthday which is cool, and our interests are different but in the same field.
I had to drive back early in the afternoon and I was depressed and we were like holding hands all day (not something I normally do - but I'm in such a weird country and it was a foreign city for me so whatever I let loose). Eventually we had to say bye and I was gutted, but we'd both acknowledged how sucky it was. He literally lives like a 6-7 hours drive from me which is literally devastating. The entire ride home were messaging each-other and he was saying how he's never met anyone like me, and IDK it's just so confusing and heartbreaking.
Now I'm home in my tiny corner of Hokkaido and I'm really depressed, lonely and literally just want to cry about how unfair the distance is. |
Wait, this is kind of super cute, but sad too. I'm sorry sis
So I've been talking to him more and last night was interesting. I got home and was really depressed so I figured why not talk to him. So I did, and he was sad too so we spent like 2 hours just talking about our feelings. Girls I really want this boy. 
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Yeah, i'm not going to date that guy.
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I just went on a lunch date with my crush. I haven't seen him in a week since I've been out of the state. It was so nice to see him again. All of my feelings keep intensifying every time I see him, and I don't know how much longer I can hold back before I explode and tell him how I feel. I mean, he basically already knows, but still. This was date #8.
We were talking for a couple of hours, and I finally asked him about dating and relationships. He said that he had never been in a real relationship before, only friends with benefits, but would like to be in either of the two again soon. I agreed with him, and coyly hinted at us possibly working towards a relationship (I hope he caught that). We went to leave, and
I noticed that he had a boner and was trying to hide it
.  It was so adorable. We hugged goodbye in front of a bunch of thugs, and he kept asking when we could see each other again. I think the next date will be when we have our first kiss and/or finally expose our true feelings.
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My crush is tall, dark and handsome , but that doesn't matter cuz nothing will happen since I tried everything to get him to notice me 
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Originally posted by ManDown
I just went on a lunch date with my crush. I haven't seen him in a week since I've been out of the state. It was so nice to see him again. All of my feelings keep intensifying every time I see him, and I don't know how much longer I can hold back before I explode and tell him how I feel. I mean, he basically already knows, but still. This was date #8.
We were talking for a couple of hours, and I finally asked him about dating and relationships. He said that he had never been in a real relationship before, only friends with benefits, but would like to be in either of the two again soon. I agreed with him, and coyly hinted at us possibly working towards a relationship (I hope he caught that). We went to leave, and
I noticed that he had a boner and was trying to hide it
. It was so adorable. We hugged goodbye in front of a bunch of thugs, and he kept asking when we could see each other again. I think the next date will be when we have our first kiss and/or finally expose our true feelings. |
Aww! Yay happy for y'all
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Originally posted by ManDown
I just went on a lunch date with my crush. I haven't seen him in a week since I've been out of the state. It was so nice to see him again. All of my feelings keep intensifying every time I see him, and I don't know how much longer I can hold back before I explode and tell him how I feel. I mean, he basically already knows, but still. This was date #8.
We were talking for a couple of hours, and I finally asked him about dating and relationships. He said that he had never been in a real relationship before, only friends with benefits, but would like to be in either of the two again soon. I agreed with him, and coyly hinted at us possibly working towards a relationship (I hope he caught that). We went to leave, and
I noticed that he had a boner and was trying to hide it
. It was so adorable. We hugged goodbye in front of a bunch of thugs, and he kept asking when we could see each other again. I think the next date will be when we have our first kiss and/or finally expose our true feelings. |
Omg that's so cute! You're so lucky! Happy for you!
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Member Since: 4/19/2007
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Originally posted by ManDown
I just went on a lunch date with my crush. I haven't seen him in a week since I've been out of the state. It was so nice to see him again. All of my feelings keep intensifying every time I see him, and I don't know how much longer I can hold back before I explode and tell him how I feel. I mean, he basically already knows, but still. This was date #8.
We were talking for a couple of hours, and I finally asked him about dating and relationships. He said that he had never been in a real relationship before, only friends with benefits, but would like to be in either of the two again soon. I agreed with him, and coyly hinted at us possibly working towards a relationship (I hope he caught that). We went to leave, and
I noticed that he had a boner and was trying to hide it
. It was so adorable. We hugged goodbye in front of a bunch of thugs, and he kept asking when we could see each other again. I think the next date will be when we have our first kiss and/or finally expose our true feelings. |
OMG  Goodluck sis Can't wait til your next post about this
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Originally posted by Dinosauer
So I've just spent the weekend in Sapporo and I actually think I might have fallen in love. I met this guy at this foreigner conference thing and he was really drunk but flirting up a storm with me (and he is GORGEOUS and STYLISH. ) and he pretty much was like being uber keen the whole night. Unfortunately I didn't know my way around the city and there were a million tagger-ons that loved him, but didn't know me so it was a bit awkward. Anyway we finally got to a raving club and we were both drunk but him far more than I, anyway we started making-out hardcore like literally all over the club and the poor Japanese were eyeballing the dear life out of us. Some girls even like started like cheering and clapping and even though I was a bit about that side of things, he was serving some quality lip/tongue and I was there for it.
Anyway he, and annoying his dumb female friend, came back and crashed at the place we were crashing at and literally was right beside us so we couldn't do anything other than subtle groping which was boring but we didn't get home until like 4.30am anyway. When we woke up I expected him to a) not be keen or b) literally not even remember me, so when he came for cuddles I was like ! And we spent all morning cuddling and kissing and just let the damn friend feel awkward, and we got breakfast and walked around and held hands and we just had this connection. We have the same birthday which is cool, and our interests are different but in the same field.
I had to drive back early in the afternoon and I was depressed and we were like holding hands all day (not something I normally do - but I'm in such a weird country and it was a foreign city for me so whatever I let loose). Eventually we had to say bye and I was gutted, but we'd both acknowledged how sucky it was. He literally lives like a 6-7 hours drive from me which is literally devastating. The entire ride home were messaging each-other and he was saying how he's never met anyone like me, and IDK it's just so confusing and heartbreaking.
Now I'm home in my tiny corner of Hokkaido and I'm really depressed, lonely and literally just want to cry about how unfair the distance is. |
Visit each other in the weekend girl  Don't throw this cute and lovely "relationship" away that easy
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Originally posted by Dinosauer
So I've just spent the weekend in Sapporo and I actually think I might have fallen in love. I met this guy at this foreigner conference thing and he was really drunk but flirting up a storm with me (and he is GORGEOUS and STYLISH. ) and he pretty much was like being uber keen the whole night. Unfortunately I didn't know my way around the city and there were a million tagger-ons that loved him, but didn't know me so it was a bit awkward. Anyway we finally got to a raving club and we were both drunk but him far more than I, anyway we started making-out hardcore like literally all over the club and the poor Japanese were eyeballing the dear life out of us. Some girls even like started like cheering and clapping and even though I was a bit about that side of things, he was serving some quality lip/tongue and I was there for it.
Anyway he, and annoying his dumb female friend, came back and crashed at the place we were crashing at and literally was right beside us so we couldn't do anything other than subtle groping which was boring but we didn't get home until like 4.30am anyway. When we woke up I expected him to a) not be keen or b) literally not even remember me, so when he came for cuddles I was like ! And we spent all morning cuddling and kissing and just let the damn friend feel awkward, and we got breakfast and walked around and held hands and we just had this connection. We have the same birthday which is cool, and our interests are different but in the same field.
I had to drive back early in the afternoon and I was depressed and we were like holding hands all day (not something I normally do - but I'm in such a weird country and it was a foreign city for me so whatever I let loose). Eventually we had to say bye and I was gutted, but we'd both acknowledged how sucky it was. He literally lives like a 6-7 hours drive from me which is literally devastating. The entire ride home were messaging each-other and he was saying how he's never met anyone like me, and IDK it's just so confusing and heartbreaking.
Now I'm home in my tiny corner of Hokkaido and I'm really depressed, lonely and literally just want to cry about how unfair the distance is. |
Thank was really cute sis! Hope you two keep in touch
You're not Japanese right? Can I ask why you're living in rural Hokkaido? I love Japan
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Originally posted by [Bask]
Visit each other in the weekend girl Don't throw this cute and lovely "relationship" away that easy
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Although I woke up and cried about the injustice this morning feeling uber depressed, we've been messaging all day and he's like really keen to make this work saying how he'll happily train to a city near me (well two hours away but that's near considering the rural hole I'm living in) if it means we can meet up, and there's a four-day weekend this weekend so I'm probably gonna meet up with him then. Ugh I wish I could drop the "gay" bomb in my town but I think that might be a little much for the dear conservatives here. Considering no one's ever talked about it I just have no idea what the mindset is, and from what I've read many Japanese literally think "gay doesn't exist in Japan" because it's so underground and taboo. But who knows what the younger people think. All I know is my co-worker who sits opposite me is a mega babe with his new haircut.
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Thank was really cute sis! Hope you two keep in touch
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I think we're gonna make it work! (refer to above) I'm so excited! And honestly just like that, my crush of three years (if you see my earlier post in here, you'll see the mess that it is) seems irrelevant but now this is so exciting! Though it means I'll have to stay in Japan if I want to be with him which isn't the ultimate dream... but I would if we develop I think.
I'm in Hokkaido teaching as an assistant English teacher. Most people get the job through the JET program but I managed to get a direct contract through the town's Board of Education thanks to my aunty working the same job here 20 years ago. The big flaw is the ruralness of it, which I mean has it's (few) perks but it's very lonely being the only foreigner in town, speaking only a little Japanese and no one else speaking English. 
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Originally posted by Dinosauer
Although I woke up and cried about the injustice this morning feeling uber depressed, we've been messaging all day and he's like really keen to make this work saying how he'll happily train to a city near me (well two hours away but that's near considering the rural hole I'm living in) if it means we can meet up, and there's a four-day weekend this weekend so I'm probably gonna meet up with him then. Ugh I wish I could drop the "gay" bomb in my town but I think that might be a little much for the dear conservatives here. Considering no one's ever talked about it I just have no idea what the mindset is, and from what I've read many Japanese literally think "gay doesn't exist in Japan" because it's so underground and taboo. But who knows what the younger people think. All I know is my co-worker who sits opposite me is a mega babe with his new haircut.
I think we're gonna make it work! (refer to above) I'm so excited! And honestly just like that, my crush of three years (if you see my earlier post in here, you'll see the mess that it is) seems irrelevant but now this is so exciting! Though it means I'll have to stay in Japan if I want to be with him which isn't the ultimate dream... but I would if we develop I think.
I'm in Hokkaido teaching as an assistant English teacher. Most people get the job through the JET program but I managed to get a direct contract through the town's Board of Education thanks to my aunty working the same job here 20 years ago. The big flaw is the ruralness of it, which I mean has it's (few) perks but it's very lonely being the only foreigner in town, speaking only a little Japanese and no one else speaking English. :rip:
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GET OUT OF THAT HELL HOLE IMMEDIATELY
You should start to look for some similiar jobs in his town NOW
Love Japan anyway My sister and her husband just visited the country and brought a lot of gifts back home Wish I could go there someday
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