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Discussion: Most hurtful thing anybody's ever said to you in real life?
Member Since: 6/26/2010
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Originally posted by Ra2
I think one of the most hurtful things someone has ever said to me was something my dad told me.
The night I came out to my dad, August 23rd, 2009 (my mother only two days prior to this), one of the many things he said to me was this:
"I would have rather found out you were on hard drugs, or in jail, or dating a black chick. Hell, I'd rather hear you were dead than to hear that you're gay."
This was right before he threatened to kill me as I cried on the porch. He then began crying himself before getting a six-pack of beer into a cooler and punching out one of the windows to the house. He then left.
One of the worst nights ever.
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Omg . I would leave my house without looking back not even 1 second. How is your relationship with him now?
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Member Since: 3/18/2011
Posts: 8,234
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Originally posted by Last Boy on Earth
Omg . I would leave my house without looking back not even 1 second
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Well, long story short, I stayed at home, lol.
My parents eventually got a divorce (my dad was unfaithful for the Xth time). After that, my mother got clean (both of my parents were on drugs hxc), during which time, I took control of all finances in our home because my mother couldn't be trusted to do it on her own.
Now, my mother and I have the best relationship we've ever had, and things are the best they've ever been.
My dad and I still talk, occasionally.
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Member Since: 10/14/2010
Posts: 2,384
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My dad HATES me
We always fight and he always hurts me
He also said to me that he wished I wasn't his son
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Member Since: 6/28/2009
Posts: 6,960
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I remember in 7th grade Drama class, whenever I had to go up to present, a couple of the guys would always whisper "***!". The fatass old teacher wouldn't do anything about it either. My whole grade in the class was based on participation so I had to go up everyday for the sake of my grade. Worst semester of my life, and I ended up with a C in drama class.
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Member Since: 11/2/2010
Posts: 7,797
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My best friend since Kindergarten (we're still best friends) and I used to get picked on by this group of dbags that go to community college now and will probably forever work at mcdonalds on a 9-5 basis. When we were in 7th grade, they would call us gay and make fun of us at any opportunity, really. That didn't bother me, but what did bother me was when one day I went to the movies with my best friend and a bunch of my other friends flaked out last minute (basically it was just the two of us going into the movie). My friend said he didn't want to go because he didn't want people to make fun of us.
Idk if this was the most hurtful moment; I wasn't really hurt I was more pissed at the dickheads who suck @ life so much that they needed to take it out on someone who is a brother to me (they particularly made fun of him because he is short) and try to ruin our friendship
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
Posts: 1,738
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I really admire all of you for sharing all your sad experiences on an Internet forum.
Where can I start? My sister hates me. Just the mere thought makes me uncomfortable, because I have always wanted to have a brother-sister relationship with her and it has never been that way.
I have always been the "baby" of my family, always well-behaved and with great marks in school and in college, but my sister always found ways to undermine my self-esteem, calling me names and beating me when I was small. Maybe it was not only one thing she said, but a lot things that she has said and done to me over the years.
One day, when she was dating this dude, I don't remember what I did or didn't do, I think I didn't invite him to come into the house or something stupid like that. She got so upset about that and she said "Maldito seas!" which in Spanish means "Damn you!" It may not sound as a big deal to you in English, but in Spanish (my mother language) is a huge insult; the way she said it and the way she looked at me when she said it is something I have not been able to get over and still haunts me and I am in my thirties. Even on Facebook, she mocks me and my friends. It got to the point that I had to block her.
My relationship with her has turned me into someone with trust and confidence issues. It is one of the main reasons I decided to jump to all the way to China, because I don't even want to be in the same continent as her.
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Member Since: 4/22/2011
Posts: 5,090
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the worst thing somebody told me is that i'm pretty for a girl who's part black. i wanted to punch them so bad, only reason i didn't was cuz i was in the middle of math class. i'm proud of who i am and my family and it hurts me that ppl are so racist.
and also said that i'd be prettier if my hair wasn't so nappy
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Member Since: 10/9/2008
Posts: 9,835
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Originally posted by MrCookiepants
You guys.
Honestly, I've had it pretty easy. But I did have REALLY bad acne in middle school and that whole time was just awkward for me. I remember overhearing some girls talking about the boys in the class. I was brought up and one of them let out a really dismissive "ew' and all the others laughed. Doesn't sound like much but it kind of destroyed my confidence for a few years.
It's okay though, cause I found that particular girl on Facebook recently and now she's pregnant and has a mustache.
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I had really bad acne too. It was awful. It destroyed my self-esteem.
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Member Since: 4/7/2009
Posts: 34,961
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Shout. I honestly don't remember. I don't want to share anyting that's just petty or harmless though.
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Member Since: 2/9/2008
Posts: 32,819
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Originally posted by satellites™
I ride the middle so I know exactly what you mean. Im too black for white people and im too white for black people. I do use slang sometimes, but not a lot, especially not in public but my personality if you know what I mean is urban influenced so you know I grew up around an African American family versus one of some other ethnicity and sometimes that difference stands out when im around Caucasian people even though I talk properly and dress like a Casual Male XL ad. Now when it comes to black people im too proper, too well dressed, and too out there. I hate rap, I hate sports, and I hate girls so there goes my relationship with black men.
Black girls love me though.
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You're not too black for me
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Member Since: 9/28/2009
Posts: 9,353
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I can't think of any one thing off the top of my head, but it's hard to have a best friend who is viciously homophobic, knowing that if they knew, the hatred could blind them into abandoning you as a friend. I want to think we'll be best friends for a long time, but I'm really not so sure.
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Member Since: 2/9/2008
Posts: 32,819
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Well. I've never really experienced homophobia, since I'm very under-the-gaydar most of the time. Nor have my close friends ever been cruel to me, or my family for that matter.
But I really look up to my brother. He's like a renaissance kid--decently athletic, playing football and wrestling in high school; brilliant, with great grades and test scores, plus he's currently studying for his Ph.D in biochemistry at a top school; and he's outgoing, making fast friends wherever he goes and always providing the life of the party. So when he was home from college once and got a little drunk and verbally assaulted me, I was crushed. He told me how when he was growing up he had to eat cereal for dinner and barely got any allowance and that since my dad is more successful now, I'm lazy and ungrateful, not working hard for anything... He basically judged me hardcore. It hurt, but he apologized, and I think he has a lot of respect for me since I've come out to him.
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Member Since: 4/29/2010
Posts: 7,706
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When both my mum and dad looked at me and told me that they can't accept who I am. Anyone can tell me anything, but when it comes from them it can hurt like hell.
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Member Since: 4/29/2010
Posts: 7,706
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Originally posted by JRtheMonster
My dad HATES me
We always fight and he always hurts me
He also said to me that he wished I wasn't his son
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You have huge hug from me. I know how you feel! I'm having the same problem every day.
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Member Since: 2/9/2008
Posts: 32,819
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Originally posted by Wildhope
We all should gather round and sing kumbaya
u guys are so strong <3
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You're the baddest bb.
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Member Since: 9/27/2010
Posts: 22,568
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2 years ago, when I was in grade 7 (14-15 years old), I trusted my close friends and told them that I'm gay. 3 out of 4 of them laughed at me, told their friends that and then never talked to me again because "I'll embarrass them." That was awful. I was really disappointed, depressed, nervous, angry and sad not only because they acted that away but also because I felt how stupid I was to trust them and tell them that. We were really close friends, I was just... Ugh, shocked. Next year, I convinced my parents to change my school and they did.
I'll never forgot those days.
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Member Since: 4/29/2010
Posts: 7,706
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Originally posted by Chris101
2 years ago, when I was in grade 7 (14-15 years old), I trusted my close friends and told them that I'm gay. 3 out of 4 of them laughed at me, told their friends that and then never talked to me again because "I'll embarrass them." That was awful. I was really disappointed, depressed, nervous, angry and sad not only because they acted that away but also because I felt how stupid I was to trust them and tell them that. We were really close friends, I was just... Ugh, shocked. Next year, I convinced my parents to change my school and they did.
I'll never forgot those days.
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I can't even imagine what you went through. I can be happy that I have friends that are really happy about me beeing gay. It's a thing you should, from now on, tell person's who you know REALLY GOOD.
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
Posts: 8,096
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Originally posted by JRtheMonster
My dad HATES me
We always fight and he always hurts me
He also said to me that he wished I wasn't his son
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I realize that no matter how much a child hates their parents, even if they don't live with them or talked to them in 30 years, just hearing your parents say they wish you were never born still effects them. I hate my parents, I don't care if they call me all these crap, etc etc but I remember when my mom said she wished I wasn't born and I literally broke down inside.
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Member Since: 9/27/2010
Posts: 22,568
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Originally posted by SiXo
I can't even imagine what you went through. I can be happy that I have friends that are really happy about me beeing gay. It's a thing you should, from now on, tell person's who you know REALLY GOOD.
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You're right.
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Member Since: 5/11/2011
Posts: 7,159
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Why therapy when u have this thread, **** Doctor Phil, and all those ****ing pseudo doctors, I get you guys, your history's are so inspiring and make my life look so good (no shade intended) I love you and I hope all those bad feelings and memories go away some day and you can heal, and be great human beens, we are young and this is only the beginning and you have to know that we will be better than all those mother****ers that make us feel miserable, because we will be stronger and we won't do the same to others because we know how much it hurts!
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