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Discussion: Would you date a HIV+ person?
Member Since: 1/8/2012
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Originally posted by abrahamjmr
Finally a post I can completely read.
I am also currently dating a person with HIV, he's undetectable and we've had protection anytime we've been together. I got tested a couple of months ago and I don't have HIV.
People should try to get more information about it. People with it can have a normal life like anyone else as long as they're taking their treatment and using protection.
I been reading all these ignorant comments but I can't blame them, when people don't have enough information about it, they tend to think that way. |
This is awesome. Thank you 
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Member Since: 9/8/2011
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Originally posted by Lyrical.
Okay girl. Keep those stereotypes alive.
So now everyone who gets it is promiscuous and a ****? Your ****ty friends represent every case? That's completely FALSE. Goodness, you're ****ing ignorant. 
There are people with HIV in this thread and you're being so ****ing insensitive and rude making general assumptions on something you barely know anything about. Just leave the thread before you embarrass yourself any further, child. |
I just answered the question in the OP. Which is yes, if the person is normal in terms of behaviour (which majority HIV+ sadly isn't imo), but I still wouldn't sex him. No one asked for your 2 cents darling.
If the person is promiscuous & doesn't know how to act and protect himself, I am not dating him, simple.
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Member Since: 6/2/2011
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No, not really! But I wouldn't have a problem to be friends!
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Member Since: 6/24/2012
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Originally posted by Lyrical.
This is awesome. Thank you |
I'm still impressed by the amount of ignorant people on this site. They say no but I wouldn't have problems on being friends... I even read about HIV+ should only date HIV+ or something like that. Quite pathetic. I've been with a person who didn't know how he contracted it, it wasn't entirely his fault, but he's made me learn every single day that HIV is nothing but a condition, like diabetes or high blood pressure problems. People are so uneducated on this kinda matters and we are already in 2015. But you can't ask too much to some gays in here, it's understandable... They only care about pop girls and chart positions.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by abrahamjmr
I'm still impressed by the amount of ignorant people on this site. They say no but I wouldn't have problems on being friends... I even read about HIV+ should only date HIV+ or something like that. Quite pathetic. I've been with a person who didn't know how he contracted it, it wasn't entirely his fault, but he's made me learn every single day that HIV is nothing but a condition, like diabetes or high blood pressure problems. People are so uneducated on this kinda matters and we are already in 2015. But you can't ask too much to some gays in here, it's understandable... They only care about pop girls and chart positions.
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IKR instead of admitting to being uneducated on the topic they post these ignorant posts I just hope noone (including guests) were hurt by reading some of these disgusting posts 
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Member Since: 6/24/2012
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Originally posted by KasioKas
IKR instead of admitting to being uneducated on the topic they post these ignorant posts I just hope noone (including guests) were hurt by reading some of these disgusting posts |
Me too. I've also learned people with HIV is healthier than a person who does not have it. They take care of their health a lot, which is incredible. I am disgusted by some of the comments in here. The fact that they got their fingers on a keyboard and can't take a moment to Google what HIV is says too much bout them.
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Also, at the people saying NO and making ignorant comments, I hope you realize that if you're sexually active, you've statistically already slept with one, or many, HIV+ individuals. The only difference is that either a) They didn't know they have it or b) They lied to you about not having it. Let that sink in for a moment 
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Originally posted by Lippy
Stay mad, I talked to several HIV+ people and they all got it because they were promiscuous/messy/****ty or jumped into sex without thinking twice. I don't date these. This personality is not normal to me. Sorry, no sorry.
And yeah I'm old enough.
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This just might be the most tragic post I've read in the 13 years I've been on ATRL. Congrats
You do know it is possible to get HIV from a monogamous relationship right? Or that it's also possible to be born with it? Are you even aware that rape exists? I really really really hope you were simply trolling and nobody caught it
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Are people still trying to convince others that HIV is somehow comparable to Diabetes? 
Not wanting to date someone with HIV doesn't mean you're ignorant, at all. Attempting to insult someone who doesn't - does make you ignorant though. Even with all the information out and new drugs I STILL would never date or sleep with someone who has HIV. And that's my decision. Respect that.
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Originally posted by QueenBLadyG
Are people still trying to convince others that HIV is somehow comparable to Diabetes?
Not wanting to date someone with HIV doesn't mean you're ignorant, at all. Attempting to insult someone who doesn't - does make you ignorant though. Even with all the information out and new drugs I STILL would never date or sleep with someone who has HIV. And that's my decision. Respect that. |
Very respectable. Nobody has an issue with that. The real issues here are:
a) People trying to pass off misinformation as real scientific knowledge and
b) People saying things like "You're promiscuous, ewwwwww, you don't deserve love, you made poor life decisions, you lack good character"
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by Vato
Very respectable. Nobody has an issue with that. The real issues here are:
a) People trying to pass off misinformation as real scientific knowledge and
b) People saying things like "You're promiscuous, ewwwwww, you don't deserve love, you made poor life decisions, you lack good character"
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I completely agree about the points made.
Please be respectful of others' feelings people. Could you imagine what it must be like to have a disease that people will shun you for? Have some empathy and support those who need it. Don't make them feel even worse about their situation by spreading ignorance. If you don't think you would date someone with HIV simply state no, or include a small paragraph explaining your feelings, and move along. No place for judgments. Mistakes happen.
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Member Since: 6/24/2012
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Originally posted by QueenBLadyG
Are people still trying to convince others that HIV is somehow comparable to Diabetes?
Not wanting to date someone with HIV doesn't mean you're ignorant, at all. Attempting to insult someone who doesn't - does make you ignorant though. Even with all the information out and new drugs I STILL would never date or sleep with someone who has HIV. And that's my decision. Respect that. |
Nobody is forcing anyone to date a person with HIV. We are calling ignorant those who said no because they were disgusted or something and those who tried to state something without knowing what they were really talking about.
It's not like diabetes but they're similar in an aspect, which is requiring a lifetime treatment. That's why I quoted those who said they wouldn't date someone with HIV because of that reason. Not that I am trying to change their mind though.
Our point is, people with HIV are STILL and CAN have normal life and they deserve love as much as any other person. 
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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If they were undetectable, and I was on PrEP, and we always used protection, I don't see why not.
The chances of contracting it would be virtually 0%.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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This post is so full of ignorance, it's really sad read some things. If you don't wanna date someone who is HIV+, you're the problem.
1. You're contributing to discrimination towards who is HIV+.
2. You're helping the HIV+ to keep themselves inside the closet and don't tell to the world about their condition.
3. You're helping the HIV+ who doesn't know their condition to don't go the hospitals. They will be afraid to go there!
4. You're helping to spread the misinformation about how advanced the treatments are nowadays.
5. Go see a psychologist, the real problem is you.
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Originally posted by Ruschi
This post is so full of ignorance, it's really sad read some things. If you don't wanna date someone who is HIV+, you're the problem.
1. You're contributing to discrimination towards who is HIV+.
2. You're helping the HIV+ to keep themselves inside the closet and don't tell to the world about their condition.
3. You're helping the HIV+ who doesn't know their condition to don't go the hospitals. They will be afraid of doing it!
4. You're helping to spread the misinformation about how advanced the treatments are nowadays.
5. Go see a psychologist, the real problem is you.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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And sorry for my bad english, I'm so upset and angry rn that I can't even type properly.
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Member Since: 7/12/2010
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Originally posted by Oktober Knight
For YEARS I promised myself that I would never be in a relationship with someone who was HIV+. I am proud to say that I am in a happy, stable relationship with someone who is positive and it doesn't even bother me in the slightest. TBH, I actually forget about it most of the time.
I have come to realize that it is no big deal. It's the person that really counts...
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What are you proud for? I get what you're trying to do, but you do realize saying things like that just further perpetuates and dehumanizes someone with HIV? There's nothing to be proud of as if dating someone HIV P is a privilege for you or them.
Stop speaking about people as if they're pets that we choose to pat on the head every once in a while. HIV or not, they are still human.
If someone says no, they have every right to say that. I don't understand the people getting upset over that. HIV is not some natural disease we have no choice but to have in life.. So if someone would rather not risk themselves possibly getting it, they are not wrong for that.
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Member Since: 7/12/2010
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Originally posted by Ruschi
This post is so full of ignorance, it's really sad read some things. If you don't wanna date someone who is HIV+, you're the problem.
1. You're contributing to discrimination towards who is HIV+.
2. You're helping the HIV+ to keep themselves inside the closet and don't tell to the world about their condition.
3. You're helping the HIV+ who doesn't know their condition to don't go the hospitals. They will be afraid to go there!
4. You're helping to spread the misinformation about how advanced the treatments are nowadays.
5. Go see a psychologist, the real problem is you.
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Seriously? What kind of unrealistic world do you live in?
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