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Discussion: Your Crush Thread 2.0
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Saint BeyNavi bullys me. All I wanted to do is #PromoteOnlineKindness but its hard doing it while being surrounded by trash.  #ForgiveMeMotherGaga
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
Saint BeyNavi bullys me. All I wanted to do is #PromoteOnlineKindness but its hard doing it while being surrounded by trash. #ForgiveMeMotherGaga |
Bitch if anyone here is trash it would be you. Lets not. 
Talking about you don't need to take time to figure out your problems them weeks later say you do and break up with your bf, only to say like a day later than you don't need the time and that you real want him but he's not feeling it so now you're already trying to move on with someone else.
I'm sleep though...
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Originally posted by Saint BeyNavi
Bitch if anyone here is trash it would be you. Lets not.
Talking about you don't need to take time to figure out your problems them weeks later say you do and break up with your bf, only to say like a day later than you don't need the time and that you real want him but he's not feeling it so now you're already trying to move on with someone else.
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Help me then, and stop paying me dust.
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my post getting ignored
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Originally posted by Chemical X.
omg i have my first legitimate crush on a girl. my bisexuality is finally being tested 
anyway, i've heard about her for a while but she wasn't on my radar until earlier this year when she sent me a FB friend request. i accepted, wondering at the time how she even knew about me. we go to the same school but we had never talked. i always thought she was a little weird, but in a fashionable and interesting way. i also knew that she hung out with one of my school's out and proud lesbians. a lot. that doesn't really prove anything but i aways thought she was into girls.
fast forward to last week. she's in the hallway with the aforementioned lesbian. lesbian says hi to me and i was going to keep it moving but then SHE stops me and is like "i want to get to now you. everyone says your awesome." i was so taken aback because i've really been thinking about her these past few weeks, before this conversation even happened. she's so beautiful and fashionable. i've been really wanting to get to know her and it was such a weird coincidence. i basically told her that the feelings were mutual.
now i say hi to her in the hallway and we smile at each other a lot. she asked me to watch her coffee mug this morning when she ran to get something from her locker. the other day i stopped her and put my number in her phone with the smug emoji. now i can't stop thinking about being in a relationship with her, secret or public. i haven't felt this strong of an emotional connection with someone in ages. i just want to hang out with her all the time and make memories and make her my baby. i want to give her advice and be her rock since i'm a year older than her. these feelings are so sudden and i don't know what to do. i want to text her but i don't have her number. i always compliment her makeup and clothes. how do i make a move? what if she's not even into girls? i'll be so sad  |
well, she's suspect as f*ck already because she hangs out with the most outted lesbian there, but they could literally just be friends.
anyway, i think the thing for you is to just keep going on the path you're headed. Just let it take you where you need to go & if you feel the time is right, make a move. However, not too soon & not too late.
Also, don't be scared to get heart broken, it may be that she just wants to be friends. Either way, you should at least attempt to pursue her
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Ugh, stop acting like you're upset 
Anyway, going off of what I believe Daniel or someone else said about you and happiness. You need to learn how to find happiness within yourself. You can't say you're happier because of someone or that your happiness derives from deign with someone because all that does is screw you up internally makes you dependent upon them and being with them. In doing so, you're hurting yourself. What i've noticed is that you seem as if you can't be alone. You always have someone there with you or you're always with someone and that's not good. When I said you needed time to figure yourself out, I really meant that's what you need because you can't truly be happy with someone or bring something great or new to a relationship and know someone else when you don't even really know yourself. You're running away from something. You can't say that you aren't because I know you are. I don't what you're running away from but it's something, and I can tell that something scares the hell out you cause if it didn't, you wouldn't have given up on the "finding yourself" as quickly as you did. Just my opinion.
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Originally posted by Saint BeyNavi
Ugh, stop acting like you're upset
Anyway, going off of what I believe Daniel or someone else said about you and happiness. You need to learn how to find happiness within yourself. You can't say you're happier because of someone or that your happiness derives from deign with someone because all that does is screw you up internally makes you dependent upon them and being with them. In doing so, you're hurting yourself. What i've noticed is that you seem as if you can't be alone. You always have someone there with you or you're always with someone and that's not good. When I said you needed time to figure yourself out, I really meant that's what you need because you can't truly be happy with someone or bring something great or new to a relationship and know someone else when you don't even really know yourself. You're running away from something. You can't say that you aren't because I know you are. I don't what you're running away from but it's something, and I can tell that something scares the hell out you cause if it didn't, you wouldn't have given up on the "finding yourself" as quickly as you did. Just my opinion. |
I get what your saying, but I equally agree with Meziks points. 
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Sometimes it takes a special person to make you happy. When I was seeing the guy I liked, I was in a really bad state and had troubles being happy. I just came out to everyone and was a nervous wreck, got into a serious car accident and found out my nana was diagnosed with terminal cancer. When I was with him / talking with him those were the only moments I truly felt happy and it was because he brought out my happiness.
Maybe you see it that you're only happy with him because it's still the beginning of your relationship? Also reading this it seems like the two of you got into a bit of arguments. Maybe if you just take it at a slower pace, not leave him, than it'll be better? And then again it may just be because he brings out your happiness better than anyone else. |
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I get what your saying, but I equally agree with Meziks points. |
I can tell you right now that although what he said sounds as if it is right and like it's okay, it's not. It's not okay. It's not right and it's definitely not healthy. If i've learned anything in my studying, it was this. People can say whatever they want about psychology but I haven't read or studied anything that was not the complete and utter truth.
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
I get what your saying, but I equally agree with Meziks points. |
you don't have to leave him. You just need to find yourself & be happy with that. Then the relationship will run smoothly.
You said it yourself, you need to find out whether you want to be with boys or girls & until you find that out, you're not going to be giving your all, you'll just be wandering around, confused.
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Originally posted by marajxgrant
you don't have to leave him. You just need to find yourself & be happy with that. Then the relationship will run smoothly.
You said it yourself, you need to find out whether you want to be with boys or girls & until you find that out, you're not going to be giving your all, you'll just be wandering around, confused.
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I just remembered a hilarious story about a former crush/fling. He was really tall and skinny, quite good looking actually. He does modelling, but anyway we wound up hating each-other and ignore each other on the street these days. Anyway when we were dating, I was living in my first year uni hall and he came over afternoon and we were lying in bed with our shirts off and there was a knock on the door and I was like whatever, whoever it is can come back later because the door was locked. THEN I heard the door unlock and in walks in this repairman thanks to a master key to fix the built in heater and he just looked us surprised and unsure and he was like "uhh can I just quickly do this?" and I was like "oh sure..." like trying to sit up in bed next to former-crush looking unphased while former-crush just lay there looking embarrassed.
The worst part was the repairman literally only took a few seconds to turn a few valves, but he had to LITERALLY lean over us to do so and I didn't want to get up because... well let's just say standing up wasn't an option just then, and needless to say I died a thousand deaths of embarrassment.
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Originally posted by Gazing Ball
I just remembered a hilarious story about a former crush/fling. He was really tall and skinny, good looking actually he does modelling but we wound up hating each-other and ignoring each other on the street these days. Anyway when we were dating and I was in my first year uni hall, he came over afternoon and we were lying in bed with our shirts off and there was a knock on the door and I was like whatever, whoever it is can come back later and the door was locked. THEN suddenly I heard the door unlocked and in walks in this repairman with a master key to fix the built in heater and he just looked us surprised and he was like "uhh can I just quickly do this?" and I was like "oh i'm sure" like trying to sit up in bed next to former-crush looking unphased while former-crush just lay there looking embarrassed.
The worst part was the repairman literally only took a few seconds to turn a few valves, but he had to LITERALLY lean over us to do so and I didn't want to get up because... well let's just say standing up wasn't an option just then, and needless to say I died a thousand deaths of embarrassment.
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i literally spit my juice out @ the end. lmaoooooo
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anyway sistrens, i have a problem. Cameron locked his phone for some odd reason & now he's being less sexual with me. i suspect he's cheating but idk
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Daniel, you have too many suspicions for me. I would have been done with ha 3 weeks ago.
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sis let's not talk about you cuz..nvm. i'm trying to be helpful towards you these days.
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Im not even that bad. Just a tad ****ty.
You are just a tool atm tho.
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You don't just start having a passcode on your phone a month into a relationship. & you don't start losing sexual interest a month in.
he's ****ing someone else & i am NOT having it.
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Bitch, we know you will go back to him.
Just enjoy yourself while it lasts.
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i literally spit my juice out @ the end. lmaoooooo
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So embarrassing but thank god we weren't doing anything more than lying in bed together. 
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