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Discussion: Your boyfriend watching x-rated movies-Problems in Dating
Member Since: 5/10/2012
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I just want to cross the year long threshold. The longest I've went dating someone was 7 months, with a 27 yo while I 19. He was looking to settle down and I wasn't having it, but thankfully we ended the relationship amicably and are still friends. Currently 3 months into a relationship with another man so hopefully we'll get there
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Originally posted by moonlight.
my problem with dating is that guys can go from talking to you EVERYDAY then go to avoiding you and never talking to you again, without a single damn trace.
it's so.. ugh.
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This
Like atleast tell me "lets stop talking because...."
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by moonlight.
2016 has barely really started and i've already been in 7 relationships
this one guy i started talking to like on Monday and everything was going good, we were moving really fast but we would talk on the phone (among other things) and it was great. we were supposed to hang out friday but cancelled. then today but he wasn't replying back to my texts then after the 50th text he replied 'What up'
.... like???
i just deleted our text thread and everything of him from my phone. and the fact that he was SO HOT, grown (he was 26), had his **** together (i'm sure it was all a lie now), verse, and just truly my match... i'm kinda hurt & bothered by it.
my problem with dating is that guys can go from talking to you EVERYDAY then go to avoiding you and never talking to you again, without a single damn trace.
it's so.. ugh.
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Member Since: 5/10/2012
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Originally posted by that G.U.Y.
No! He is 5'5" and very much overweight.
The thing is he made SO MUCH money in the 70s and 80s doing real estate. He owns an apartment complex here in the city. He has money and is set for life.
Im seriously thinking of pulling an Anna Nichole Smith and marrying this man so i can be set for life, but i dont want to spend my 20s chained to this ogre!
I just keep thinking "What would Lana do?"
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Lana was prepared to **** Barry for a high paying job so she'd probably stay
Looks like you're **** out of luck unless you can convince him to do an open relationship
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by moonlight.
my problem with dating is that guys can go from talking to you EVERYDAY then go to avoiding you and never talking to you again, without a single damn trace.
it's so.. ugh.
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Gurl SAME
But this whole thing is so weird for me because usually I'm really good at making guys intrigued by me and making them fall in love with me. I always make them make the first move, do the first kiss, say I love you first, etc. So this is my first time ever being interested in someone that lost interest, and it's weird because a week ago he was 5x more interested in me than I was in him. At least we dated while my car was broken so I made him pick me up from work every day
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by that G.U.Y.
No! He is 5'5" and very much overweight.
The thing is he made SO MUCH money in the 70s and 80s doing real estate. He owns an apartment complex here in the city. He has money and is set for life.
Im seriously thinking of pulling an Anna Nichole Smith and marrying this man so i can be set for life, but i dont want to spend my 20s chained to this ogre!
I just keep thinking "What would Lana do?"
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Lights, camera, acción
I'll do it on my own
Don't need your money, money
To get me what I want
All I wanna do is get high by the beach
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Dump ha nasty ass sis! You don't need no man
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by DAP
Lana was prepared to **** Barry for a high paying job so she'd probably stay
Looks like you're **** out of luck unless you can convince him to do an open relationship
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Hm. Let me call him. Thank you, @DAP sis and @Caesar
@Indie i dont use Honeymon
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Originally posted by Caesar
This
Like atleast tell me "lets stop talking because...."
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exactly!! like atleast let me know your not interested and give me a valid reason (it wont make any difference but still, it helps with closure). but when they just do it out of nowhere and you have to be the one to give your own self closure.... that **** hurts. it really ****ing hurts.
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Originally posted by Donquizote
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i'm not even kidding, it's a mess lol
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Originally posted by Jackson
Gurl SAME
But this whole thing is so weird for me because usually I'm really good at making guys intrigued by me and making them fall in love with me. I always make them make the first move, do the first kiss, say I love you first, etc. So this is my first time ever being interested in someone that lost interest, and it's weird because a week ago he was 5x more interested in me than I was in him. At least we dated while my car was broken so I made him pick me up from work every day
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tbh i fall in love fast, like literally in a week im head over heels, drop dead in love so it's like both ways for me, they fall fast and i fall fast. but normally, like you, they always end you falling harder first and for a guy to be so down for you, blow you up constantly, send you the sweetest texts, then basically disappear like any one hit wonder from the 90's??? like... ugh.
the only thing i'm more mad at is that he did this before he bought me anything. now if i got those jockstraps i wanted that i wanted him to get me, i wouldn't even be mad. i mean,
free sexy underwear >>> no good for nothing men, tbh
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by moonlight.
tbh i fall in love fast, like literally in a week im head over heels, drop dead in love so it's like both ways for me, they fall fast and i fall fast. but normally, like you, they always end you falling harder first and for a guy to be so down for you, blow you up constantly, send you the sweetest texts, then basically disappear like any one hit wonder from the 90's??? like... ugh.
the only thing i'm more mad at is that he did this before he bought me anything. now if i got those jockstraps i wanted that i wanted him to get me, i wouldn't even be mad. i mean,
free sexy underwear >>> no good for nothing men, tbh
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Well same with me, but in all my relationships it tends to go super fast and we both fall super in love with each other really quick. I think a month is the longest I've gone before a bf has told me he loved me . So this time around I was trying to take it slow and do everything right to make something that would last but I guess it didn't work for whatever reason
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Originally posted by Jackson
Well same with me, but in all my relationships it tends to go super fast and we both fall super in love with each other really quick. I think a month is the longest I've gone before a bf has told me he loved me . So this time around I was trying to take it slow and do everything right to make something that would last but I guess it didn't work for whatever reason
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true that, like mine go fast and honestly there's nothing wrong with going fast, well to me their isn't. it's just finding the guy that's worthy to even be talking to is the problem tbh.
i think... maybe 2 weeks before a guy tells me he loves me?? or shorter lol, idk wtf i be doing that makes them say it that fast
& !!! SAME. that makes me bring up this other guy i started talking to,
there's this one guy i met at this restaurant and he was the Host and we started talking and texting afterwards for like over a month. i was doing what my friends told me and what he wanted, taking it slow and seeing where it goes. then we had a lunch date and it WAS SO GREAT.
and then one night we were texting about planning a 2nd date.. then he went m.i.a.??? then i dm'ed him on twitter 2 weeks later saying 'okay whatever i get it' and then he said 'OMG NO NO NO I NEVER SAW YOUR TEXTS' (r.i.p.) and we went back to texting for a bit, then he went M.I.A. again.
then when i get off of work, he had the nerve to text me '... i have a boyfriend now.. i'm sorry' and they were already dating for a week at that point.. like?? what kind of ********?
and he had the nerve to keep on texting me back until i just stopped texting him cause all he was saying was 'yeah' 'okay' lmao' to my long ass, emotional paragraphs. he's such a piece of **** for that whole ordeal and it just proved to me, no matter what, whether you wan't to talk it slow or go fast, it won't work if the guy doesn't put the same effort back/end up leaving regardless. because even when you get to know those ****ers, they still pull the same ****. i can't win or lose honestly.
dating makes me want to be a prostitute. just **** me and pay me, i'll be content with that.
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Member Since: 5/14/2009
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Originally posted by moonlight.
2016 has barely really started and i've already been in 7 relationships
this one guy i started talking to like on Monday and everything was going good, we were moving really fast but we would talk on the phone (among other things) and it was great. we were supposed to hang out friday but cancelled. then today but he wasn't replying back to my texts then after the 50th text he replied 'What up'
.... like???
i just deleted our text thread and everything of him from my phone. and the fact that he was SO HOT, grown (he was 26), had his **** together (i'm sure it was all a lie now), verse, and just truly my match... i'm kinda hurt & bothered by it.
my problem with dating is that guys can go from talking to you EVERYDAY then go to avoiding you and never talking to you again, without a single damn trace.
it's so.. ugh.
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That's because you're not tha only one they're talking to.
And you can't possibly have been In 7 relationships in a matter of 5 months?
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by moonlight.
true that, like mine go fast and honestly there's nothing wrong with going fast, well to me their isn't. it's just finding the guy that's worthy to even be talking to is the problem tbh.
i think... maybe 2 weeks before a guy tells me he loves me?? or shorter lol, idk wtf i be doing that makes them say it that fast
& !!! SAME. that makes me bring up this other guy i started talking to,
there's this one guy i met at this restaurant and he was the Host and we started talking and texting afterwards for like over a month. i was doing what my friends told me and what he wanted, taking it slow and seeing where it goes. then we had a lunch date and it WAS SO GREAT.
and then one night we were texting about planning a 2nd date.. then he went m.i.a.??? then i dm'ed him on twitter 2 weeks later saying 'okay whatever i get it' and then he said 'OMG NO NO NO I NEVER SAW YOUR TEXTS' (r.i.p.) and we went back to texting for a bit, then he went M.I.A. again.
then when i get off of work, he had the nerve to text me '... i have a boyfriend now.. i'm sorry' and they were already dating for a week at that point.. like?? what kind of ********?
and he had the nerve to keep on texting me back until i just stopped texting him cause all he was saying was 'yeah' 'okay' lmao' to my long ass, emotional paragraphs. he's such a piece of **** for that whole ordeal and it just proved to me, no matter what, whether you wan't to talk it slow or go fast, it won't work if the guy doesn't put the same effort back/end up leaving regardless. because even when you get to know those ****ers, they still pull the same ****. i can't win or lose honestly.
dating makes me want to be a prostitute. just **** me and pay me, i'll be content with that.
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I think we're like the same person when it comes to dating tbh. My problem right now is just finding a good guy that would make a good boyfriend. In the past 2 years I've always found bf's so easily and almost never been single apart from when I forced myself to be fall of 2014. But now that I'm starting to want a bf I can't find ANYONE. There's a few cute guys but they're the 1 word text types or just won't put any effort, and obviously there's tons of meh looking guys out there. I tried taking it slow this time thinking it would make the relationship last longer, so we wouldn't burn out really quick cause I've heard the slower you take it the longer it will last. But maybe that's not true, maybe I need to fall in love fast like usual. But yeah dating is really frustrating me right now
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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And I also can't understand people who can't be single I prefer to be single and free rather than being in relationship
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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@moonlight sis! the number 1 rule to keep in mind when dealing with men is understanding you arent their one and only. They will always have 3+ guys/girls on their minds. Dont be pouring your heart out to every man you keep for a month
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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omg how do I relate to all yall's posts
im messin around with this MAN right now (he's 24) and woo girl
im not sure about the future though
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by Donquizote
And I also can't understand people who can't be single I prefer to be single and free rather than being in relationship
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I used to be like that. I would be single for a week or two and then get in a relationship with someone else. I just needed to be loved so bad . After my most recent breakup that ended with my bf cheating on me the day after Christmas I decided I needed to QUIT and learn to enjoy myself and time alone and be happy being single. I finally got to that point but now I'm ready to find someone again, I think I finally figured myself out enough to be in a relationship again
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Originally posted by iLays
That's because you're not tha only one they're talking to.
And you can't possibly have been In 7 relationships in a matter of 5 months?
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yeah but who's fault is that? you can't make someone only talk to you? because 9/10, their gonna go right behind your back and do it anyway. i've done it before and it backfired right in my fast and i got cheated on.
& i 110% can assure you, i have. granted, it's because they've lasted either a week to 3 weeks, so that's mostly why. like literally. i love, love honestly and i'm so forgiving and never let my past hurt get to me but it's so, i'm just tired of getting ****ed over. i've took a year (well, 4 1/2 months) off of dating last year for a bit and that was great and being single is wonderful, but i prefer being with someone. being single just makes me a hoe (i mean i am regardless) but i rather be a hoe for one guy. one guy i can always be there for and do anything to and love and just treat amazingly. it doesn't sound hard but it really ****ing is.
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Originally posted by Jackson
I think we're like the same person when it comes to dating tbh. My problem right now is just finding a good guy that would make a good boyfriend. In the past 2 years I've always found bf's so easily and almost never been single apart from when I forced myself to be fall of 2014. But now that I'm starting to want a bf I can't find ANYONE. There's a few cute guys but they're the 1 word text types or just won't put any effort, and obviously there's tons of meh looking guys out there. I tried taking it slow this time thinking it would make the relationship last longer, so we wouldn't burn out really quick cause I've heard the slower you take it the longer it will last. But maybe that's not true, maybe I need to fall in love fast like usual. But yeah dating is really frustrating me right now
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omg since you've said it, i can see resemblance to the both of us in regarding that aspect lol. and that's my same problem honestly. i find either the handsome guys that cant hold a convo to save their life and they still end up being trash, cute, nerdy attractive guys that treat you great & sweet but still **** you over, ugly guys that worship the ground you walk on but STILL **** you over, like, it feels like i've dated every damn guy in the history of gay texas (other countries as well) mankind. i can't find not a single guy either, like, why is it so god damn hard??
& honestly, your right. going fast can burn **** out quick, but that's mostly because the guy you found isnt the one to be with anyway. one of my longest relationships was with a guy i dated within a week and it went great. we only broke up cause he didn't want to do long distance and when we tried.. just didn't work out.
& honestly, just do you. fall in love fast is never wrong no matter what anybody says. it's your life, and your love life matter of fact, so do what YOU feel right, honestly.
dating is trash.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Jackson
I used to be like that. I would be single for a week or two and then get in a relationship with someone else. I just needed to be loved so bad . After my most recent breakup that ended with my bf cheating on me the day after Christmas I decided I needed to QUIT and learn to enjoy myself and time alone and be happy being single. I finally got to that point but now I'm ready to find someone again, I think I finally figured myself out enough to be in a relationship again
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OMG. You really sound like a guy I am dating currently He said that being single makes him a mess.
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Originally posted by that G.U.Y.
@moonlight sis! the number 1 rule to keep in mind when dealing with men is understanding you arent their one and only. They will always have 3+ guys/girls on their minds. Dont be pouring your heart out to every man you keep for a month
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like, i know i'm not their one and only.. but they treat me like i am which is ****ing confusing??
'oh your sos weet! no guy has ever been this nice and caring as you are. i love it tbh'
*2 weeks later*
nothing. like?? it's honestly like guys, gay ones in particular, have the capacity and brain of a ****ing piece of wood. like, i keep getting hurt and the fact i keep bouncing back like nothing is wrong is just, i surprise myself honestly. i've dated guys from my age to 79 years old, granted there are good ones out there (some i ruined when i was younger, smh ) but alot of them are just, trash. so believe me, no matter the age, men are still boys, smh.
& like your saying, they can have other people on their minds, but don't treat me and say i'm the only one your talking to when you got the whole continent of Alaska in our back pocket, like that does the neither of us any favors. & thats another habit, i always give it my all. i give 110% to every guy i keep for a day let alone a month and it all goes well until, to quote 'Blank Space', it ends in flames.
ugh, maybe i'm destined to be in a shiity relationship after ****** relationship always. idk.
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op: if you really feel like it's moving too fast then tell him you want to slow it down. it's on him if he can't be patient with you. especially if you were up front about just getting out of a relationship. do what's in your own best interest. it's only been a month. you don't owe him anything
my own problem is the type of guys I like. I always attract/go after hood guys. I try to date nice, professional, upstanding guys but I always end up bored. not that hood dudes treat me bad or anything, but most of the time they're super dl and I know it's not leading anywhere, but it's exciting and their mannerisms are so sexy. plus free weed. I think I just need to be patient and single until I find an edgy good guy (if they exist)
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