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Discussion: Gays: Do you believe in monogamy?
Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Never. Then it's not real love for me.
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by King B
I'm not gay, but I don't understand why Yall think monogamy is just a thing between straight people?
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Or that straight people don't have open relationships as well. Like, swinging culture says hello 
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Member Since: 12/16/2008
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Let's be honest at this time (2013) it's really really really hard to keep a relationship no matter if you're straight, bi, gay or whatever. I believe in the monogamy but it's something that it's not common nowadays.
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Member Since: 9/5/2011
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Originally posted by inspiration4
Monogamy is not a gay/straight thing, though many gay men in open relationships will try to tell you otherwise.
I personally believe in monogamy, though I wouldn't be opposed to bringing in a third person every once in a while to spice things up.
What really matters is honesty, and that both participants in the relationship are on the same page.
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See that's what I'm talking about. I wouldn't dare let anyone touch my boyfriend! Ever!
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
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But no, I couldn't be in an open relationship.
I have no problems having friends with benefits, but a relationship is something I want to invest my time and energy in and I wan't to know that it can grow.
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Member Since: 12/15/2008
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Originally posted by Aphrodite
Never. Then it's not real love for me.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Yes 
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Member Since: 3/19/2012
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Again, stop assuming everyone's gay. Yes.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Yes. It's a choice, i'd be on a relationship tempted to **** around with others but wouldn't allow myself to do it. It's my choice, i can control myself, and i expect the same from a partner. If someone can't do the same and go to the open relationship route, it's their business, maybe it can work for them.
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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Since I do not equate sex with love (although sex with the person you love is better), I could have an open relationship if it was something we both wanted and were honest about it.
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Member Since: 3/22/2012
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I personally want to have a monogamous relationship for myself; however, open relationships can work when both people agree that they are comfortable with it. I just wouldn't be, myself.
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Member Since: 5/22/2011
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I honestly wouldn't be able to date someone who wanted to have sex with others. If I date you, you're mine and I'm not going to share your dick. That's the way it is. 
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by clbylara
See that's what I'm talking about. I wouldn't dare let anyone touch my boyfriend! Ever!
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Okay, great. Then don't have an open relationship. Problem solved.
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Member Since: 10/4/2009
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Originally posted by Vertigo Stick
Different relationship styles work for different couples. I could not be in an open relationship, especially because I am gay. I don't want to widen the chances of getting STDs. On top that, being exclusive makes the relationship even more special If I wanted to keep my options open, then I would simply just do that!
And it is important to know what style works best for you. I agree with the user who said honesty is important. I'd rather my partner tell me he's into open relationships so that we could go on our separate ways, rather than he cheat on me. |
This!!
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ATRL Senior Member
Member Since: 3/22/2012
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Originally posted by Goosey
Again, stop assuming everyone's gay. Yes.
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Nobody is assuming that everyone is gay; the "Gays:" at the title clearly means that it's a question directed toward gays, not that they think everyone here is gay.
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Member Since: 9/16/2011
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Yes, I believe in monogamy.
A monogamous relationship is the only relationship I'll accept. I won't settle for anything less. Yeah, I may be gay, but I also want to get married one day to ONE guy & have ONE family with him. Maybe I'm selfish.
I think of it this way: If I'm in a relationship with someone, I want to give them 100% of me. Not 50%, not 75%, but 100%. And I want 100% back. I don't like the idea of 'sharing' someone you're supposed to be so emotionally/physically connected to. It's just a nasty breeding ground for jealousy/insecurity/messiness, IMO.
Then again, I don't really understand the allure of "open relationships", anyway. How are they any different from a friends-with-benefits situation, except adding all of the emotional baggage that a relationship can bring?
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Member Since: 5/28/2010
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Yeah. Why wouldn't I?
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Member Since: 8/4/2012
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Originally posted by Goosey
Again, stop assuming everyone's gay. Yes.
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You stay perched in threads being overly loud about your heterosexuality. Stop.
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by Ice Cream Skies
Yes, I believe in monogamy.
A monogamous relationship is the only relationship I'll accept. I won't settle for anything less. Yeah, I may be gay, but I also want to get married one day to ONE guy & have ONE family with him. Maybe I'm selfish.
Then again, I don't really understand the allure of "open relationships", anyway. How are they any different from a friends-with-benefits situation, except adding all of the emotional baggage that a relationship can bring?
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You answered your own question.
An open relationship also implies open communication. You don't just get to **** whoever you want, you have to have permission and you have to be honest with each other.
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Member Since: 4/6/2011
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I plan on giving my future husband a lie detector test every 3 months to make sure that he isn't cheating. 
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