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ATRL: The Question: Are You Gay?
Member Since: 1/3/2010
Posts: 21,098
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Originally posted by Shape
It's annoying as **** tbh.
I love how they're like "Oh this might like totally offend you" before they say it. Bitch just don't ****ing ask.
I'm honest, but I'll usually find a way to be really condescending towards them.
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It's like, why even fix your lips to ask then? I used to get so pissed about it in high school.
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Member Since: 2/17/2012
Posts: 33,611
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I'm honestly not bugged by it, I'm pretty much open about my homosexuality. I just don't really care who knows and who doesn't. I know not everyone is in the same boat with me and I can understand why it'd annoy them though.
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Member Since: 5/4/2011
Posts: 20,807
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I have been asked so many times, and I hate it. I've been asked before I even knew if I was or not. Now that I know I'm bi, I find the question even more awkward and irritating, but now I can be honest and say 'no' on a technicality.
The most annoying instances are when people go behind my back and ask one of my friends if I am or not, and then the friend will come and tell me what they've just been asked.
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 10/3/2010
Posts: 12,334
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Originally posted by Midnight
It's like, why even fix your lips to ask then? I used to get so pissed about it in high school.
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Yeah, one time I was in a pissy mood so I said something along the lines of "This might offend you, but are you happy with your ****** body?"
Those ****ing vapid bitches. As happy as I was in high school, it was the girls who were the sad burnouts from the remedial schools that pissed me off
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Member Since: 8/4/2010
Posts: 12,356
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Once upon not too long ago, it used to bug the hell out me
When someone used to ask me if I was gay.
I would first be startled and caught off guard by the question and then I would just laugh it off.
Feeling embarrassed for being exposed on the outside, but on the inside, I was devastated.
But now I am more comfortable with it.
I don't let my sexuality define who I am as a person.
So a simple "y..es I am.." if I were to be ask and move on from the subject.
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Member Since: 12/26/2011
Posts: 14,707
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I'm still in the closet, and I get asked that question everyday at school. I don't know why they find it important. Even when I have given them an answer they keep on asking.
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 10/3/2010
Posts: 12,334
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Quote:
Originally posted by pika
I'm still in the closet, and I get asked that question everyday at school. I don't know why they find it important. Even when I have given them an answer they keep on asking.
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Call them stupid ****s, and snatch those bitches right out of the ****ing game.
High school girls are so stupid. Just make fun of their physical appearance and they'll leave you alone. Mostly out of fear.
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Member Since: 1/29/2012
Posts: 5,585
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Quote:
Originally posted by pika
I'm still in the closet, and I get asked that question everyday at school. I don't know why they find it important. Even when I have given them an answer they keep on asking.
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If it's a dude, you should be like, "Why? Interested?" Or just don't even worry about it. The people doing the asking are probably complete and utter ****wits anyway.
I used to be asked about my sexuality pretty frequently, but I'm not anymore... like, ever. I guess I'm more intimidating now than I was in junior high. I remember I used to find being asked those kinds of questions almost traumatizing.
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Banned
Member Since: 6/15/2011
Posts: 6,134
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if i dont know them... yes
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Member Since: 6/15/2011
Posts: 41,028
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It's no different than asking you about your family and stuff so yeah - it's something personal and if you barely know the person well, yeah.
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ATRL Senior Member
Member Since: 3/19/2008
Posts: 37,076
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Why do they need to ask when they're already correct with their suspicion? Most people are just so nosy.
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Member Since: 11/19/2009
Posts: 1,524
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It's annoying when it's the ONLY thing they ask you. Like okay, it's all good and well to slip it into a conversation and be polite about it. But just asking "Are you gay" and leaving it at that....is it THAT important?
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Member Since: 6/17/2011
Posts: 1,341
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TBH, I dunno! I mean, i like girls and guys but i'd never have sex with a guy. I feel it's gross. I just want a boyfriend to make out with and confide in. And when people ask me "Are you gay?" , my heart beats out too fast and i become depressed. I honestly don't know why
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Member Since: 7/21/2007
Posts: 17,522
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i never get asked
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Member Since: 12/23/2011
Posts: 554
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Quote:
Originally posted by RainMan
i never get asked
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Me neither. Y'all must act or look pretty gay to be asked that question
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Member Since: 8/12/2007
Posts: 15,237
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I NEVER get asked that question anymore. I did when I was in middle school though. It really just depends how flamboyant you really are.
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Member Since: 10/1/2011
Posts: 4,686
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It's funny when they try to do it very casually
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Member Since: 2/9/2008
Posts: 32,819
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Never gotten asked, but I don't think I'd be offended. It's probably easy for me to say that because I don't get asked and I don't face direct homophobia from people I'm not out to (of course there's always straight privilege etc.). But I look at it from a logical perspective: straight people who ask that usually aren't being malicious. They probably don't know a lot of gay people, and because straight is the norm, they're always surprised/curious when they think they've found a queer person and they want to get some closure.
That said, I wouldn't answer right away. I'd want to know why they were asking.
I know I've been guilty of this kind of thing when it comes to other kinds of minorities; it's just human nature. And it's rather a waste of energy to get mad over that. Sometimes the other person is just trying to connect with you, even if it's ill-conceived. They might be gay too! Regardless, it shouldn't matter and it shouldn't happen, but it does, and it doesn't bother me.
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Member Since: 12/26/2011
Posts: 14,707
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Quote:
Originally posted by Shape
Call them stupid ****s, and snatch those bitches right out of the ****ing game.
High school girls are so stupid. Just make fun of their physical appearance and they'll leave you alone. Mostly out of fear.
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Originally posted by U4EA
If it's a dude, you should be like, "Why? Interested?" Or just don't even worry about it. The people doing the asking are probably complete and utter ****wits anyway.
I used to be asked about my sexuality pretty frequently, but I'm not anymore... like, ever. I guess I'm more intimidating now than I was in junior high. I remember I used to find being asked those kinds of questions almost traumatizing.
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I love you guys.
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Member Since: 10/1/2011
Posts: 4,686
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Originally posted by eli's_rhythm
Never gotten asked, but I don't think I'd be offended. It's probably easy for me to say that because I don't get asked and I don't face direct homophobia from people I'm not out to (of course there's always straight privilege etc.). But I look at it from a logical perspective: straight people who ask that usually aren't being malicious. They probably don't know a lot of gay people, and because straight is the norm, they're always surprised/curious when they think they've found a queer person and they want to get some closure.
That said, I wouldn't answer right away. I'd want to know why they were asking.
I know I've been guilty of this kind of thing when it comes to other kinds of minorities; it's just human nature. And it's rather a waste of energy to get mad over that. Sometimes the other person is just trying to connect with you, even if it's ill-conceived. They might be gay too! Regardless, it shouldn't matter and it shouldn't happen, but it does, and it doesn't bother me.
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