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Discussion: Your Crush Thread 2.0
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
So, I sorta dumped him last night. 
Last night I learned how much I need to sort myself out and relationship wont solve that. I told him I still want to date him but, I need time for myself and he really understood. It was so cute, he is still living in my house ect, so we havent fell out. |
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
So, I sorta dumped him last night.
Last night I learned how much I need to sort myself out and relationship wont solve that. I told him I still want to date him but, I need time for myself and he really understood. It was so cute, he is still living in my house ect, so we havent fell out. |
Is this still the same guy that went away for two months? 
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Originally posted by Sadie Saxton
Is this still the same guy that went away for two months? |
Yes.
He came home for the weekend but, ended up staying here as he wasnt enjoying his course and already had a job he enjoyed (also, partly me).
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Originally posted by Kid A
Whenever Spin post something in here im like:
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
Whats so messy about this mother BeyNavi? |
The fact that you should have done this a long time ago when I first told you to because, let's be honest, he's still living there. How are you going to say you can't be with him right now and that you need time to work on yourself, with him still there. Knowing you, you'll probably end up ****ing him and getting back with him in the process of "working on yourself" thinking that you'll be fine when in reality, you'll probably just be making things worse and not even know it.
With all that being said, my statement still stands. You're a mess. You're life is a mess. Can't blame no one but yourself. Your choices, your consequences, your demons that you have to live with now.
Have fun sorting through it all 
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Originally posted by BeyNavi
The fact that you should have done this a long time ago when I first told you to because, let's be honest, he's still living there. How are you going to say you can't be with him right now and that you need time to work on yourself, with him still there. Knowing you, you'll probably end up ****ing him and getting back with him in the process of "working on yourself" thinking that you'll be fine when in reality, you'll probably just be making things worse and not even know it.
With all that being said, my statement still stands. You're a mess. You're life is a mess. Can't blame no one but yourself. Your choices, your consequences, your demons that you have to live with now.
Have fun sorting through it all |
I dont think anythings that messy. I mean its just:
- I need to be more confident in my own skin.
- Need to work out my full sexuality and work out what I want to fullfil in life (do I want a life with a man or woman).
I dont think I've that many bad choices. I still dont get the "im a mess" comments. I like sex. Its a human need (as much as our culture tries to change that). Pre this year, I only had one other sexual partner. Im just currently in my blackout era.
I dont understand youre "I always told you this" when you were just saying "dump him" hardly constructive.
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Member Since: 3/3/2014
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
I dont think anythings that messy. I mean its just:
- I need to be more confident in my own skin.
- Need to work out my full sexuality and work out what I want to fullfil in life (do I want a life with a man or woman).
I dont think I've that many bad choices. I still dont get the "im a mess" comments. I like sex. Its a human need (as much as our culture tries to change that). Pre this year, I only had one other sexual partner. Im just currently in my blackout era.
I dont understand youre "I always told you this" when you were just saying "dump him" hardly constructive. |
well, his advice can be interpreted/manipulated however you want. But in all truth, mostly everyone wanted you to dump him because they felt like you're not in the right place in your life & that that particular relationship was detrimental.
But you're not wrong for wanting sex. That's totally normal. But you should know that the 'mess' comments aren't serious. We're all tragic messes here, don't take us seriously 
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y'all talking about sex like it's so easy to get and crushes are so easy to find and every time I come to read this thread all I think is what do they do that I don't. 
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Originally posted by marajxgrant
well, his advice can be interpreted/manipulated however you want. But in all truth, mostly everyone wanted you to dump him because they felt like you're not in the right place in your life & that that particular relationship was detrimental.
But you're not wrong for wanting sex. That's totally normal. But you should know that the 'mess' comments aren't serious. We're all tragic messes here, don't take us seriously |
Urgh. Its so confusing.
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Originally posted by Mezik
y'all talking about sex like it's so easy to get and crushes are so easy to find and every time I come to read this thread all I think is what do they do that I don't. |
it isn't that hard...
well maybe if you live in a small community but otherwise it's not difficult.
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Originally posted by marajxgrant
it isn't that hard...
well maybe if you live in a small community but otherwise it's not difficult.
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It seems damn near impossible for me to find someone here. 
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My life is a **** tip. I am just...urgh. Why do I put myself in these situations?
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I probably hate BeyNavi because everything he said is true.
Y'all never help tho. You just say whats wrong with them, not how to solve it.
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Member Since: 3/3/2014
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Originally posted by Mezik
It seems damn near impossible for me to find someone here. |
then go somewhere else. don't be so local.
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
I probably hate BeyNavi because everything he said is true.
Y'all never help tho. You just say whats wrong with them, not how to solve it. |
there isn't much we can say to be helpful, other than that you need to take some you time.
also, it seems like you never really truly wanted help.
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Listen to this mess...
So I'm talking to a hot guy for a few days now and we seem to get along. When we were talking about drag race he mentioned that he would love to kai kai with me, as would I with him. So all is going great. Then suddenly I check his profile again and I see that he is 5'2....
Honey I'm 6' I mean does that even work? one time I went on a date with someone shorter than me it was a mess and I never saw him again.
But with this guy I just want some fun tbh... But I'm mostly bottom so would that even work?
Idk what to do  He is hot tho! And he has a beard!
Should I try and have fun with him or should I go top or what... help a sis 
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Originally posted by DongYong
Listen to this mess...
So I'm talking to a hot guy for a few days now and we seem to get along. When we were talking about drag race he mentioned that he would love to kai kai with me, as would I with him. So all is going great. Then suddenly I check his profile again and I see that he is 5'2....
Honey I'm 6' I mean does that even work? one time I went on a date with someone shorter than me it was a mess and I never saw him again.
But with this guy I just want some fun tbh... But I'm mostly bottom so would that even work?
Idk what to do He is hot tho! And he has a beard!
Should I try and have fun with him or should I go top or what... help a sis |
 I'm sure he won't have a problem with it (if he's a top). But I feel the same way. The shorter one being the top is not something seen every day, and I wouldn't want a shorter guy. Luckily, I'm not THAT tall.
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Originally posted by Gazing Ball
 My crush story is this. I was seeing this cute guy for like three weeks and I was really into him and he drunkenly told me he liked me and that was enough for me to fall head over heels for him. And best thing - he lived in the apartment directly under ours! So easy access.
Anyway so all of my friends knew me and him we were sorta a thing, and one day at a party there's this sorta-friend of mine who's hot and I'd always thought he might be gay. Let's call him Frenemy. But anyway J'Lo's "Dance Again" video came on at the party and he was so into it and I was like to my friends "TOLD YOU HE'S GAY!" and they were all like "Blah blah one girly pop song doesn't a gay make" and I was like "okay... ".
Anyway, fast-track that night we all went out to town (clubbing) and I went home at like midnight cause I had to start my awful part-time job at the time at 5.40am. When I got up at like 4.30am I found my flatmates were still awake and drunk-ish and chilling in the lounge and they told me about their night. After town they went to my crush's apartment and watched a movie, noticing my Frenemy "drunkenly" getting weirdly close to my crush. And then they said they left and said my Frenemy was just gonna sleep on his floor.
ANYWAY I had to go to work and was furiously texting my crush trying to get the lowdown and trying to be as cool as possible when dying of jealousy. And eventually he confessed they shared the same bed and he didn't want to see me anymore etc. So I was crushed.
Fast-forward two years, I'm still hopelessly obsessed and they're still happily together. And I forgot to mention my Frenemy is undeniably gorgeous with a nice body. me tbh. Haven't talked to them once since (but have abused my crush drunkenly and kicked him out of one of our parties - I was a mess!) and managed to mostly ex-communicate them from our mutual friend group though, well at least when I was around. |
Just posted this update/memory in the "Die Young Appreciation" thread, but when Ke$ha's "Die Young" came out a guy I liked my crush had just ditched me for my friend and he was starting to show up to places together with him and the line "oh what a shame that you came here with someone" CRUCIFIED me emotionally. I remember during a party going to cry in the bathroom and then coming out and having to pretend I was fine in front of them.
He lived in the apartment below me too, literally underneath me, and I could hear them having sex one night. It was my absolute death.
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Originally posted by Quiqui4eva
I'm sure he won't have a problem with it (if he's a top). But I feel the same way. The shorter one being the top is not something seen every day, and I wouldn't want a shorter guy. Luckily, I'm not THAT tall. |
I always though tops should be around the same height as the bottom
Maybe If I tried it would work hmm :/
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Originally posted by Gazing Ball
Just posted this update/memory in the "Die Young Appreciation" thread, but when Ke$ha's "Die Young" came out a guy I liked my crush had just ditched me for my friend and he was starting to show up to places together with him and the line "oh what a shame that you came here with someone" CRUCIFIED me emotionally. I remember during a party going to cry in the bathroom and then coming out and having to pretend I was fine in front of them.
He lived in the apartment below me too, literally underneath me, and I could hear them having sex one night. It was my absolute death.
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Oh sis 
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