[Tropez]

Originally posted by Last Boy on Earth

this happened to me a few weeks ago, and I'm pretty light skin (mixed). I can only imagine what my darker sistrens go through. btw the guy was Italian (not surprising)

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However, there are places where they LOVE guys with darker features, Croatians, Hungarians, Czechs... they will quickly kick a white guy to the curb for a black/latino guy, maybe because they barely have any black people in their countries but since I moved to Budapest I met tons **** of guys who obssess over black gays.

I want to know is this a good thing?

Because it almost sounds like they're making them to be fetishes or sex objects. This is a similar issue with Asian women. They are a fetish to some men.

[AALIYAH DANA]

Originally posted by Mhs90

Nothing wrong with stating you're not into/attracted/want to sleep with a specific type of person based on PHYSICAL attributes like height, weight, and skin color. For instance, I'm of Indian descent but prefer not to sleep with/go out with Asian persons.

But attributing MENTAL characteristics like behavior or stereotypes to a specific group of people based on skin color is RACIST.

Soooo you're not attracted to your own race?

[Gossamer™]

[Mhs90]

Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA

Soooo you're not attracted to your own race?

I should have been clearer. Asian as in Chinese/Japanese/Korean etc.

And before you have a spree, I have friends of all ethncities. I just don't feel the need to add an Asian penis into my ass to make myself feel universally accepting of all ethncities.

[h.u.r.r.i.c.a.n.e]

i seen SOOO many fine black guys, they missin out

[AALIYAH DANA]

Originally posted by Mhs90

How about you make two accounts--one fit, chiseled Asian guy and one obese, flabby Asian chub. You will get the same difference in response.

Not everyone should be obligated to find a black penis or a white smooth ass exciting. People have different preferences

You're missing the whole point. This is deeper than preferences. These "preferences" extend outside the bedroom and show how people really view POC and treat them in real life. you think it's okay to message a black guy and tell him to block you because he doesn't wanna waste a block on a black

[Mhs90]

And what about the other side of the spectrum?

I see guys, esp white subs, on Grindr specifically referencing their preference for "BBC". Is this racist? Or is it now just a preference for dark meat?

[Mhs90]

Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA

You're missing the whole point. This is deeper than preferences. These "preferences" extend outside the bedroom and show how people really view POC and treat them in real life. you think it's okay to message a black guy and tell him to block you because he doesn't wanna waste a block on a black

Obviously not as I didn't interject that at all in my posts so let's not stretch any points in the discussion, yeah?

I agree some genuinely don't want to be associated with POC including sexual encounters because of racist ideas in their head. But if other users' profiles states, for example, "Middle Eastern men to the front" or "Open to all. Whites and Latinos a plus"...I don't find them racist whatsoever..

[AALIYAH DANA]

Originally posted by Mhs90

And what about the other side of the spectrum?

I see guys, esp white subs, on Grindr specifically referencing their preference for "BBC". Is this racist? Or is it now just a preference for dark meat?

Those white twinks are just as problematic because their sexualizing a stereotype of black men

[AALIYAH DANA]

Originally posted by Mhs90

Obviously not as I didn't interject that at all in my posts so let's not stretch any points in the discussion, yeah?

I agree some genuinely don't want to be associated with POC including sexual encounters because of racist ideas in their head. But if other users' profiles states, for example, "Middle Eastern men to the front" or "Open to all. Whites and Latinos a plus"...I don't find them racist whatsoever..

I agree. Those are ACTUALLY preferences. But I feel like your talking about the topic in general and not the experiment it's self that the article conducted.

[Mhs90]

Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA

Those white twinks are just as problematic because their sexualizing a stereotype of black men

100% agree, yet does that constitute racist idealogy? I don't think so.

My "preference" is a hairy Middle Eastern guy. Most typical feature of a Middle Eastern to be sexualized...as is the BBC of blacks...or the tiny body twink like habitus of the Yellows. It's not racist to do that but it is wrong to treat a specific group like a slab of meat.

[Mhs90]

Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA

I agree. Those are ACTUALLY preferences. But I feel like your talking about the topic in general and not the experiment it's self that the article conducted.

I'm not denying what the article says but there's some users on here who believe a "preference" doesn't exist. As if I am mandated and bound by the rules of morality to accept guys from every ethnicity into my bed or force them to be on my radar.

[Mettaton]

Originally posted by Mhs90

And what about the other side of the spectrum?

I see guys, esp white subs, on Grindr specifically referencing their preference for "BBC". Is this racist? Or is it now just a preference for dark meat?

A lot of the time it's fetishization which is a problem as well.

[AALIYAH DANA]

Originally posted by Mhs90

I'm not denying what the article says but there's some users on here who believe a "preference" doesn't exist. As if I am mandated and bound by the rules of morality to accept guys from every ethnicity into my bed or force them to be on my radar.

i think it's because the word preference is be misused. Preference would be saying I like both white guys and black guys but I like white guys more. What are y'all are trying to say is that you like certain races but dislike others. That's not preference

[St. Charles]

I think preference is misused as well. If you're going to say "I don't find people with large / flat noses attractive," then that is a preference. But people seem to be saying "All _____ people have large / flat noses, and therefore all ______ people are unattractive" instead. That's literally the textbook definition of racism because you are attributing distinct characteristics and features to a specific race.

[Robert]

Grindr is trash though so it's unsurprising

[Mhs90]

Totally agree with the two posts above. I probably am misusing the term then.

But at the same time, I really DGAF if someone says "Oh, I'm not into brown dudes" or "are you sure you have good hygiene (because I'm Indian and I guess we bathe in dirt and mud daily? idk). Like it's more comedic to me that people are this retarded so I don't take it personally when someone doesn't wanna associate with me solely based on my race. Same can't be said with the Millenial generation though. They have an excessive need to be accepted, loved, and nurtured by everyone.

[AALIYAH DANA]

Originally posted by Mhs90

Totally agree with the two posts above. I probably am misusing the term then.

But at the same time, I really DGAF if someone says "Oh, I'm not into brown dudes" or "are you sure you have good hygiene (because I'm Indian and I guess we bathe in dirt and mud daily? idk). Like it's more comedic to me that people are this retarded so I don't take it personally when someone doesn't wanna associate with me solely based on my race. Same can't be said with the Millenial generation though. They have an excessive need to be accepted, loved, and nurtured by everyone.

Or, maybe because it's 2016 and POC have the voice now to stand up against these micro aggressions. Idk about you. You but we should not be stereotyping in 2016

[Mhs90]

Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA

Or, maybe because it's 2016 and POC have the voice now to stand up against these micro aggressions. Idk about you. You but we should not be stereotyping in 2016

I'd worry more about the macro- like equality for job opportunities and equal access to health care or living spaces.

Not who accepts me on Grindr or who appreciates my big brown ass.

[genetic fail]

It's a ****ing homo hookup app what yall expect? Class and sophistication? 😂😂😂