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Discussion: Straight crush experience?
Member Since: 9/8/2011
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Originally posted by Caprice
My worst straight crush experience was 2 years ago, we were in the same class and he sat behind me.
He asked me what time it was when his phone died and that was the extent of our relationship.
I've never had so much chemistry with someone in my life and our astrological synastry chart proves it.
When I was in the "I have to get over him" phase, he once had a discussion about me with the girl next to him, while I was RIGHT THERE, and he said he found me "intriguing".
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
Posts: 35,289
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Originally posted by Raster
Young love is a whirlwind like that. The people involved aren't mature enough to understand the implications and often end up cutting ties with one another. All you can do is learn from your experience and be thankful that at least you got some memories you can reminisce in the future. It might not seem much but even memories that are apparently meaningless can still hold some emotional value for you
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**** the memories. It will only hurt you when it comes up to your head.
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
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Originally posted by Lippy
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Isn't that what happened in Mean Girls?
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
Posts: 511
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Originally posted by AxelFox
Ok, so notihng happened.
I went to sleep next to him because there were still like 3 hours until the main show. I wasn't sure how to act as we haven't slept together for more than a year, but I hugged him from behind. After some time, before I fell asleep, he removes my hand from him. It was not the first time he did it, he did it in the past too bc you know, people change their position during sleep when they get uncomfortable, but this time it was different, I felt it. He didn't snuggle back to me like he used to do once, he just rotated on the other side of the bed and slept there the whole night.
After hearing him talk about that damn girl the entire evening, I was so over this moment I've been lusting for. We were so close, but so far away at the same time. That conncection between us is just not there anymore.
If I ever had a doubt before, everything is clear now. He is straight, we were just young teenagers when everything happened between us, he moved on with his life, and I pretty much moved on with mine. I was quite surprised because it didn't hurt me as much as I thought it would, it was actually like "Ok, I kind of expected it, meh " and I just fell asleep on my side of the bed.
I still wanted to try Bie's plan, 'cause you know, a horny teen is a horny teen, but when we woke up for the show he was still sleepy and he fell right back asleep after a few minutes. So I didn't have the chance to drink with him last night, maybe it could have worked on another ocasion.
Next thing we wake up in the morning, I was on my phone reading the media about VMAs. He asked me if I wanted to do something together but I just said "I'm going home". I'm sure now that he's someone who I want to leave in the past.
I guess life is not filled with happy endings
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Good, get over him. If anything continuing to keep things like this with him will do you no good. Make sure you make him understand that you aint here for that **** anymore.
I know I migh sound mean but like sis there's no point anymore
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
Posts: 5,843
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Originally posted by Bie
AxelFox, OMG! Im sorry that didn't happen the way you wanted it to be but why do you give up now? I mean he is not going to love you or date you, but at least you should be able to do something sexual with him since you crushed on him. Do you expect a long-term relationship as a couple? No way! It is not going to happen cos he is straight. Ocassional fun is what will probably happen if you try.
Dont feel sad and I think you should stop wanting to be loved by a straight guy. IT IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. If you want that kinda relationship, Bi guys should be the best choices. When you crush someone, keep telling yourself that you only want his dick, not his love
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Originally posted by ThugginGrande
Aw I'm sorry. Maybe you can try playing hard to get. Make him miss you enough that maybe he'll actually be trying to initiate physical contact instead. And getting him to drink would surely help. Hope everything works out though. At the very least you guys seem to have a good friendship.
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Well I'm moving out of town for college next month. This was probably my last night with him.
I'm not sad, I think I've come to terms with the fact that we will never be together like a couple a long time ago, I just tried to give it another chance last night.
I really want to find someone who I can have a proper relationship with. With such a big city comes new people, the sun will rise again on my street soon, I'm sure of it!
I'll always have some feelings for him, that's for sure, he represented such a big and important part of my life, but I'm gonna keep them in a very very small corner of my heart and go my way.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
Posts: 5,843
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Originally posted by welham
Good, get over him. If anything continuing to keep things like this with him will do you no good. Make sure you make him understand that you aint here for that **** anymore.
I know I migh sound mean but like sis there's no point anymore
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I know, I'm not planning to anyways. I don't know how I could tell him that since I barely had the courage to tell him I was in love with him last time and he seemed to have forgotten that anyway It probably won't make a difference
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
Posts: 35,289
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Originally posted by AxelFox
Well I'm moving out of town for college next month. This was probably my last night with him.
I'm not sad, I think I've come to terms with the fact that we will never be together like a couple a long time ago, I just tried to give it another chance last night.
I really want to find someone who I can have a proper relationship with. With such a big city comes new people, the sun will rise again on my street soon, I'm sure of it!
I'll always have some feelings for him, that's for sure, he represented such a big and important part of my life, but I'm gonna keep them in a very very small corner of my heart and go my way.
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Please just tell him that you are gay okay?
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by Bie
Please just tell him that you are gay okay?
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I basically did.
Here's how it happened. It was June last year and I went to a party and got really drunk and I called him to come down in the front of the apartment building he lives in but it was like 3 am and he couldn't but asked me what it was but I changed my mind and didn't say a thing.
In the morning he called me to ask me again but I still didnt tell him, I said it was nothing I was drunk.
The at noon he came at my door and said "let's walk". We went for a walk and I finally made the courage to tell him I've been in Love with him for 3 years. He said it was wrong, I said I understood and asked him to not look for me anymore and I'll do the same.
He did so for like 4 months when we started to see eacother again and hang out together again and all he ever said about it was "Are you still mad at me from last summer?" WHat was that supposed to mean? lol
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
Posts: 2,920
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Originally posted by AxelFox
I basically did.
Here's how it happened. It was June last year and I went to a party and got really drunk and I called him to come down in the front of the apartment building he lives in but it was like 3 am and he couldn't but asked me what it was but I changed my mind and didn't say a thing.
In the morning he called me to ask me again but I still didnt tell him, I said it was nothing I was drunk.
The at noon he came at my door and said "let's walk". We went for a walk and I finally made the courage to tell him I've been in Love with him for 3 years. He said it was wrong, I said I understood and asked him to not look for me anymore and I'll do the same.
He did so for like 4 months when we started to see eacother again and hang out together again and all he ever said about it was "Are you still mad at me from last summer?" WHat was that supposed to mean? lol
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Your story as a whole is just *feels*
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by IMadeYouReadThis
Your story as a whole is just *feels*
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Lol I talked about it so much here that I feel I started to annoy people, I should probably stop haha
And I could still talk so much about it, there are so many stories from those years
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
Posts: 35,289
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Originally posted by AxelFox
I basically did.
Here's how it happened. It was June last year and I went to a party and got really drunk and I called him to come down in the front of the apartment building he lives in but it was like 3 am and he couldn't but asked me what it was but I changed my mind and didn't say a thing.
In the morning he called me to ask me again but I still didnt tell him, I said it was nothing I was drunk.
The at noon he came at my door and said "let's walk". We went for a walk and I finally made the courage to tell him I've been in Love with him for 3 years. He said it was wrong, I said I understood and asked him to not look for me anymore and I'll do the same.
He did so for like 4 months when we started to see eacother again and hang out together again and all he ever said about it was "Are you still mad at me from last summer?" WHat was that supposed to mean? lol
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Damn! I have just been wasting zo much time commenting on your situation. Bye
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
Posts: 3,581
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Originally posted by Bie
**** the memories. It will only hurt you when it comes up to your head.
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Not true since you already got over that guy and probably eyed another guy anyway. Memories are great to keep even if they didn't lead to a happy ending
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
Posts: 2,920
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Originally posted by AxelFox
Lol I talked about it so much here that I feel I started to annoy people, I should probably stop haha
And I could still talk so much about it, there are so many stories from those years
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this is literally the one place you can keep talking about these stuff and people would read... I would...
And I think I'm doing the same because my story isn't as interesting
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
Posts: 35,289
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Originally posted by Raster
Not true since you already got over that guy and probably eyed another guy anyway. Memories are great to keep even if they didn't lead to a happy ending
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If that is how it works for you, then it is okay. For me, I only remember who I used to give Britney Jean too.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
Posts: 5,843
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Originally posted by Bie
Damn! I have just been wasting zo much time commenting on your situation. Bye
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Thanks for everything you said until now! And to everyone who took the time to read and reply to my posts haha
I will definitely keep in mind the strategy you suggested for future opportunities
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
Posts: 35,289
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Originally posted by AxelFox
Thanks for everything you said until now! And to everyone who took the time to read and reply to my posts haha
I will definitely keep in mind the strategy you suggested for future opportunities
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Why did you tell him you loved him? you were lucky you didnt get beaten up.
You really should'nt have said that. Those straight guys will feel so uncomfortable. And let me guess, you looked very serious when you told him you loved him. Right? That is the way you lose. You cant do this to the next guy.
Just tell them you think they are hot and cery charming and if he needs some Britney Jean, you will be so very happy to give it to him. AND DONT BE SERIOUS WHEN YOU SAID THAT. YOU NEED TO SPEAK IT LIKE YOU ARE JOKING.
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
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I'll share my story later.
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Member Since: 7/1/2009
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Im sorry but the 'Are you okay? " just reminded me of You Belong With Me.
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Member Since: 9/8/2011
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Anyway gorls like 3 years ago I started visiting an english class and there was this boy I never saw before. He was so cute....one of the cutest boys I have seen in my life. He had 2 female friends with him and I chatted with all of them and then learned to know that he lives near my region etc, we added each other on FB, had small talks when we met each other in the corridor etc. I always got straight vibes from him because he wasn't feminine at all, but my gaydar still couldn't let it go, cos he was so cute.....Then some time later we were at one disco together (the whole class was there) and I got drunk (not sure if he did too) and I wanted to ask him if he's gay but I didn't. I just didn't want to embarrass/expose myself and actually I tried to stay away from him cos I didn't want to build too big crush...
Well as the time was passing by we sometimes travelled home together in train etc, but we didn't really become "huge" friends. We were always "only" schoolmates (cos I am usually really hard to make friends, I am really introvert and socially awkward)...And we kinda lost contact when our school timetables didn't really match anymore the following 2 years. So we would only see each other rarely and would never really talk much.
Over these 2 years he also kinda got uglier - his hair started getting really thin... and in the meantime I found a boyfriend I am currently with.
Last week though, I found one guy at the local gay app and when I mentioned my school he told me he knows another gay boy from my year...Guess who...He exposed him to me. So my gaydar was right the whole time...but I can't confront him about it...and I don't even care...I have my boyfriend....However maybe 2 years ago, if I were more brave... I mean he used to be my crush
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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I have something similar happen
it started as us just being friends and everything we hung out he'd hold me or cuddle me or something stupid
then eventually it lead to us doing sexual acts
and the other day we were together and he got drunk and he kissed me and told me that he loved me
and I was taken by surprise so I stayed quiet and he just said that no matter what happens he'll always be there to protect me. I got him to get sober for like 3 hours and then made him go home lol
but to be honest I would never enter a relationship with him. it would be wayyyyy too complicated
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