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Discussion: Serious Topics Thread [Been followed at a retail store?]
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What if you have a partner for 20+ years and he leaves you. The thought
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Same. I daydream about having a successful relationship with someone, but I have depression, social anxiety, low self-esteem etc so I know that no one will like me for who I am. The time I saw someone for a while last year I kept on asking why he liked me because I didn't understand. I just thought he was desperate.
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I had this too with my ex but he made me feel really good about myself and I wanted to be a better person because of him, so I worked hard and lived my life to the fullest, I hope you get that kind of feeling too one day!
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Well the first step to solving a problem is actually giving it a name. From one part of your story it seems like youre introverted and thats fine, but i dont know about your dreaming and disconnection from everything. Maybe if you found the right person you would rather spend time with them than be alone, maybe you need that one guy who will snap you out of it. Honestly i dont know.
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I've always been an introvert person I guess, I mean it's not like I don't care about others because I really do and I help whenever they need, but I just feel like they rather have me not around them.
And it's true what you say about meeting the right guy, the relationship that I was in made me a whole other person, a way better one.
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Originally posted by Su-Barbie-A
I'm nervous about not being with/meeting someone that loves me when I'm 30+ years old. I wouldn't know what to do.
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Stop it... I'm so nervous about that.
Plus I came to the age where almost all my friends are engaged or near that phase and I'm still single.
Let me have my meltdown in my bed tonight.
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Change of topic?
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Originally posted by ChainDolla
And your ****ing avi is making me depressed like i want someone like that right now naked on my bed *plays Rihanna Cockiness*
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Girl, TTT represents all the sides of love and the way I view it. Love that album
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Originally posted by Su-Barbie-A
I'm nervous about not being with/meeting someone that loves me when I'm 30+ years old. I wouldn't know what to do.
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I don't think that's gonna happen honestly, if you give it your all and you know the other person does too, it HAS to work out.
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Originally posted by Cain
I had this too with my ex but he made me feel really good about myself and I wanted to be a better person because of him, so I worked hard and lived my life to the fullest, I hope you get that kind of feeling too one day!
I've always been an introvert person I guess, I mean it's not like I don't care about others because I really do and I help whenever they need, but I just feel like they rather have me not around them.
And it's true what you say about meeting the right guy, the relationship that I was in made me a whole other person, a way better one.
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I know it's hard but please dont think of it that way, like use your logic, why would anyone be around you or want to hang out with you if they actually dont want you around? I understand you completely and its so frustrating because i cant explain to you that your point of view is all wrong ugh but at least try and give it a thought and TRY to change the way you see people around you
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I fell asleep sorry. On to blackface if people are comfortable talking about that.
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Originally posted by Su-Barbie-A
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Guys rarely message me because I don't have "masculine" traits, I'm 100% twink so the only time someone messages me, there is a high chance of them being pedophiles.
I don't hook up though, when I exchange messages with other guys about doing it, I become nervous and step out.
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I relate why aren't young guys attracted to twinks? They're all mainly old creeps wanting to dominate or be dominated. Like
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Originally posted by Su-Barbie-A
I'm nervous about not being with/meeting someone that loves me when I'm 30+ years old. I wouldn't know what to do.
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My biggest fear
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Originally posted by Cain
I had this too with my ex but he made me feel really good about myself and I wanted to be a better person because of him, so I worked hard and lived my life to the fullest, I hope you get that kind of feeling too one day!
I've always been an introvert person I guess, I mean it's not like I don't care about others because I really do and I help whenever they need, but I just feel like they rather have me not around them.
And it's true what you say about meeting the right guy, the relationship that I was in made me a whole other person, a way better one.
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It's so much worse in a gay relationship where obviously one of the members is seen as expendable (ie. the less hot one) by other gays. Too many times have I heard people criticizing a gay couple in such a way.
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Originally posted by ChainDolla
That is one of my biggest fears like i think about the possibility of having 50 years with no family and no life companion and i just cant like oh my god
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I could probably adopt a child and find pets but who knows? I'm still young and shouldn't worry about that but I'm just old fashioned and want a nice relationship.
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Originally posted by SupahBass05
You're not the only one. I don't think I mesh well in a relationship, but then I see shows where a gay couple is so adorable cuddling and all and I start weeping cuz it's so cute. *plays Rihanna WAWL*
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I'm afraid of compromising, I opened my heart to this guy that said he liked me but 3 months later he told me that he didn't like me more than friends. I'm afraid of getting hurt again.
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Stop it... I'm so nervous about that.
Plus I came to the age where almost all my friends are engaged or near that phase and I'm still single.
Let me have my meltdown in my bed tonight.
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If you aren't 35+ years old, you still have a chance, good sis.
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Not us turning this thread into a session to pour our hearts out and pat each others backs
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Originally posted by I Am Music
I fell asleep sorry. on to blackface if people are comfortable talking about that.
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Anything is fine by me. This topic is just exclusive to gays and bis so just a broader topic would work
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Originally posted by ChainDolla
Not us turning this thread into a session to pour our hearts out and pat each others backs
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I think its great we can support each other.
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Originally posted by Kade
I relate why aren't young guys attracted to twinks? They're all mainly old creeps wanting to dominate or be dominated. Like
My biggest fear
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Not even bears, you'd think that they want to dominate young guys but no, they want other bears.
#Justicefortwinks
We should all move in together if we don't find someone.
ATRL sistrens unite.
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Originally posted by ChainDolla
Not us turning this thread into a session to pour our hearts out and pat each others backs
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Pour it up, pour it up.
That's how we (emotional gays) ball out.
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Originally posted by ChainDolla
Not us turning this thread into a session to pour our hearts out and pat each others backs
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teh struggle is REAL.
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I think the saddest thing is we're more or less the same. Struggle as one.
*Mariah shaking fist gif*
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Originally posted by SupahBass05
It's so much worse in a gay relationship where obviously one of the members is seen as expendable (ie. the less hot one) by other gays. Too many times have I heard people criticizing a gay couple in such a way.
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Well, like I said, we didn't know any gay people and because of his religion the only people who knew were our mutual friends, my family and his siblings.
Oh and people like at theme parks and pools and stuff, we didn't care about strangers' opinions.
But we are both good looking, obviously he has a better body because of his kickboxing but still.
(Don't call me expendable I have problems enough. )
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Originally posted by I Am Music
I think its great we can support each other.
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It is actually, i forgot for a minute that we are on ATRL and am actually enjoying the discussion
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Originally posted by SupahBass05
It's so much worse in a gay relationship where obviously one of the members is seen as expendable (ie. the less hot one) by other gays. Too many times have I heard people criticizing a gay couple in such a way.
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Actually it's not only gays, i mean people will judge you for the most trivial ****
god knows how many times i saw a couple and thought "that guy is way too hot for that bitch, he deserves better, they not gonna last, he cheating on her"
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