Honestly going back to Sony would be so smart for her.
She could get some of her rights back too I bet.
And leaving labels is part of her path to a comeback In order for Mariah to have a hit era, she needs to have a flop album and switch labels She's coming
Ok so senior year at high school, spring break = turn up, go all out, etc.
Most of the people in my friend group said going to Disney would be really cute and all. Then last week in our Fb group chat one of my friends who didn't wanna go got angry when we talked about Disney. Which probably explains why a few days later another one of my friends, Lo, PMed me instead of talking in the chat about Disney.
Except she said "hey u would still wanna go to disney during spring break? bc me and alicia talked to patrick and he made a chat with me, patrick, alicia, and bpan bc we all wanna go so if u wanna, u can prob get in on it as long as we have a total that is a multiple of 4"
And the thing is Patrick and Benjamin aren't even in our friend group but Lo is talking to me like this group of 4 is already established and I'm some afterthought with a chance of going. Even though we're supposed to be a really close group of friends and I had already said how I wanted to go as well. So even though she was being all smiley and hopeful I was just like oh...thanks
Like another problem is the fact that I'm deeply insecure socially and I have this paranoia of people not liking me or wanting to be with me, no matter if they're my closest friends or family. So even if this multiple of 4 issue were to work out because it had to do with hotel rooms or some sort of special package Patrick or Benjamin had access to, I wouldn't want to go with them anymore because they thought about me last.
And also this paranoia is part of the reason I'm so nice to all my friends. Like I take them on Acting trips to see broadway shows, and during the MIT Splash program last November I asked multiple friends who lived near Boston to house all of us so they wouldn't have to pay for a hotel room. So this offends me even more.
So yesterday Alicia PMed me asking if I was "still solid on disney," like even after Lo had PMed me and I had said yes again I wasn't surely part of their group. So at that point I said no I don't wanna go anymore and that was that.
Ok so senior year at high school, spring break = turn up, go all out, etc.
Most of the people in my friend group said going to Disney would be really cute and all. Then last week in our Fb group chat one of my friends who didn't wanna go got angry when we talked about Disney. Which probably explains why a few days later another one of my friends, Lo, PMed me instead of talking in the chat about Disney.
Except she said "hey u would still wanna go to disney during spring break? bc me and alicia talked to patrick and he made a chat with me, patrick, alicia, and bpan bc we all wanna go so if u wanna, u can prob get in on it as long as we have a total that is a multiple of 4"
And the thing is Patrick and Benjamin aren't even in our friend group but Lo is talking to me like this group of 4 is already established and I'm some afterthought with a chance of going. Even though we're supposed to be a really close group of friends and I had already said how I wanted to go as well. So even though she was being all smiley and hopeful I was just like oh...thanks
Like another problem is the fact that I'm deeply insecure socially and I have this paranoia of people not liking me or wanting to be with me, no matter if they're my closest friends or family. So even if this multiple of 4 issue were to work out because it had to do with hotel rooms or some sort of special package Patrick or Benjamin had access to, I wouldn't want to go with them anymore because they thought about me last.
And also this paranoia is part of the reason I'm so nice to all my friends. Like I take them on Acting trips to see broadway shows, and during the MIT Splash program last November I asked multiple friends who lived near Boston to house all of us so they wouldn't have to pay for a hotel room. So this offends me even more.
So yesterday Alicia PMed me asking if I was "still solid on disney," like even after Lo had PMed me and I had said yes again I wasn't surely part of their group. So at that point I said no I don't wanna go anymore and that was that.
Am I being rational or?
TRUST me I have the same insecurities that I've dealt with. You cannot overextend yourself to people because they WILL take advantage of you. You owe no one anything. In all honesty you should just say how you felt they invited you as an afterthought and give them a chance to explain themselves. Then politely decline if necessary, save your Disney coins, purchase a ticket to Vegas and see Queen Mariah Carey herself, and be content! Because you are excellent! And no matter what, you don't need other people to rubber stamp you. You are flawless.
This has nothing to do with paranoia or insecurities. It really does seem like Alicia and Lo want to go with Patrick and Benjamin alone. That doesn't have to necessarily mean that they consider themselves a group and that you are not a part of that but they seem to go without you. And instead of behaving like real friends and talking to you about it they make you feel unwelcome.
But I think you should talk to them about how they made you feel. Maybe they have some kind of explanation for their behavior but the way the handled the entire situation is mean and unworthy. Your warm and special being even becomes obious in your posts which is why I can say that you deserve better - you a very caring, sensitive person that you be treated more respectfully.
Could you talk about this matter with your friends that did not want to go, too?
TRUST me I have the same insecurities that I've dealt with. You cannot overextend yourself to people because they WILL take advantage of you. You owe no one anything. In all honesty you should just say how you felt they invited you as an afterthought and give them a chance to explain themselves. Then politely decline if necessary, save your Disney coins, purchase a ticket to Vegas and see Queen Mariah Carey herself, and be content! Because you are excellent! And no matter what, you don't need other people to rubber stamp you. You are flawless.
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This has nothing to do with paranoia or insecurities. It really does seem like Alicia and Lo want to go with Patrick and Benjamin alone. That doesn't have to necessarily mean that they consider themselves a group and that you are not a part of that but they seem to go without you. And instead of behaving like real friends and talking to you about it they make you feel unwelcome.
But I think you should talk to them about how they made you feel. Maybe they have some kind of explanation for their behavior but the way the handled the entire situation is mean and unworthy. Your warm and special being even becomes obious in your posts which is why I can say that you deserve better - you a very caring, sensitive person that you be treated more respectfully.
Could you talk about this matter with your friends that did not want to go, too?
Thank you so much for your support I love you guys
Right now I'm waiting for my friend Sharon to come online. When Lo first PMed me that message I messaged Sharon and asked if she knew about their Disney plans and was like "Wtf no one pmed me" so we were on the same side. Now she's in their group chat because she said she still wants to go, so I'll ask her if part of the reason was if Patrick or Benjamin had connections to some special package or whatever.
But even if they do have, Lo and Alicia shouldn't have just pushed us away like that. Like we've been talking about Spring Vacation for ages and how all 8 of us in our group (not including patrick and benjamin) would have so much fun, then it's like last week they suddenly chose those two boys over us and was like "Oh Kevin and the other might still wanna go" And the way Lo messaged me so nonchalantly about me "having a chance" of coming along...
The rest of my friends are already over Disney I think so they don't really care. I think I'm the only one having issues with the way Lo and Alicia handled this. Also because I keep thinking about how I struggled to help them find a place to stay last November and it's like I prioritize them way more than they prioritize me.
TRUST me I have the same insecurities that I've dealt with. You cannot overextend yourself to people because they WILL take advantage of you. You owe no one anything. In all honesty you should just say how you felt they invited you as an afterthought and give them a chance to explain themselves. Then politely decline if necessary, save your Disney coins, purchase a ticket to Vegas and see Queen Mariah Carey herself, and be content! Because you are excellent! And no matter what, you don't need other people to rubber stamp you. You are flawless.
I was going to say this EXACT same thing. First, you should address it with them because even if it's awkward, being open to communication and sharing your feelings is ESSENTIAL to good relationships. In all my best friendships and romantic entanglements, I am very upfront and if I feel like someone treated me poorly in any way, I express it right away rather than letting it fester and get worse. Just be open with them.
As for Disney (and your follow-up post, which I just read), if you are feeling torn about it all and you have other potential plans (with the friends you said are over the idea and aren't going to go), then I don't think it's wrong for you to say you don't want to go. If you end up going while still feeling awkward about it, you're going to spend the whole trip feeling like you're only there because they need a multiple of 4 and you won't have a great time. Like what if your friends are all over Pat and Benji the whole time? You'll feel resentful. So if you can, just stay with your friends who are not going, have a great time and enjoy your break, and go to Disney some other time when you can enjoy it more.
I am just expressing concern because these names are allegedly the best in their field, yet here we are with them providing bleak service. I am merely just pointing out what others might be blind to see.
I was going to say this EXACT same thing. First, you should address it with them because even if it's awkward, being open to communication and sharing your feelings is ESSENTIAL to good relationships. In all my best friendships and romantic entanglements, I am very upfront and if I feel like someone treated me poorly in any way, I express it right away rather than letting it fester and get worse. Just be open with them.
As for Disney (and your follow-up post, which I just read), if you are feeling torn about it all and you have other potential plans (with the friends you said are over the idea and aren't going to go), then I don't think it's wrong for you to say you don't want to go. If you end up going while still feeling awkward about it, you're going to spend the whole trip feeling like you're only there because they need a multiple of 4 and you won't have a great time. Like what if your friends are all over Pat and Benji the whole time? You'll feel resentful. So if you can, just stay with your friends who are not going, have a great time and enjoy your break, and go to Disney some other time when you can enjoy it more.
Yeah I'll definitely talk to them soon.
Also I'm certain the reason is not because they want Patrick and Benjamin for themselves Alicia is quite prudish and doesn't wanna date in high school while Lo has a boyfriend. So the issue has gotta be based on friendship.
Now that you guys have brought up that possibility though Omg. If it ever were a bit true I'm erasing them from my life tbh.
So much Mariah in such little time.
1. Denying time passing ("Don't rush all of our lives") - must be seen in the Mariah denying birthdays context
2. Squeezing a little comment on how difficult the pregnancy was (again)
3. Feeling the need to indirectly address the negativity surrounding the first shows in the Asian leg of the tour (Bronchitis)
4. "[The dolphins] come to you if they wanna be with you" - ego boost
5. Reference to the legendary Butterfly days
6. Addressing the pretentious ensembles
7. Shading Jermaine Dupri aka "who needs a manager more, them or me?"
So much Mariah in such little time.
1. Denying time passing ("Don't rush all of our lives") - must be seen in the Mariah denying birthdays context
2. Squeezing a little comment on how difficult the pregnancy was (again)
3. Feeling the need to indirectly address the negativity surrounding the first shows in the Asian leg of the tour (Bronchitis)
4. "[The dolphins] come to you if they wanna be with you" - ego boost
5. Reference to the legendary Butterfly days
6. Addressing the pretentious ensembles
7. Shading Jermaine Dupri aka "who needs a manager more, them or me?"
In order for Mariah to have a hit era, she needs to have a flop album and switch labels 
I love you guys
And the way Lo messaged me so nonchalantly about me "having a chance" of coming along...
Alicia is quite prudish and doesn't wanna date in high school while Lo has a boyfriend. So the issue has gotta be based on friendship.
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