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Discussion: Straight crush experience?
Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by IMadeYouReadThis
I wonder if he'll realise that it's my birthday and celebrate
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Omg last month was my bday and my crush didn't even send me a message like I did on his bday and I was heartbroken all day
*plays themomentiknew.mp3*
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Member Since: 3/14/2013
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Originally posted by ThugginGrande
Aw that's sweet, but that definitely screams gay-accepting straight guy. At least you have a great friend!
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Oh yeah, I just told him that I really liked him so he got the gist that I'm gay.
Still, now I know he's a real friend. Those are far too few and in between from personal experience.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by Blade
I don't know what it's like to crush on someone that ISN'T straight
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Just like me!!
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by mdnazn
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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The ones that know you're gay, but still flirt and just do extremely cute things around you like flash their penis or lay their head in your lap and they tell you "if I was gay I would totally date you"
I hate that so much.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by DevonDreams
The ones that know you're gay, but still flirt and just do extremely cute things around you like flash their penis or lay their head in your lap and they tell you "if I was gay I would totally date you"
I hate that so much.
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It's weird because I'm not out but I still get that. I don't know if I would get more or less if I did come out, but I'm guessing less just because my hometown is kind of homophobic and there aren't a lot of openly gay people.
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Originally posted by jgorny
Wow, reading these stories from all of you guys made me so emotional because it reminded me of how I experienced the same thing.
Basically, it all started when I was a sophomore in high school. I was taking geometry class and one day i noticed there was a really good looking guy in my class but he was one year below me (freshman). at this time, i was still in the closet. but i was always excited to see him when it was time for geometry. he was eventually chosen by the teacher to go around around the room to stamp our homework for completion. it was the first time we talked. he and i made a joke about the homework and it was the first time i saw him smiled. oh lord, he had the most beautiful smile. so eventually, we started talking to each other more. i would occasionally see him in the library or the computer lab. so we would talk or do homework together. we also found out that had mutual friends. he was on the football team by the way and i had friends that were on the team too. so that made it easier for us to get to know each other better. by the end of the year, we exchanged phone numbers but we didn't text each other lol.
fast forward to the beginning of junior year, he and i had another math class together and it was trigonometry. i didn't really have a crush on him. i just liked talking to him because he was sooooo nice. we texted each other couple times and i cheered on for him at the football games. we were just friends.
now, senior year is when things start to change. i knew he was straight and for some reason, i developed feelings for him :/ . we had another math class together (pre calc) lol and we had the same lunch period too so we ate together with his two other friends who were very nice. i guess because we started hanging out more by doing homework together and eating lunch. sometime we would go off campus for lunch and just hang out before heading back to school for our last classes of the day. he was just so beautiful. i loved how he smiled and his eyes were just gorgeous. i was always looking forward to seeing him everyday. we didn't really text at all. he's also a terrible texter. like he will take some time to get back to me. he's like this with everyone. it's just how he is. anyway, i found out that he started dating this one girl and even though i knew he was straight, i was just completely crushed on the inside. i still had strong feelings. i mean i was really good at hiding my feelings. no one knows I'm gay or suspect me as gay lol. i still was sorta happy for him because he was so happy with his girlfriend, but we still did homework together. as well as eating lunch. as the year came to an end, i was graduating from high school and i wasn't sure if i would see him as often as i did in high school. we hung out couple times over the summer and texted each other occasionally. at this point, we had a solid friendship.
as i started college, i was in a different state and he was a senior in high school. so for the next five years ( i changed my major twice so i had to do a fifth year) we got to meet up over winter break and a couple times during the summer. it was nice to still have a friendship and even though i didn't see him that much, i still loved him. somehow, our friendship grew stronger. he started to call me one of his best friend and i did the same. we could talk to each other about anything. he is one of the few people i still talk to from high school. anyway, i came out during my senior year of college and i was so nervous to tell him. i was afraid of how he would react or if he would be weirded out. it's strange because i value my friendship with him more than my feelings for him. so i decided that i had to be honest and tell him. he was like the 4th person i came out to. we were meeting up over winter break to catch up. we decided to see a movie, but we were hungry so we went to chipotle. that's when i came out to him. he was totally cool and gracious about it. he was proud of me for being brave and honest. he also said that he appreciated that i was able to share something like that with him. i think this made our friendship stronger and my feelings for him pretty much kinda went away, although somewhere deep inside of me, i have some feelings for him. he's still dating that girl from high school and i absolutely adore her. we get on really well and we often hang out without him lol. funny thing is that his girlfriend went to a school in the same state that i was in for college. she and i was like 2.5 hours apart. so he would go visit her once a month at Mizzou, but he always had a train layover in st. louis so we would always hang out for a few hours. one time, he stayed overnight at my apartment on the weekend and it was fun. we got to explore st. louis and do a lot of fun stuff. we also talked about life and deep sh*t.
since we graduated from college at the same time, we got to see each other quite often this summer and we will be doing a road trip this fall after i take the GRE. i'm really excited about it and it'll be fun to spend time with him. just reflecting on this whole thing with my best friend, i realized that i still love him even though i see him as a brother and a best friend. it's so complicated and he's everything i want in a guy. handsome, kind, open minded, caring, sweet, and funny. i always have a good time whenever we hang out and i always remind myself that i can't have any feelings for him because it would make me sad or ruin my friendship with him. i'm always able to suppress my feelings for him, but every once in awhile it comes out. i'm so grateful to have an amazing friend that accepted and love me for who i am. not many straight guys can be like that. my friendship with him has been interesting, but i know that it will continue to be strong. i just hope that one day i can meet a guy that embodies all of the same qualities that my best friend has. by the way, we've been friends for 8 years so you can imagine how hard it has been for me trying to control my feelings and not trying to ruin my friendship with him.
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this is too cute
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This one guy I had a one-night stand with. Gave me the best pounding I've ever had and the fact that he is incredibly hot
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Originally posted by PrinceJawbreaker
This one guy I had a one-night stand with. Gave me the best pounding I've ever had and the fact that he is incredibly hot
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Wait, but he's straight? Girl, you're gonna need to give us the details.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by Raster
Omg last month was my bday and my crush didn't even send me a message like I did on his bday and I was heartbroken all day
*plays themomentiknew.mp3*
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Awh
I'm pretty sure he doesn't know it's my birthday haha it all depends on whether he logs on to fb and realises that people are celebrating it haha
I am not very hopeful, and frankly, it won't make a big difference in my life as I feel like him making me hate him is the only way I'll get over him
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Omg @ OP... you two would look so cute together!!! that was actually cute and reading it was like a summary of an unrequited attraction fanfic.. Your Type.mp3 comes to mind. But anyway, i hope you see each other soon again.. at least just stay as close friends.
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yes, i've had a couple.. but not as intense and long-term as this one. just infatuated, that's all.
also when you just dont know if they're really close with you... it's so difficult as well when they are tactile! like stop it but at the same time, noo keep going lol
it's so hard when they blur the lines between "just tight bros" and "i'll explore my gay side with you".. why must straight boys do that
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by DevonDreams
The ones that know you're gay, but still flirt and just do extremely cute things around you like flash their penis or lay their head in your lap and they tell you "if I was gay I would totally date you"
I hate that so much.
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Omg i knowww
It's queer-baiting come to life. a true reverse warholian experience
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Guess who showed up at my door this morning?
Yeah, it's him. He came back from a trip in Bulgaria with the dance group ( I quit more than a year ago because of him) and asked if I wanted to go foar a walk. Idiot me went.
So he wanted to go in the park and we went to the soccer field. He started talking about how he misses the old group ( he was like the youngest back then, we were all older, some went to college so he remained with the smaller group), that things are not the same, so bs about how he doesn't want time to pass etc. I sat on a seat but he sat one seat away from he.
He got emotional, he even started tearing his eyes ( it's not the forst time he cries in front of me). He talked anout this girl he met there and he really liked her and I was so over it
Then he asks if I want to spend the night at his place and I say yes I don't even know why I'm doing this, he's clearly straight and he considers me his best friend still probably. We're already at his place as I'm writing this and I want to tell him to stop teasing me and let me live my life so bad but at the same time I'm afraid to do so
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Member Since: 3/31/2012
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The OP's story. So bittersweet
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
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Originally posted by AxelFox
Guess who showed up at my door this morning?
Yeah, it's him. He came back from a trip in Bulgaria with the dance group ( I quit more than a year ago because of him) and asked if I wanted to go foar a walk. Idiot me went.
So he wanted to go in the park and we went to the soccer field. He started talking about how he misses the old group ( he was like the youngest back then, we were all older, some went to college so he remained with the smaller group), that things are not the same, so bs about how he doesn't want time to pass etc. I sat on a seat but he sat one seat away from he.
He got emotional, he even started tearing his eyes ( it's not the forst time he cries in front of me). He talked anout this girl he met there and he really liked her and I was so over it
Then he asks if I want to spend the night at his place and I say yes I don't even know why I'm doing this, he's clearly straight and he considers me his best friend still probably. We're already at his place as I'm writing this and I want to tell him to stop teasing me and let me live my life so bad but at the same time I'm afraid to do so
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I dont know why you still have not seen him naked or given him a Britney Jean yet cos I think you have had so many chances. Come on Girl!
When you go to his place, bring some beer. While drinking, you need to start talking about sex (of course straight sex ) to make him horny. Keep giving him drink but not too much for yourself. If you notice that he is getting a bit drunk (when his face turns red or when he starts to speak unusally), start another sex topic and ask him what his sexual fantasy is and then tell him yours like you would be okay to try having fun with another guy or you would love to try giving a guy a blowjob if that guy is him blah blah blah to make him feel that he is not only attracted to girls but also guys, but you dont have to look serious when you say it. That is how you get them. I never failed.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by Bie
I dont know why you still have not seen him naked or given him a Britney Jean yet cos I think you have had so many chances. Come on Girl!
When you go to his place, bring some beer. While drinking, you need to start talking about sex (of course straight sex ) to make him horny. Keep giving him drink but not too much for yourself. If you notice that he is getting a bit drunk (when his face turns red or when he starts to speak unusally), start another sex topic and ask him what his sexual fantasy is and then tell him yours like you would be okay to try having fun with another guy or you would love to try giving a guy a blowjob if that guy is him blah blah blah to make him feel that he is not only attracted to girls but also guys, but you dont have to look serious when you say it. That is how you get them. I never failed.
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Well this is the same guy I told I'm in live with him more than 1 year ago. Idk what's in his head?! Did he just erease it or something? It's too early for beers though, it's only 1 PM here, we're basically spemding the day together.
I think I shpuld probably risk it and do as you suggested. If things go well, then I'll make one of my dreams come true. If not, our friendship will suffer and maybe he won't search me anymore and I will go on woth my life.
I'll be back woth updates lol
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Member Since: 8/6/2015
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Some of these stories need paragraphs
The worst one is when the person you're crushing on is dating one of your female friends
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
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Originally posted by AxelFox
Well this is the same guy I told I'm in live with him more than 1 year ago. Idk what's in his head?! Did he just erease it or something? It's too early for beers though, it's only 1 PM here, we're basically spemding the day together.
I think I shpuld probably risk it and do as you suggested. If things go well, then I'll make one of my dreams come true. If not, our friendship will suffer and maybe he won't search me anymore and I will go on woth my life.
I'll be back woth updates lol
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What are you worried about? Youre afriad that he knows your true color? lol no! Remember you were drinking and you didnt say it seriously. So that would be your excuse. Trust me! If you play it well, it will work. You cant let the chance go.
Ignore what is in his head. Remember he is straight so it has no chance for you and him. Try to create chances to see him naked and give him a Britney Jean first. If these happen, then you can say at least you get to feel his body and if youre lucky, he will keep coming back for you for more Britney Jean.
There is a saying in my country. It says "if I cant have his/her mind, I'll at least have his/her body".
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
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Originally posted by Dylobs
Some of these stories need paragraphs
The worst one is when the person you're crushing on is dating one of your female friends
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No, the worst one is when you know he hates gays
I would love my crush to date my girl friend so I can use that as an excuse to stay near him and create the chance to see him naked and to learn more about him.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Yes. My math teacher when I was younger/in the closet and currently my co-worker (but he's been dropping HUGE hints he's Bi )
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