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Originally posted by BadBitchRihanna.
There is basicly three kinds of love in a relationship as each takes more effert to obtain. 1) I love you for something. I love what you do for me. This kind is easy to obtain but will not last in the long run. A lot of time this is nothing but lust (just physical). This is why it's foolish to have sex before (marriage) there is time to estabish a greater love. Sadly most never go beyond this kind of love since they only care to please themselves. 2) I love you because of who you are. Love you have for your family. For most people it takes time to really bond with another on this level which why sex should be avoided so your sex drive doesn't blind you. most marriages That survives are probably on this level. 3) then the strongest love : I love you in spite of what you do or what happens. This is love involves sacrifice and denying one self. Because of this very few has ever reach this high since selfishness comes very easy and natural.
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Woah, woah, woah... ok don't get me wrong, I love the benefits of sex. It feels amazing; however, I aim to please my partner just as much as I want to be pleased. Sex is best when it's unselfish. If you and your lover see eye to eye and focus solely on each other, everyone wins. I don't give it up to just anyone. We have to know each other and have an understanding of each other. I do view sex as a sacred type of bond hence me not giving it up to just any and everyone, but I don't think you necessarily have to be married to achieve that level of love. I've never had sex outside of a relationship. I've always taken the time to get to know my significant other. The relationship is what you aim for, not the sex. That's just a pleasant bonus. When I converse with my lover and we indulge in each others spirits, it's just for that. You want to get to know that person, who they are and what they stand for. That's what attracts me to a person. It even makes sex better, the connection and the passion. You love this person and you're going to use every ounce of your energy and spirit to make them feel amazing.
I think through thick and through thin is possible, but it isn't the most plausible idea. I loved all 3 of the men I had sex with and I did use to think they were the ones I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. All three of then had drastic changes in their lives which resulted in two of them being abusive towards me and the other cheating on me with my best friend. Despite all of that, I can't say that I don't still love them, but why continue to put myself in a situation that's detrimental to me and my well-being?