[I Am Music]

Originally posted by Genocide

Oh well another thing - I guess this is a popular choice in this thread - would be acceptance. At least for me, it's just within my family and school. I don't like how schools give half-assed attention to bullying against homosexuals and whatnot, and how you're shoved in the corner when you announce you're gay as well.

I'm sort of conflicted though. I have no problem telling people I'm gay, but I don't want to go handing out flyers to everyone saying "I'm gay!". Would that be classified as in the closet still or..

What some gay men have a hard time getting is that not all gay men operate the same way when it comes to that subject. You can be out and not tell every single soul that you're gay especially when it's irrelevant to the discussion at hand.

If asked you will tell them but you wont make it a priority to tell every single person you're gay.

[J a y]

Originally posted by Genocide

Oh well another thing - I guess this is a popular choice in this thread - would be acceptance. At least for me, it's just within my family and school. I don't like how schools give half-assed attention to bullying against homosexuals and whatnot, and how you're shoved in the corner when you announce you're gay as well.

I'm sort of conflicted though. I have no problem telling people I'm gay, but I don't want to go handing out flyers to everyone saying "I'm gay!". Would that be classified as in the closet still or..

While you're in education, it's no one's business. No one should feel the need to explain themselves.

I know what you mean, though. But I always didn't answer people's questions in school. Unless they want to date me, is it really necessary for them to wonder? It's strange that girls are most acceptive of it than men (from my experience anyway).

I've been comfortable in my own little world for 7 years now and not once have I faced discrimination.

I do feel bad for those who are more feminine than I am and perhaps don't fit the "norm" of a male and are therefore subject to abuse and continuous questioning. They're the brave half of the homos, and trans too. I have the utmost respect for them all.

[helloDer]

Originally posted by Nɑɑji.. ©

Me being a darskin male.... who likes fashion and to dress who is his self but not fem or masculine and not typical skinny with a 30 pack is [hard for me.] But I still get boys & I still own it. I take it for what it is. But for the gays in general I hate the stigmas and boundaries the gays set on each other its a mess. Certain gays look at certain **** to be in a relationship if your a bottom you can't date another bottom.. If you're to fem they dont wanna date. Like stfu. Date people for who they are and what they can bring to the table.. I think for the most part all gays have it hard to be in a stable relationship and having a boyfriend... Gay men don't want the life of moving in together, settling down, getting married having kids they feel like its too much which will be why a lot of gay men will be single and bitter in their 40s because they have so many stereotypes.

I do

Like I don't understand why people feel this way - that people don't want relationships. I get that feeling too, but it's like, most people I talk to that I'm not about to hook up with are looking for something genuine. Like it's so confusing/frustrating. Where do all the people who want real relationships go when you're actually looking?

[helloDer]

Originally posted by Genocide

Oh well another thing - I guess this is a popular choice in this thread - would be acceptance. At least for me, it's just within my family and school. I don't like how schools give half-assed attention to bullying against homosexuals and whatnot, and how you're shoved in the corner when you announce you're gay as well.

I'm sort of conflicted though. I have no problem telling people I'm gay, but I don't want to go handing out flyers to everyone saying "I'm gay!". Would that be classified as in the closet still or..

Thankfully my school is really really good about this. It's annoying when a few kids use the words "****" or "thats so gay" as discriminatory without thinking, but no one really picks on anyone for actually being gay. I just wish my parents were more accepting, then I'd come out. Honestly id rather be bulied at school if my parents were cool with it and accepted/supported me. But I guess you can't have the best of both.

[Haunter]

Originally posted by Quiqui4eva

Like someone mentioned earlier, the "do you have a girlfriend?" question

Usually, I answer with "education is always first!"

But it's most awkward when other family members ask it in front of my parents, who know I'm gay and are not too happy about it.

No offense, but people really ask you that?

[J a y]

Originally posted by Nɑɑji.. ©

Gay men don't want the life of moving in together, settling down, getting married and having kids

I do. It's a shame that from the outside and even within the community, we're seen as wh-----.

[Reeawna]

Being outed every time the teacher leaves the room.

[Haunter]

At this thread not being messy.

[ForeverNow90]

Originally posted by Nɑɑji.. ©

Me being a darskin male.... who likes fashion and to dress who is his self but not fem or masculine and not typical skinny with a 30 pack is [hard for me.] But I still get boys & I still own it. I take it for what it is. But for the gays in general I hate the stigmas and boundaries the gays set on each other its a mess. Certain gays look at certain **** to be in a relationship if your a bottom you can't date another bottom.. If you're to fem they dont wanna date. Like stfu. Date people for who they are and what they can bring to the table.. I think for the most part all gays have it hard to be in a stable relationship and having a boyfriend... Gay men don't want the life of moving in together, settling down, getting married having kids they feel like its too much which will be why a lot of gay men will be single and bitter in their 40s because they have so many stereotypes.

I've been in a relationship for 11 months now.

Generally speaking most gays don't want to commit to a relationship (there are endless reasons for this), but I genuinely feel like there are gay men out there who want to be LOVED beyond the hook-up. You just have to find them

[ForeverNow90]

The level of class and maturity in this thread is astounding

[BadMonster]

Originally posted by J a y

I do. It's a shame that from the outside and even within the community, we're seen as wh-----.

I do as well, but I know a lot of us that don't... I think it all has to do with finding the right guy tbh. It's not strange that many gays are seen as promiscuous when you consider grindr and what most websites for the gays focus on

[MattH94]

Originally posted by ForeverNow90

I've been in a relationship for 11 months now.

Generally speaking most gays don't want to commit to a relationship (there are endless reasons for this), but I genuinely feel like there are gay men out there who want to be LOVED beyond the hook-up. You just have to find them

Then point me in their damn direction because I've been looking for over a year and have just been rejected by people who want to go sleep around.......

[Quiqui4eva]

Originally posted by Borntodiethisway

No offense, but people really ask you that?

Only family members All my friends, and most of my school knows I'm gay. I'm not offended by any means lol

[ForeverNow90]

Originally posted by MattH94

Then point me in their damn direction because I've been looking for over a year and have just been rejected by people who want to go sleep around.......

First step, delete your Grindr account

[jayyyxtee]

I don't really want a relationship but some male attention wouldn't hurt either

[J a y]

Originally posted by ForeverNow90

I've been in a relationship for 11 months now.

Generally speaking most gays don't want to commit to a relationship (there are endless reasons for this), but I genuinely feel like there are gay men out there who want to be LOVED beyond the hook-up. You just have to find them

Amen.

Originally posted by Borntodiethisway

At this thread not being messy.

Agreed, threads like this get help loads of people on here. Let it all out gays.

Originally posted by ForeverNow90

First step, delete your Grindr account

Originally posted by jayyyxtee

I don't really want a relationship but some male attention wouldn't hurt either

Do the opposite of the post I quoted, above your one.

[Reza]

nothing because my life doesn't revolve around my sexuality?

[Guero]

Originally posted by hardbrit

Also, HOW HARD is finding a gay guy!? I like this guy that works at a clothing store...He looks at me everytime I walk pass the store. I went to the store yesterday and he smiled at me, but I just walked through the store for 30 seconds and left

It really depends on where you live.

[MattH94]

Originally posted by ForeverNow90

First step, delete your Grindr account

Don't have one and never have
The people I met were all through friends and stuff!

[CrossingTheCosmo]

Originally posted by ForeverNow90

This tbh. No tea and no shade, but from what I know, most white gays don't use blacks in terms of intimacy, although we are socially accepted by whites, we will never fully be regarded as human beings because we are sexually unattractive.

My boyfriend is white. I think it depends on where you are. I met him at school where interracial dating (gay and straight) is very popular. But going back home to the South, I tend to see it very little in the gay community.