[Daddy]

Originally posted by ZeroSuitBritney

Thanks for the response! You're very brave <3 And yeah what he did was wrong if he really lied to me. Ugh.

I await a response from Daddy

Hey sorry, I had to keep up with everything

Well your situation is exactly the same that a lot of couples are facing nowadays. One is HIV+ (in your case the other guy on meds) the other one is negative (you).

The negative guy is taking PrEP which means Truvada. That's you.

It's possible for him to take Truvada as a part of a drug cocktail. A HIV+ person is not only taking Truvada, there are a lot of other pills to mix it with like Isentress.

When the other one is on meds and undetectable and you're taking PrEP there is a MINIMAL chance for you to catch something. You should be safe, just make a test and you'll be fine.

By the way, I don't take Truvada. I take the same as qmpierre which is called Triumeq. Everything in just one pill.

I know that is a lot of information but just to be clear again: As long as you were on PrEP you should be fine since he took meds. If he lied to you or not is another story, It seems fishy tho and calling him out was the right thing to!

[Xalric]

Originally posted by Daddy

What is also important is to not forget the psychological factor of It all. We can discuss the science and the statistics and the meds but people often overlook the struggle and the feelings of HIV+ people.

I was 18 back in the days.

Can you imagine how ****ing terrible It is to fall in love again, knowing you have to tell that person that you're HIV+?

When to say It? Waiting for them to fall in love too and piss them off? Or telling It from the very first date and get the boot before the dessert or the movie is over?

How will they react?

How will your mom and dad react?

Should I tell anyone? Will someone ever be able to truly love me?



Those are just a few questions that controlled my daily life for like a year after I got It.

It is pure hell in the beginning.

What It could do to your body, physically, is mostly a topic later in the process.

I was reading the thread, but just this post made me cry so much.
It must have been hell, I'm glad you're in better place now.

[qmpierre]

For those of you who are reading still and nervous and scared you may have it or if you get it, I just want to say is you will be okay. Someone will love you and care about you. People will accept you. And you will overcome. Don't get me wrong it will take time but the best way to get over being HIV positive is to be positive and know guess what I'm still me.

[XVIIII]

I get tested monthly even though i'm not sexually active because I worry so much that I may get it

it's honestly so upsetting for me reading all your stories because I wish there was a way

for the gay community to be more understanding. and for us to help you out through your journey.

I'm reading this at work and i'm honestly in tears
i'm so glad you guys can live an almost normal life
and although I don't know each and everyone of you personally

I hope that you find someone who loves you despite your status because you all sound like amazing people.

[qmpierre]

Originally posted by XVIIII

I get tested monthly even though i'm not sexually active because I worry so much that I may get it

it's honestly so upsetting for me reading all your stories because I wish there was a way

for the gay community to be more understanding. and for us to help you out through your journey.

I'm reading this at work and i'm honestly in tears
i'm so glad you guys can live an almost normal life
and although I don't know each and everyone of you personally

I hope that you find someone who loves you despite your status because you all sound like amazing people.

aww thanks I appreciate this

[SweetTalker]

Originally posted by katysus

This thread is really interesting, and also kind of making me anxious.

!!!

But I'm actually pleasantly surprised we can have a mature discussion on this topic.

[J a y]

Thanks for being mature and having a good discussion about this. Means a lot

(Echoing the post above)

You've all been supportive and willing to listen. That's all we ask. We want to help you too.

[Paul McCutie]

Do you think you infected someone before you found out you were positive?

[ZeroSuitBritney]

Originally posted by Daddy

Hey sorry, I had to keep up with everything

Well your situation is exactly the same that a lot of couples are facing nowadays. One is HIV+ (in your case the other guy on meds) the other one is negative (you).

The negative guy is taking PrEP which means Truvada. That's you.

It's possible for him to take Truvada as a part of a drug cocktail. A HIV+ person is not only taking Truvada, there are a lot of other pills to mix it with like Isentress.

When the other one is on meds and undetectable and you're taking PrEP there is a MINIMAL chance for you to catch something. You should be safe, just make a test and you'll be fine.

By the way, I don't take Truvada. I take the same as qmpierre which is called Triumeq. Everything in just one pill.

I know that is a lot of information but just to be clear again: As long as you were on PrEP you should be fine since he took meds. If he lied to you or not is another story, It seems fishy tho and calling him out was the right thing to!

Thank you so much for the response! And yeah. I get tested every 3 months because I need to get my Prep refilled. My next one is in about two months, so maybe I'll wait until then and go sooner if I start having any symptoms(of anything)

[Daddy]

In the end we're all in this together and beside all these stan wars and tragic drags we are fighting on the same team. Glad we came through today and let's try to keep this thread going.

[J a y]

Originally posted by Your Monster

Do you think you infected someone before you found out you were positive?

No, at a low point in my life, with drugs, alcohol and far too much partying, I ended up at a sauna and was so intoxicated that I slept with someone - without a condom. It was my choice, and one that I could have avoided if I were sober.

Edit: I then stopped partying, taking drugs btw.

When I got the result, I blamed myself for several years, until I got a dog, and she became my best friend. She helped me love again. Unfortunately four weeks ago, she died in a fire at my house (I wasn't indoors, don't ask how it started, wasn't my fault). Sadie, died as peacefully as she could but I made a vow when I buried her that my life would change, in respect of the life she gave me - one that I thought was useless. I then stopped crying, and stopped hating myself for the sake of one mistake.

I'm currently rebuilding my life having accepted the circumstances and tragedies that made me the man I am today. I am happy, and I survived. Ready to start my life again and not let this take over my life.

My story. Thanks for reading (Sorry if this is corny )

[Daddy]

Originally posted by Your Monster

Do you think you infected someone before you found out you were positive?

Nope since I was in a relationship and didn't have sex with anyone else but my partner who gave It to me. Thank god. I couldn't imagine the feeling knowing I would do that to another person.

[-brian]

I have never read every single page of a thread this long. I'm in tears reading some of your posts Qmpierre, Jay, and Daddy. Thank you for educating people like me who truly have no idea about this. You guys are really helping and I wish you nothing but the best.

All these medical advances, and being able to have biological children with no risks... science is truly amazing.

I'm still confused about the discussion of having a low/high count, and about those numbers in the hundreds. What do they mean?

[qmpierre]

Originally posted by Your Monster

Do you think you infected someone before you found out you were positive?

Nope...Thank god.

[Legacy]

This thread is so interesting. I wish people in real life would take more time to understand people with HIV and see that they can live a normal life. i've learned a lot of things thanks to this thread, really.

You are all so strong! I don't know y'all but I wish you the best.

[Jorq]

that made me cry Jay you're such an amazing and brave person. Thank you and thanks to Daddy and qmpierre too

[qmpierre]

Originally posted by -brian

I have never read every single page of a thread this long. Very emotional reading some of your posts Qmpierre, Jay, and Daddy. Thank you for educating people like me who truly have no idea about this. You are really helping.

All these medical advances, and being able to have biological children with no risks... science is truly amazing.

I'm still confused about the discussion of having a low/high count, and about those numbers in the hundreds. What do they mean?

Alright so the high count/low count thing usually refers to two things.

CD4 and Viral load

CD4 is essentially the number of white blood cells you have fighting infections in a subsection of your blood. That number needs to be high to show you have a strong immune response...when its low. people with lupus, leukemia, HIV all are more prone to not be able to fight infections. A low CD4 count is not a good thing.


Viral load is how much of the virus is in your blood. You want that to get as low as possible to the point when they take blood and study it, they don't find any traces of it. Making you undetectable.

[ZeroSuitBritney]

Originally posted by J a y

No, at a low point in my life, with drugs, alcohol and far too much partying, I ended up at a sauna and was so intoxicated that I slept with someone - without a condom. It was my choice, and one that I could have avoided if I were sober.

Edit: I then stopped partying, taking drugs btw.

When I got the result, I blamed myself for several years, until I got a dog, and she became my best friend. She helped me love again. Unfortunately four weeks ago, she died in a fire at my house (I wasn't indoors, don't ask how it started, wasn't my fault). Sadie, died as peacefully as she could but I made a vow when I buried her that my life would change, in respect of the life she gave me - one that I thought was useless. I then stopped crying, and stopped hating myself for the sake of one mistake.

I'm currently rebuilding my life having accepted the circumstances and tragedies that made me the man I am today. I am happy, and I survived. Ready to start my life again and not let this take over my life.

My story. Thanks for reading (Sorry if this is corny )

Omg may she rest in piece. I'm glad you are doing better.

[J a y]

Originally posted by Jorq

that made me cry Jay you're such an amazing and brave person. Thank you and thanks to Daddy and qmpierre too

Thanks.

It's all true, I just don't speak about it. I'm strong enough to deal with this myself, I'm just now able to speak on my experiences and talk to anyone who will listen. Again - happy to help

[Brunette Ambition]

this thread actually calmed me down.

@Daddy
are STD tests for free in Germany?