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Discussion: Your Crush Thread 2.0
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Originally posted by Mezik
I just found it funny he's okay with everyone else losing their virginity to another virgin, but because he likes me and got denied me he made some crap up that nobody is a virgin.
That's the thing. I don't want to enter my first serious relationship and my partner already know everything. I want to grow together, and ideally for me my first relationship will be my only one. My friend also knows I'm not attracted to ****s, and when I say he's been around I mean HE'S REALLY BEEN AROUND yet he still thinks I'd make a change for him. No thanks.
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Ideally, you should explore a bit. I mean, theres nothing exactly wrong with that. I mean i dont want to discourage you, but the chances of meeting the right guy at first will be hard.
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Member Since: 3/2/2014
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
I dont even know what Thai food is tbh.
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Ask Siri for the location of the nearest Thai restaurant and get yo life
Anyways he already here I'll be back
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Calling your friend a ****.
Actual Disgust.
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Member Since: 5/22/2011
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Originally posted by Buddyc614
Ideally, you should explore a bit. I mean, theres nothing exactly wrong with that. I mean i dont want to discourage you, but the chances of meeting the right guy at first will be hard.
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I know, I'm picky. But I mean, this guy had basically told me every guy he's slept with/had an encounter with and he seemed to think I'd overlook all that.
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
Calling your friend a ****.
Actual Disgust.
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Sorry I don't consider multiple one night stands the classiest of acts, and it doesn't even begin there. He knew my feelings about people who's been around and I'm not attracted to those kind of guys at all.
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I'm so awkward w/guys. The ones I know I can't have are the ones I chase relentlessly & desire the most.
The ones that show genuine interest however, almost scare me. I turn into a awkward, nervous mess around them. Or just completely ignore them altogether. Then the whole "reaching out" thing plays w/me. I can never identify the fine line between "desperate & uninterested". I feel like if someone likes and thinks about you, they'll come around. So I just let time slip right on by, only to later be told " I thought YOU weren't interested"...such is life, I guess . These nacho's from Denny's I'm eating are good af though...
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Originally posted by Mezik
I know, I'm picky. But I mean, this guy had basically told me every guy he's slept with/had an encounter with and he seemed to think I'd overlook all that.
Sorry I don't consider multiple one night stands the classiest of acts, and it doesn't even begin there. He knew my feelings about people who's been around and I'm not attracted to those kind of guys at all.
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Sex means different things to different people. He may see it as a pleasurable activity and you may see it as something sacred. Hes not wrong for having alot of sex, its a preference. Hes a kid. Its totally normal to experiment with sex. You should overlook that. Your acting because he has had alot of sex the second you look at him you get an STD. He may want to change for you. Have standards. Theres a reason they are PERSONAL standards and not for everyone.
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
Sex means different things to different people. He may see it as a pleasurable activity and you may see it as something sacred. Hes not wrong for having alot of sex, its a preference. Hes a kid. Its totally normal to experiment with sex. You should overlook that. Your acting because he has had alot of sex the second you look at him you get an STD. He may want to change for you. Have standards. Theres a reason they are PERSONAL standards and not for everyone.
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And one of my standards is I don't want to be involved with someone who's had so many partners. It personally disgusts me and I'm not attracted to that. Most of the time I could care less when's the amounts normal, this guy however has had way too many previous partners for my likings and I would never be able to overlook the fact. When I'm in a relationship I don't want to know the whole neighborhood has slept with my boyfriend as well. That'd be the case if I even considered him, and unfortunately he'll just have to respect my reasoning.
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Originally posted by Kiddo.
I'm so awkward w/guys. The ones I know I can't have are the ones I chase relentlessly & desire the most.
The ones that show genuine interest however, almost scare me. I turn into a awkward, nervous mess around them. Or just completely ignore them altogether. Then the whole "reaching out" thing plays w/me. I can never identify the fine line between "desperate & uninterested". I feel like if someone likes and thinks about you, they'll come around. So I just let time slip right on by, only to later be told " I thought YOU weren't interested"...such is life, I guess . These nacho's from Denny's I'm eating are good af though...
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No but im exactly like this
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Originally posted by Mezik
And one of my standards is I don't want to be involved with someone who's had so many partners. It personally disgusts me and I'm not attracted to that. Most of the time I could care less when's the amounts normal, this guy however has had way too many previous partners for my likings and I would never be able to overlook the fact. When I'm in a relationship I don't want to know the whole neighborhood has slept with my boyfriend as well. That'd be the case if I even considered him, and unfortunately he'll just have to respect my reasoning.
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Its very falwed, but slay.
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
Its very falwed, but slay.
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How is it flawed? I shouldn't have to date someone who's already slept with a huge amount of people? I don't like that, I don't agree with it. You told me I should have standards but this guy who likes me should've had standards in the first place and maybe I would of considered it. He gladly talked about how he lost his virginity to another virgin why can't I have that?
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Originally posted by Mezik
How is it flawed? I shouldn't have to date someone who's already slept with a huge amount of people? I don't like that, I don't agree with it. You told me I should have standards but this guy who likes me should've had standards in the first place and maybe I would of considered it. He gladly talked about how he lost his virginity to another virgin why can't I have that?
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Because, the amount of people somebody ****ed is none of your business. You will never find love with all your reasons. There is a difference between boundaries and just being... Judgmental.
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Member Since: 5/22/2011
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
Because, the amount of people somebody ****ed is none of your business. You will never find love with all your reasons. There is a difference between boundaries and just being... Judgmental.
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My only turn off is someone who's been around. Sorry I want my first relationship to be with someone who I can grow sexually with. This guy who likes me he won't grow from anything with me and I don't like that. And yes I am judgmental because at 20 you shouldn't be bragging about you're two people away from the "big 50" that's gross I'm sorry.
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Originally posted by Mezik
My only turn off is someone who's been around. Sorry I want my first relationship to be with someone who I can grow sexually with. This guy who likes me he won't grow from anything with me and I don't like that. And yes I am judgmental because at 20 you shouldn't be bragging about you're two people away from the "big 50" that's gross I'm sorry.
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Do what you want
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Originally posted by Mezik
My only turn off is someone who's been around. Sorry I want my first relationship to be with someone who I can grow sexually with. This guy who likes me he won't grow from anything with me and I don't like that. And yes I am judgmental because at 20 you shouldn't be bragging about you're two people away from the "big 50" that's gross I'm sorry.
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You just shouldnt shut doors.
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Member Since: 5/22/2011
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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh
You just shouldnt shut doors.
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Sorry but that kills any attraction I have to him. I think I'm reasonable. Not only from a safety point of view, but if he has had that many partners it proves to me he obviously can't be loyal. I'll never be anything more than friends with him and if he likes me boo hoo, I'm sure he'll find another leg to hump soon giving his record.
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So all went good. We ate (food was bomb as hell), talked about random **** and played video games for a bit. Luckily he got the memo and didn't try anything but he said he still likes me and that hes happy to rather have me as a friend then to lose me altogether.
were good right now and hopefully it stays this way. Hes really chill and layback like myself so I enjoy hanging out with him
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I need to read through what I missed but before I do let me say some words to Spin.
This is a place of no judgements. Everyone has their preferences and what they just will not accept when it comes to relationships. Obviously you don't understand what or how Mezik feels about it, but I do. He's not being judgmental at all, you just miss read. I'll be damned if I'm with someone who has had sex with a bunch of people. I'm not judging them based off of it....well no I kinda am depending upon the number. I know people who, like her said, are like me approaching 20 or already there and talking about they've had sex with almost 50 people like that's not acceptable. By saying you've ben with that many people, you're telling me that you don't view sex the same way as I do. It's not something you just do, it has great meaning and value for me and someone who has been with everyone in the neighborhood is a complete turn off. Period. I'd rather die a virgin than to **** someone who's been with an entire town's worth of people.
Now, with that being said, Spin you need to be nicer to people and respect their feelings, as should everyone else in this thread
EDIT: Mess @ you guys telling Mezik he should just pretty much give up on the whole virgin thing and for saying he's wrong for calling his friend a ****. Last time I checked, those are ****ty actions and ****ty actions mean ****ty person tbh. I'm actually kinda afforded by everything that was said to him considering he and I are virtually the same in what we want. Bye. I'm done.
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I don't really get all this hoopla over ****s. I can absolutely understand and respect Mezik's POV on that. No one has a set preference that are the same. But literally judging their personal life is too much. Yeah, I can see that it can bring into question the guy's character when it comes to actual LTR but don't judge him for doing exactly what makes him happy. As long as he is being safe and proactive about being tested for STDs, lay off the guy.
BeyNavi and Mezik, don't let the rest get on you for what you want. If you want a real LTR based on qualifications YOU deem necessary for a healthy relationship, that's OKAY. I'm not going to judge you for that. Every guy has a different desire for their LTR.
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so apparently this freshman likes me (imma sophomore) lmfao . his friends were telling me how he thinks im so cute/hot. n how he said when he m@st****** he thinks of me
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Member Since: 5/22/2011
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Originally posted by xDiamondx
I don't really get all this hoopla over ****s. I can absolutely understand and respect Mezik's POV on that. No one has a set preference that are the same. But literally judging their personal life is too much. Yeah, I can see that it can bring into question the guy's character when it comes to actual LTR but don't judge him for doing exactly what makes him happy. As long as he is being safe and proactive about being tested for STDs, lay off the guy.
BeyNavi and Mezik, don't let the rest get on you for what you want. If you want a real LTR based on qualifications YOU deem necessary for a healthy relationship, that's OKAY. I'm not going to judge you for that. Every guy has a different desire for their LTR.
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But too me sleeping with almost 50 people is too much, and yes in this situation I will judge you based off that.
It's unfortunate because we were friends, but now he's mad that I've denied him and won't give him a chance.
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