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Discussion: What do you have against fem gays?
Member Since: 3/4/2011
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As I've already stated, I am not attracted to effeminate gays, but that doesn't mean I'm not friends with them or support them. Like damn some of you must have some serious insecurities if you hate fems this much.
The only thing that annoys me is when a guy acts like a stereotypical straight guy, but as soon as he comes out, he starts talking with the gay lisp, shaking his ass when he walks, etc. If you are naturally fem, okay, but don't change just because you think that's how a gay person is supposed to be.
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Member Since: 8/8/2006
Posts: 42,086
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Originally posted by RedDlicious
I'm not gonna go too far in on you because I like you and it isn't for everyone...but you will feel differently when you are in love, and can't get married, and your husband/boyfriend is in the hospital on his death bed and you aren't allowed in there to see him because you aren't married to him. You will feel differently if you are ever hate crimed, and there is no retribution. You will feel differently if you are ever fired for being gay in a state that has no laws protecting you from that.
People fight for our rights for a reason...you have just been lucky enough to not feel that just yet.
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I have never said I am against fighting for our rights. I think I'm just too young to think about a future with somebody like that
And I'd never come out at work  . it's sad to say it but I'd feel less respected
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Member Since: 5/1/2011
Posts: 700
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Originally posted by Chemist
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what's the point on being gay if u can't have fun acting like a **** u-atittude diva? 
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Member Since: 2/9/2008
Posts: 32,819
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Originally posted by Glamthony
i guess they think "normal" gays are those boring dudes who read books and listen to nora jones all day long and dress like a retarded......  |
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Member Since: 10/28/2009
Posts: 26,465
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Originally posted by eli's_rhythm
This is fairly true. In the wake of my coming out, my mom kept telling me that she was surprised by how I acted. She kept thinking I would change and become more flamboyant. And she would ask me awkward questions. She simply expected me to be different because my sexuality didn't fit her image of me. But I haven't changed (well, not in front of her, lol).
The thing is, though, it doesn't really bother me. What can I expect of her? If THAT'S the cost of higher public awareness and acceptance, I'm happy to pay. |
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Originally posted by RedDlicious
The reason for this is because the fem gays are the only ones who are KNOWN to be gay because you tell on appearance. If these masc gays want to change the image, they need to live masc and always make sure people know they are dealing with a gay man. Being out, proud, and vocal about it is the only way to change people's minds. Then maybe the public will have a more balanced view of gays...until then, the femmes can handle it the way they always have.
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You guys make a point.
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Member Since: 6/17/2009
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I am quite effeminate and honestly to an extent am surprised at the prejudice many users here have of this type of personality. Adding to the fact is how much we all love to use the lingo and gifs when expressing ourselves around the board.
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Member Since: 3/18/2008
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Originally posted by RedDlicious
OKAY! Let's run with that. NO black people can act ghetto...bigots might be close minded. NO Asians better be good at Math...people will assume they all are! NO Mexicans better be illegal in this country...the close-minded might assume they all are!
You are making excuses for the small-minded (including yourself apparently) to not let anyone stand out or be an individual. It is the most basic of mindsets and it encourages all of the worst forms of prejudice. HAVE A ****ING SEAT.
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No sir, YOU GONNA HAVE A ****ING SEAT. HEW on earth told you that a normal gay has to act flamboyant? NO ONE. The last time i cheaked a homosexual is a person who has sexual attraction with the same sex. Now here it come the stereotype that every gay has to act flamboyant, talk and act like a women. And THAT'S wrong.
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Member Since: 8/8/2006
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Originally posted by Glamthony
what's the point on being gay if u can't have fun acting like a **** u-atittude diva? |
Girl, I let my *** OUT when I'm in a gay club, you should see me shaking my booty like shakira
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Member Since: 11/29/2010
Posts: 19,102
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Originally posted by KoreanDream
Your point...? I'm unsure of what you're trying to say because you were first seemingly attacking the less effeminate gays and now this comes across as either very pro-effeminate or very anti-effeminate.
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I just don't understand the hate from the gay community on flamboyant gays.
They take the overwhelming majority, if not ALL, of the heat from society only to then be shunned by their own community. Where are they supposed to turn?
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 8/8/2006
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Originally posted by eli's_rhythm
This is fairly true. In the wake of my coming out, my mom kept telling me that she was surprised by how I acted. She kept thinking I would change and become more flamboyant. And she would ask me awkward questions. She simply expected me to be different because my sexuality didn't fit her image of me. But I haven't changed (well, not in front of her, lol).
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WHAT?!
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Member Since: 6/4/2010
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I'm masculine, and I have no problem with fem guys.
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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Originally posted by Lipton
I just don't understand the hate from the gay community on flamboyant gays.
They take the overwhelming majority, if not ALL, of the heat from society only to then be shunned by their own community. Where are they supposed to turn?
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Ah, I understand. I agree, too.
I did NOT agree with your other comment, though.
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Member Since: 10/4/2010
Posts: 5,607
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All this aside, how "masculine" or "feminine" some one acts is all mostly part of the display we put on everyday to the world. It's part of the personality that we want others around us to see. But deep down, beyond labels like "effeminate" and "manly," people are people. I personally would never judge a man simply based on how masculine/feminine he acts in front of everyone.
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
Posts: 1,720
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Originally posted by lolzjustinwat
As I've already stated, I am not attracted to effeminate gays, but that doesn't mean I'm not friends with them or support them. Like damn some of you must have some serious insecurities if you hate fems this much.
The only thing that annoys me is when a guy acts like a stereotypical straight guy, but as soon as he comes out, he starts talking with the gay lisp, shaking his ass when he walks, etc. If you are naturally fem, okay, but don't change just because you think that's how a gay person is supposed to be.
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I mostly like your point of view...as for people that change though...consider that a lot of those people (myself included to a degree) have been suppressing their feminine side for YEARS to stay cloaked in their closet, so when they finally come out, they let it ALL out...and usually overcompensate. Most gays eventually settle into a less extreme version of themselves in time, though.
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Originally posted by Chemist
I have never said I am against fighting for our rights. I think I'm just too young to think about a future with somebody like that
And I'd never come out at work . it's sad to say it but I'd feel less respected |
I know you didn't, as I said, fighting the fight isn't always someone's tea. But coming out to co-workers and family and doing things to advance our rights are ALL of our responsibilities. Just having fun is all of our priorities...it would be good for us all to make time to help out, though. But obvi only do things in your own time when you feel comfortable.
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Member Since: 2/9/2008
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Originally posted by Chemist
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Welcome to a month ago.
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Member Since: 6/4/2010
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And give me a nice body, fat booty fem day any day over some raggedy masc ***. Whew yes. 
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Member Since: 8/24/2008
Posts: 35,091
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Originally posted by Chemist
Girl, I let my *** OUT when I'm in a gay club, you should see me shaking my booty like shakira
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Member Since: 10/4/2010
Posts: 5,607
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Originally posted by Hi.Def
And give me a nice body, fat booty fem day any day over some raggedy masc ***. Whew yes.
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THIS!!!
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Member Since: 11/29/2010
Posts: 19,102
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Originally posted by BornThisWay
I personally would never judge a man simply based on how masculine/feminine he acts in front of everyone.
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Exactly. That parallels to the assumption that all feminine gays are thoroughbred bottoms while all masculine ones are dominant tops.
Trust me. I've seen some masculine guys that like to be pounded non-stop behind closed doors and vice versa.
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Member Since: 8/8/2006
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Originally posted by eli's_rhythm
Welcome to a month ago.
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I miss RT 
Congratz bb 
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