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Originally posted by Vin
But I read a post on here, I believe it was from the member, inspiration, who made an interesting point. He said that it is the over-the-top, flamboyant, effeminate, gay-pride-marchin', drag queen type of gay guy that makes it possible for society to more easily an openly accept the "normal gay guy." Thanks to that feminine "extreme" the public embraces the other half of the spectrum with an ease. So, "normal gay guys" owe a lot to the "over-the-top," "we-were-born-this-way" type of gay guy.
I thought it was an interesting point.
...Vin |
This is 100% true. Look at Stonewall (led by drag queens), look at Pride festivals and parades (led mostly be queens and over-the-top queens)...even down to the fact that a ton of queens and "femmy" theater gays do more charity work and outreach for the gay community than ANY other group in the community.
And let's all recognize that "femme" does NOT equal drag queen, theater queen, or anything else. It means you have a feminine qualities to your body language, vocabulary, style etc...I am not as feminine as many gays I know, but I do know that when many gays, including myself, get to a point where you have accepted yourself and maybe feel a little outside the norm, then there is nothing wrong with embracing your masculine and feminine sides. I know boys who act fem in public, and are strict tops in the bedroom and can be super masculine.
The point is that being feminine does not make someone a bad person, does not make then attention seeking, and does not make them worthless or harmful to the community. I bet I could make a LOT more points about more closeted, more masculine, and more straight acting being negative to the gays than the fems....but since I think you should act the way you feel comfortable, I won't do that.
