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Discussion: All about HIV
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I recently got tested (came back negative) after 53 days of having safe sex (anything can happen tho so)..
What are the chances of me actually being infected but still unnoticeable?
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So five months ago, I got tested after almost two years of not having sex and the results came back negative. That was around March. In April, I landed a job in a big city. No, I didn't fool around with anyone but one day, I was walking around the metro and in front of me was this guy who was wearing a short-sleeved shirt that was exposing his upper arm. Then I saw a woman approaching the guy from the back and I thought she was his friend and she was gonna give the guy a pat or something but then there was this sharp thing in her hand that she poked the guy with on his exposed upper arm. I was terrified and thought about how crazy the woman was and out of the blue, HIV came to my mind and that the woman was trying to infect the guy. That led me to try remembering if I ever felt getting poked with something sharp and honestly, I wanna get tested again  I'm someone who gets stupidly paranoid about my health and the only reason I stopped fooling around was because of an HIV scare a while back and now, this happens. If let's say I got poked with that thing without me noticing and the worst case scenario was that contained infected blood, what are the chances of me being infected? This might sound probably dumb but it kind of bothers me right now.
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Originally posted by jeffreyy
So five months ago, I got tested after almost two years of not having sex and the results came back negative. That was around March. In April, I landed a job in a big city. No, I didn't fool around with anyone but one day, I was walking around the metro and in front of me was this guy who was wearing a short-sleeved shirt that was exposing his upper arm. Then I saw a woman approaching the guy from the back and I thought she was his friend and she was gonna give the guy a pat or something but then there was this sharp thing in her hand that she poked the guy with on his exposed upper arm. I was terrified and thought about how crazy the woman was and out of the blue, HIV came to my mind and that the woman was trying to infect the guy. That led me to try remembering if I ever felt getting poked with something sharp and honestly, I wanna get tested again I'm someone who gets stupidly paranoid about my health and the only reason I stopped fooling around was because of an HIV scare a while back and now, this happens. If let's say I got poked with that thing without me noticing and the worst case scenario was that contained infected blood, what are the chances of me being infected? This might sound probably dumb but it kind of bothers me right now. |
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Originally posted by jeffreyy
So five months ago, I got tested after almost two years of not having sex and the results came back negative. That was around March. In April, I landed a job in a big city. No, I didn't fool around with anyone but one day, I was walking around the metro and in front of me was this guy who was wearing a short-sleeved shirt that was exposing his upper arm. Then I saw a woman approaching the guy from the back and I thought she was his friend and she was gonna give the guy a pat or something but then there was this sharp thing in her hand that she poked the guy with on his exposed upper arm. I was terrified and thought about how crazy the woman was and out of the blue, HIV came to my mind and that the woman was trying to infect the guy. That led me to try remembering if I ever felt getting poked with something sharp and honestly, I wanna get tested again I'm someone who gets stupidly paranoid about my health and the only reason I stopped fooling around was because of an HIV scare a while back and now, this happens. If let's say I got poked with that thing without me noticing and the worst case scenario was that contained infected blood, what are the chances of me being infected? This might sound probably dumb but it kind of bothers me right now. |
This story is so far-fetched and absurd that I'm not even sure if it merits a response. It is merely the result of urban legends that try to create fear and demonize people living with HIV.
And before anyone brings it up, this is NOT the same as sharing needles, an activity that indeed presents a risk for transmission.
But let's stick to the facts and the bottom line: NO that would not be a way to transfer the virus to another human being. HIV is a fragile virus that becomes non-viable when it is exposed to the environment. And HIV+ people don't go around thinking of evil ways of infecting others.
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Originally posted by EOMM92
I recently got tested (came back negative) after 53 days of having safe sex (anything can happen tho so)..
What are the chances of me actually being infected but still unnoticeable?
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You state that you had safe sex, so (regardless of what one or two uneducated members may want to say) you did not have a true risk of being exposed to HIV.
As far as your results, it all depends on the type of test that was used in your case. If you had blood drawn your negative result is pretty reliable. Modern-day PCR RNA tests can detect the presence of the virus ten days after exposure. But, if you still want to, you can get absolute confirmation by having another test 90 days after your sexual encounter.
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Originally posted by Latinazza
This story is so far-fetched and absurd that I'm not even sure if it merits a response. It is merely the result of urban legends that try to create fear and demonize people living with HIV.
And before anyone brings it up, this is NOT the same as sharing needles, an activity that indeed presents a risk for transmission.
But let's stick to the facts and the bottom line: NO that would not be a way to transfer the virus to another human being. HIV is a fragile virus that becomes non-viable when it is exposed to the environment. And HIV+ people don't go around thinking of evil ways of infecting others.
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Thank you for keeping this thread up and informing people. You're an angel. 
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I recently met a guy who is HIV+ and he is taking Genvoya tablets. We have been fooling around and haven't done any anal but he has given me BJs and I have only given him HJs. I know the chance of contracting HIV through BJs is very low but there is still a small chance, and I really don't feel comfortable. I even try to keep the kissing to a minimum.
I feel so bad because it feels like i'm being selfish & not returning the favor. He isn't forcing me to do anything but I can tell he feels like **** too because he probably thinks that i think he's disgusting or something, but I can't help it. I really like him tho, what should I do 
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Bump
Keep this thread alive sistrens
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Originally posted by phatty033
I recently met a guy who is HIV+ and he is taking Genvoya tablets. We have been fooling around and haven't done any anal but he has given me BJs and I have only given him HJs. I know the chance of contracting HIV through BJs is very low but there is still a small chance, and I really don't feel comfortable. I even try to keep the kissing to a minimum.
I feel so bad because it feels like i'm being selfish & not returning the favor. He isn't forcing me to do anything but I can tell he feels like **** too because he probably thinks that i think he's disgusting or something, but I can't help it. I really like him tho, what should I do |
Presumably since he's taking medication he has regular check ups to monitor his viral load. As long as said load is at a level where the virus is undetectable, you will be safe. Just use protection and I would also recommend your doctor prescribe you with PreP as another preventative measure. Be safe
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This clearly needs to be bumped due to the ignorance spread in a thread that was posted today.
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Originally posted by phatty033
I recently met a guy who is HIV+ and he is taking Genvoya tablets. We have been fooling around and haven't done any anal but he has given me BJs and I have only given him HJs. I know the chance of contracting HIV through BJs is very low but there is still a small chance, and I really don't feel comfortable. I even try to keep the kissing to a minimum.
I feel so bad because it feels like i'm being selfish & not returning the favor. He isn't forcing me to do anything but I can tell he feels like **** too because he probably thinks that i think he's disgusting or something, but I can't help it. I really like him tho, what should I do |
If he's under treatment, his viral load is undetectable. You shouldn't have started dating him out if you were afraid of contracting the virus, it'll be hard for him to find out you're not really into him because of his condition.
If he's taking Genvoya tablets, he is probably getting himself checked with a doctor every three months. You should go with him if you have doubts and face them together if you really like this guy. Trust me, you have no chances of contracting the virus while having oral sex, I mean, it isn't impossible but it rarely happens. If you have safe sex, everything will be fine.
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Originally posted by phatty033
I recently met a guy who is HIV+ and he is taking Genvoya tablets. We have been fooling around and haven't done any anal but he has given me BJs and I have only given him HJs. I know the chance of contracting HIV through BJs is very low but there is still a small chance, and I really don't feel comfortable. I even try to keep the kissing to a minimum.
I feel so bad because it feels like i'm being selfish & not returning the favor. He isn't forcing me to do anything but I can tell he feels like **** too because he probably thinks that i think he's disgusting or something, but I can't help it. I really like him tho, what should I do |
If he's on meds and having medical controls, use condoms for any activity and you should be fine. If it goes serious, you both should go to see a specialist doctor in order to experience a better sex life without any health damage.
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A few weeks ago I met a guy who is HIV+ (I was told about that by his ex a few days after our meeting) and I have given him a long BJ and then of course he came.
I also know he had medical controls in the past.
The chances when it comes to oral sex are really low? I'm so afraid.
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Originally posted by GrownBoy92
A few weeks ago I met a guy who is HIV+ (I was told about that by his ex a few days after our meeting) and I have given him a long BJ and then of course he came.
I also know he had medical controls in the past.
The chances when it comes to oral sex are really low? I'm so afraid.
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Bump for this.
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Originally posted by abrahamjmr
If he's under treatment, his viral load is undetectable. You shouldn't have started dating him out if you were afraid of contracting the virus, it'll be hard for him to find out you're not really into him because of his condition.
If he's taking Genvoya tablets, he is probably getting himself checked with a doctor every three months. You should go with him if you have doubts and face them together if you really like this guy. Trust me, you have no chances of contracting the virus while having oral sex, I mean, it isn't impossible but it rarely happens. If you have safe sex, everything will be fine. |
If you break it off with him now, after intitally accepting him for his status you're going to f*****g ruin him.
It's so hard for poz people to date and be open so he's probably really grateful to have found you. If you dump him even after knowing his status, hooking up with him, and knowing that his undetectable makes it virtually impossible for him to pass it on to you... 
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How do you know you have HIV outside of being tested? Like if you don't get tested do you eventually experience any symptoms?
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Originally posted by Navyboy20
If you break it off with him now, after intitally accepting him for his status you're going to f*****g ruin him.
It's so hard for poz people to date and be open so he's probably really grateful to have found you. If you dump him even after knowing his status, hooking up with him, and knowing that his undetectable makes it virtually impossible for him to pass it on to you... |
If somebody is uncomfortable or scared to be in a relationship, then s/he should end the relationship. The dumped partner may be sad initially, but s/he'll get over it. As long as the person ending the relationship makes sure to point all the blame at themselves for the reason why the relationship isn't working-- if they're the one at fault, which seems to be the case here--and reassures their (ex) partner of their worthiness, everything should be good. Besides, this is something that poz people will inevitably have to face. It's not fair, it's not right, but it's life.
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It's HIV Test Week. It's to raise awareness of regular testing ahead of World AIDS Day on Dec 1.
"Let’s look after ourselves and each other by getting tested regularly" - Olly Alexander, Years & Years
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It's HIV Test Week. It's to raise awareness of regular testing ahead of World AIDS Day on Dec 1.
"Let’s look after ourselves and each other by getting tested regularly" - Olly Alexander, Years & Years
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Thanks for reminding me that I still have to finish the OP.
Let me wait for the update tho.
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