Talk about these issues explicitly over dinner if you can and see how he reacts. Describe a recent situation or issue that involves discrimination that bothers or concerns you, and watch how he weighs in. If there are red flags, he’ll make those clear for you.
Imagine being on a first date and trying to start a conversation about a class you're taking or a TV show and the entire time they're going off about recent acts of discrimination and cross-examining you
