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Discussion: Would you let your son wear a dress?
Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Y'all using the son's happiness as a reason to let him wear a dress just shows the immaturity on this forum. As a parent, you should be putting your child's well-being first. If you let him wear what he wants, do what he wants, eat what he wants, say what he wants, all because it makes him "happy" then what kind of parent are you?
Children on the playground aren't so accepting and open-minded as you, so nip it in the bud till they're 18, avoid the hassle and just be a parent and socialise your child into their appropriate gender role. It's not hard.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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This comment (from a video similar to the one I posted above) basically is what everyone here is saying
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It's ****ing CLOTHING. That's it. A dress is simply an article of CLOTHING. You don't really have a problem with clothing. Your problem is with the notion that your son might be exhibiting homosexual traits. You're not saying, "No clothing in MY house!" You're saying, "No SISSIES in my house!" You are an ignorant, uneducated, pitiful behemoth who, like all "good" Christians, uses her faith to justify her own prejudices.
You can kiss my ass.
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Member Since: 10/10/2009
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I'd warn him of the potential backlash from his peers/society, and then I'd let him know (really STRESS it so he know's) that whatever his decision, I'm his biggest fan, and I'll always support his desire to be himself.
And I'd let him know how courageous & brave he is, etc, etc, etc.... 
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Originally posted by RomanNavy
Y'all go dress your sons like princess Peach, I'll dress my boys like boys so they can lead a normal life with friends. 
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Not when your gay self automatically falls under the "not normal" category.
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Yes I'm a grown man and I still play with Barbie doll. I want my son to be a big sissy like me. God said we shall inherit the earth.
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Originally posted by Jae
Y'all using the son's happiness as a reason to let him wear a dress just shows the immaturity on this forum. As a parent, you should be putting your child's well-being first. If you let him wear what he wants, do what he wants, eat what he wants, say what he wants, all because it makes him "happy" then what kind of parent are you?
Children on the playground aren't so accepting and open-minded as you, so nip it in the bud till they're 18, avoid the hassle and just be a parent and socialise your child into their appropriate gender role. It's not hard.
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I'll force my daugther to stay in the kitchen and become a perfect mother because that's the appropiate gender role, not that hard, right?
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Of course. I'd explain the possible backlash he might encounter from others less open minded, but at the end of the day it would be his decision.
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Originally posted by RomanNavy
Y'all go dress your sons like princess Peach, I'll dress my boys like boys so they can lead a normal life with friends.
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What happens if your son was actually trans and wanted to transition?
Letting your kids be the individual they wish to be is great parenting, unlike your narrow view.
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
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Originally posted by RomanNavy
Y'all go dress your sons like princess Peach, I'll dress my boys like boys so they can lead a normal life with friends.
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You sound just some bigoted, bible bashing red-neck. Who the **** cares about what's "normal"? There's a hell of lot people out there that think gay people aren't normal, does that mean their right? Does that mean their argument holds any weight?
You know what's more important than that? My child being HAPPY. And if yours/society's depiction of normality is making your kid unhappy (when he's doing nothing but wearing a piece of clothing) then something is majorly screwed up.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Jae
Y'all using the son's happiness as a reason to let him wear a dress just shows the immaturity on this forum. As a parent, you should be putting your child's well-being first. If you let him wear what he wants, do what he wants, eat what he wants, say what he wants, all because it makes him "happy" then what kind of parent are you?
Children on the playground aren't so accepting and open-minded as you, so nip it in the bud till they're 18, avoid the hassle and just be a parent and socialise your child into their appropriate gender role. It's not hard.
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Wow
And you're saying the parent trying to make their kid happy is selfish in this situation??? 
Nobody is saying they would allow their child to do EVERYTHING, simply because they don't have a problem with this one thing. How did you even come to that conclusion?
You realise children aren't accepting and open-minded because they were raised exactly how you described. It's because of people like you, that stuff like this is still seen as "problematic" and "not normal". SMH.
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Member Since: 8/1/2012
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Originally posted by Su-Barbie-A
Not when your gay self automatically falls under the "not normal" category.
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Who said I was gay tho
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by Jae
Y'all using the son's happiness as a reason to let him wear a dress just shows the immaturity on this forum. As a parent, you should be putting your child's well-being first. If you let him wear what he wants, do what he wants, eat what he wants, say what he wants, all because it makes him "happy" then what kind of parent are you?
Children on the playground aren't so accepting and open-minded as you, so nip it in the bud till they're 18, avoid the hassle and just be a parent and socialise your child into their appropriate gender role. It's not hard.
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Well this is just ridiculous, of course there'd be boundaries. It wouldn't be his way or the highway, but when it comes to how he wishes to express him then I don't see the problem. He could possibly be trans and denying that and forcing him into a specific gender until his was 18 could lead to major mental problems. I'd prefer a happy child rather than a troubled possible dead child
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Originally posted by SlayingOnTheEarth
Wow
And you're saying the parent trying to make their kid happy is selfish in this situation???
Nobody is saying they would allow their child to do EVERYTHING, simply because they don't have a problem with this one thing. How did you even come to that conclusion?
You realise children aren't accepting and open-minded because they were raised exactly how you described. It's because of people like you, that stuff like this is still seen as "problematic" and "not normal". SMH. |
Your child's well being should come before their happiness. I'm not saying your children should be miserable but as a parent you need to recognise that society has gender norms, and those that deviate are negatively sanctioned by their peers, employers, etc.
I wouldn't consider a boy wearing a dress to be 'problematic' but it's not normal, because it deviates from society's gender norms.
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Member Since: 6/4/2010
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Originally posted by Jae
Y'all using the son's happiness as a reason to let him wear a dress just shows the immaturity on this forum. As a parent, you should be putting your child's well-being first. If you let him wear what he wants, do what he wants, eat what he wants, say what he wants, all because it makes him "happy" then what kind of parent are you?
Children on the playground aren't so accepting and open-minded as you, so nip it in the bud till they're 18, avoid the hassle and just be a parent and socialise your child into their appropriate gender role. It's not hard.
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I somewhat agree
A few weeks ago a boy on a playground stabbed another boy just because he felt like it. I'm not gonna make any decisions for my child that could possibly bring any harm to them. If he wants to wear a dress it'd be when he's older and mentally and physically prepared to deal with any negativity or threats from strangers.
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Member Since: 3/25/2012
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I say yes because if you say no then he'll just become a closeted cross-dresser which is even worse.
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Member Since: 1/26/2012
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Originally posted by ReginaPhalange
.I'd prefer a happy child rather than a troubled possible dead child
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So, you don't think the constant bullying & hate he will receive.. will make him
a trouble "possibly" dead child...
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
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Originally posted by Nait Phoenix
I'd warn him about what to expect if he does, but it's ultimately his decision…
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Member Since: 8/1/2012
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Originally posted by Peroxide
You sound just some bigoted, bible bashing red-neck. Who the **** cares about what's "normal"? There's a hell of lot people out there that think gay people aren't normal, does that mean their right? Does that mean their argument holds any weight?
You know what's more important than that? My child being HAPPY. And if yours/society's depiction of normality is making your kid unhappy (when he's doing nothing but wearing a piece of clothing) then something is majorly screwed up.
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Yes I think your child would be very happy getting beaten up every day in his dress. Take some responsibility for your child cuz y'all are setting him up for disaster. Your the parents you need to protect him from the world and a dress is an invitation to beat him up in todays society.
And no I'm not a bigoted bible bashing red neck. You don't need to insult to make your point clear.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by RomanNavy
Who said I was gay tho
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In the closet? Not comfortable enough to say it proudly, even on a predominantly gay forum? That explains your answers then...
Aren't you from the Netherlands/somewhere in Europe? You should be more open minded
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Member Since: 2/2/2014
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I would warn him about how he might be bullied or ignored by others but yes.
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