[Tennis Court]

Originally posted by nills

Firstly, I am calm. Secondly, now you very well know it said "Gabourey Sidibe, commonly known as Precious."

Back on topic doe

Since she she apologized I think arguing over it is unnecessary.

It didn't

And we're not talking about her, just about it being a slur and people trying to defend it.

[Mike_54]

Originally posted by Tennis Court

Maybe I'm ignorant here but how is bottom offensive?

the way it is often used here, it's clear that is used with intention to be offensive and I really don't understand point of it.

[Bey_Rihstan]

Not this being part of the Precious base.

[Tennis Court]

Originally posted by Mike_54

the way it is often used here, it's clear that is used with intention to be offensive and I really don't understand point of it.

I'll stop using it then I always thought it was just used to describe people who were bottoms and didn't have a meaning behind it.

[Ares]

She didn't know it was slur. She apologized for using it. Moving on.

[DevonDreams]

whats wrong with the word?

[Tennis Court]

Originally posted by DevonRoars

whats wrong with the word?

It has a negative connotation and people use it interchangeably with transvestite and a person who is trans.

[Absynthe]

I didn't even know it was a slur.

[Mellark]

You people need to realize that her name is not Precious. Her name is Gabourey.

[St. Charles]

Originally posted by Tennis Court

How did it offend them? I'm curious. How is it negative?

Like I said, I didn't think it was. But some people thought so and they were payed dust.

[Tennis Court]

Originally posted by Mellark

You people need to realize that her name is not Precious. Her name is Gabourey.

No one said it was.....

[orlandoe]

I don't think she meant any harm.

[dperkins]

Originally posted by Flare

A lot of people don't realize "tranny" is a slur. ATRL should censor it tbh. The transgender community gets lashings from every other community and it goes unnoticed.

Trans people will be the next group to make a fight for equality and against discrimination. We can only seem to conquer one equality issue at a time. Blacks, women, gays, etc. It seems like it's asking too much to have the equality fight for all walks of life at the same time. It's like people need to latch onto some particular group to hate. Now that it's becoming unacceptable to hate on gays, people feel the need to hate on another group, and transgendered people are the next group.

I don't have a problem with transgendered people. I used to be a little uncomfortable with them, but I didn't know the them. People have been taught to fear the unknown, and fear brings out the worst in people.

[Giselle]

"Another thing people tend to fall back on in these instances is their intent. Oh I didn't mean it like that. or You're interpreting it the wrong way. In these instances, we're not really worried about you're intent. Because of course you didn't mean to offend anyone. You're intent doesn't really matter, because it's a matter of intent vs impact. It doesn't matter what you meant, what matters it the outcome of what you said. So instead of talking about what you meant to do, talk about what you did."


@ most of the people in this thread.

[Tennis Court]

Originally posted by RaeseanLohan

"Another thing people tend to fall back on in these instances is their intent. Oh I didn't mean it like that. or You're interpreting it the wrong way. In these instances, we're not really worried about you're intent. Because of course you didn't mean to offend anyone. You're intent doesn't really matter, because it's a matter of intent vs impact. It doesn't matter what you meant, what matters it the outcome of what you said. So instead of talking about what you meant to do, talk about what you did."


@ most of the people in this thread.

THANK YOU

[Mike_54]

Originally posted by Tennis Court

I'll stop using it then I always thought it was just used to describe people who were bottoms and didn't have a meaning behind it.

Well technically it isn't. But for example you can say "I love to dye my hair blond" or something stupid like "I wear my jeans tight" and someone will answer with "Oh you are such a bottom".
And I mean that doesn't make any sense. same way when someone says something random and other person answers with "that's so gay".

Now word bottom in that way is used only by gays but If it was used by general population, it would be considered offensive in no time like it's offensive to use "it's so gay"and "that's so retarded" to describe random things.

[Andres]

I'm gay myself and it wasn't until recently that I found out it was an offensive term

[Tennis Court]

Originally posted by Andres

I'm gay myself and it wasn't until recently that I found out it was an offensive term

It's ok. Not many people do. It's just good to learn and correct ourselves in the future.

[Prometheus.]

Most people don't view this as a harmful word so I don't get the hate.

[Tennis Court]

Originally posted by Prometheus.

Most people don't view this as a harmful word so I don't get the hate.

Just because you don't know, doesn't excuse its use. Just like in court, "Ignorance of the law is not an excuse to break it."