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Originally posted by Truth Teller
Honestly, it's knowing that some of the people you're attracted to wouldn't even consider you.
I feel like str8 people don't deal with it as much because, in most parts of the world, heterosexuality is the default orientation, so they just assume that the object of their desire might actually want them back (regardless of other factors, like being out of their league or whatever). For us, sometimes you really like someone but you KNOW it ain't gonna happen in a million years. And when he's hot and sweet and smart and compatible to you, it kinda hurts a little
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This 100 percent! Since everyone is just assumed to be heterosexual, a straight person can just ask out anyone they like even if they don't know their sexuality, and if they turn out to be gay, shame on the gay one. But a gay person can't just ask out anyone if they don't know their sexuality, because if they turn out to be straight, shame on us. When you're straight, there really are plenty of fish in the sea, but being gay it's so hard to find someone you like who likes you back, especially if you're in the closet or you live somewhere where a lot of people are homophobic.
And I totally get what you're saying about it hurting when you like a straight person so much, but you know in your heart there's a zero percent chance of them liking you back. My freshman year of college, I fell hard for a guy in my residence hall. We became friends and went on "dates" (that's how I saw it at least haha). He was always so nurturing with me and sometimes really touchy. Then I found out he had a girlfriend and I was devastated. On top of that, it turned out he was homophobic.