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Discussion: Should you come out if you're Bi?
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Should you come out if you're Bi?
Do you think its necessary to come out to your friends and family if you are bisexual?
Or do you think it is only necessary if you become involved in a same sex relationship?
Discuss....
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Member Since: 5/27/2010
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Depends on the person and what they feel is appropriate/necessary in their life.
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Member Since: 6/20/2011
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Only if you are pursuing a same sex relationship. To avoid confusion
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Member Since: 8/23/2011
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The circumstances for a person to come out as being bisexual are no different than those of coming out as being gay. Just because you're in a heterosexual relationship does not mean you have to only acknowledge that aspect of your sexuality.
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Member Since: 6/9/2011
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"come out" whenever one is comfortable. One's sexual orientation doesn't define who they are, it's just a small aspect of them. It's no one's business unless said person chooses to disclose that info. to someone in my opinion.
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Member Since: 9/16/2011
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Originally posted by mikeking
Only if you are pursuing a same sex relationship. To avoid confusion
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I pretty much agree with this.
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Member Since: 3/30/2011
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You don't have to come out if you're not ready to handle it.
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Member Since: 8/23/2011
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Nobody should stay in the closet to "avoid confusion." That's ridiculous.
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Member Since: 6/20/2011
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I mean you just cant come home with a guy and be like oh yeah its cool. Some parents still have trouble grasping homosexuality, so bisexuality makes their heads explode.
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Member Since: 5/28/2011
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I know it may sound kind of stupid, but personally, I don't think anyone should have to come out, no matter if they're bisexual, gay, or whatever.
I mean, I know it can be a big thing (I know when I came out as bi, it was for me), but no one should really have to come out, but I'm definitely not saying repress yourself. Does it make any sense?
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Member Since: 5/17/2010
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Regardless of your sexual orientation, you should come out when you feel it's right.
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Member Since: 10/5/2006
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Originally posted by Love ♥
I know it may sound kind of stupid, but personally, I don't think anyone should have to come out, no matter if they're bisexual, gay, or whatever.
I mean, I know it can be a big thing (I know when I came out as bi, it was for me), but no one should really have to come out, but I'm definitely not saying repress yourself. Does it make any sense?
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Exactly. It's not a should/should not, it's a are you comfortable letting people know or are you not?
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Member Since: 3/16/2011
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Originally posted by Love ♥
I know it may sound kind of stupid, but personally, I don't think anyone should have to come out, no matter if they're bisexual, gay, or whatever.
I mean, I know it can be a big thing (I know when I came out as bi, it was for me), but no one should really have to come out, but I'm definitely not saying repress yourself. Does it make any sense?
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Member Since: 8/23/2011
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Originally posted by Love ♥
I know it may sound kind of stupid, but personally, I don't think anyone should have to come out, no matter if they're bisexual, gay, or whatever.
I mean, I know it can be a big thing (I know when I came out as bi, it was for me), but no one should really have to come out, but I'm definitely not saying repress yourself. Does it make any sense?
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Yes, this makes sense and is right.
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Member Since: 5/28/2011
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Originally posted by ashuduff
Exactly. It's not a should/should not, it's a are you comfortable letting people know or are you not?
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Exactly.
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Originally posted by cheap
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What's so funny about that?
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Member Since: 6/9/2011
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I've always wondered why gays used that ridiculous term as well.
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Member Since: 9/22/2011
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Do it when it feels right. Of course, the stigma of bisexuality being the halfway point for closeted gays is only magnified if you come out with a boyfriend. That's something to consider, but not really something to plan when you come out around.
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Member Since: 5/28/2011
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Originally posted by i spit on haters
I've always wondered why gays used that ridiculous term as well.
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Wait... what?
If you mean the term "Bisexual" is ridiculous, then...
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Member Since: 6/29/2002
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It's not "necessary" in the sense that you otherwise would not be able to have a love life. But if you want your friends and family to know the real you then of course it is necessary.
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Member Since: 2/11/2008
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Many people even think that bisexuality is worse just cause they think you'll take advantage of other people (sexually), or even they dare that it is something mental.
I agree that you can come out only when you're ready, and well, if you're going to pursue a same sex relationship, then go ahead.
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