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Discussion: Worst part of being gay?
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Originally posted by Truth Teller
Honestly, it's knowing that some of the people you're attracted to wouldn't even consider you.
I feel like str8 people don't deal with it as much because, in most parts of the world, heterosexuality is the default orientation, so they just assume that the object of their desire might actually want them back (regardless of other factors, like being out of their league or whatever). For us, sometimes you really like someone but you KNOW it ain't gonna happen in a million years. And when he's hot and sweet and smart and compatible to you, it kinda hurts a little  |
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Originally posted by ThugginGrande
Yeah, I have nothing against feminine gays at all, but I hate how masculine gays are assumed to be self-hating, misogynistic, etc. For some reason, if a masculine gay prefers masculine men, it's the worst thing in the world. Gays aren't allowed to have preferences like straight people apparently. We have to be willing to have sex with anything that has a dick.
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I think it's their need to be liked by everyone and have people's validation. I hate my generation. 
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I was gonna say homophobia at first but I think that's a close 3rd. For me, the second worst thing is questioning my faith because "homosexuality is a sin" and "all gays will burn in hell" etc etc. But there's still hope that those people are wrong. The absolute, unarguable worst thing about being gay imo is not being able to have kids with a man. Even if it can be done scientifically with a surrogate, my child not having both fathers' DNA kinda stings. 
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by Truth Teller
Honestly, it's knowing that some of the people you're attracted to wouldn't even consider you.
I feel like str8 people don't deal with it as much because, in most parts of the world, heterosexuality is the default orientation, so they just assume that the object of their desire might actually want them back (regardless of other factors, like being out of their league or whatever). For us, sometimes you really like someone but you KNOW it ain't gonna happen in a million years. And when he's hot and sweet and smart and compatible to you, it kinda hurts a little |
Me af.
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Originally posted by OnikaSlays
Small dating pool
Crushing on straight guys
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THIS THOUGH
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When i was younger, it was finding other people like me, who you can talk to and don't find you strange. Then you find them, and they're problematic or sleazy. But whatever.
Now really in life, it's just finding people who don't see you as their "gay friend", rather than just friend. I know a lot of gays love being the GBF and having straight girls humour their sexuality, but i'm not one. I'm gay. I made peace with it long ago. But there's more to me than my sexual preference. I understand people accept gays, but whenever i'm friends with a group of straight people, i just feel like there's more attention on my sexual life than anyone else. I feel like it's not true friendship - especially when you observe how straights treat other straights.
Also trying to connect with a guy on a serious level is hard. In the future i think having children will be annoying. But i don't think i want them. I shunned that idea when i realised i was a pillow biter.
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to find someone who wants a long term relationship.
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Homophobia period.
It sucks people can hate you... just for being you.
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Originally posted by MrYorkshireFenty
When i was younger, it was finding other people like me, who you can talk to and don't find you strange. Then you find them, and they're problematic or sleazy. But whatever.
Now really in life, it's just finding people who don't see you as their "gay friend", rather than just friend. I know a lot of gays love being the GBF and having straight girls humour their sexuality, but i'm not one. I'm gay. I made peace with it long ago. But there's more to me than my sexual preference. I understand people accept gays, but whenever i'm friends with a group of straight people, i just feel like there's more attention on my sexual life than anyone else. I feel like it's not true friendship - especially when you observe how straights treat other straights.
Also trying to connect with a guy on a serious level is hard. In the future i think having children will be annoying. But i don't think i want them. I shunned that idea when i realised i was a pillow biter.
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Good point. It's even worse being friends with straight guys. Don't get me wrong. All of my friends in real life are straight and 95 percent of them are guys, and while I do enjoy their company, if I came out to them it would never be the same. More and more people are opening up to the idea of gay marriage, but I feel like having an actual gay friend is a completely different story for people. Just the other day, my friends were saying they're fine with gay marriage, but if their kid were gay they'd beat the gay out of them. 
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Originally posted by ThugginGrande
Good point. It's even worse being friends with straight guys. Don't get me wrong. All of my friends in real life are straight and 95 percent of them are guys, and while I do enjoy their company, if I came out to them it would never be the same. More and more people are opening up to the idea of gay marriage, but I feel like having an actual gay friend is a completely different story for people. Just the other day, my friends were saying they're fine with gay marriage, but if their kid were gay they'd beat the gay out of them. |
Oh, you got to let them hoes go, baby. Cut them bitches off and never look back. Or take the high road and try to educate them. But I would just cut them off. I do hope you eventually come out though. When you're ready. There's so much joy in life out of the closet. It's indescribable but it's euphoric. Even though there's baggage with being out, it's better than the torment of being closeted.
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Originally posted by YemiKing
Oh, you got to let them hoes go, baby. Cut them bitches off and never look back. Or take the high road and try to educate them. But I would just cut them off. I do hope you eventually come out though. When you're ready. There's so much joy in life out of the closet. It's indescribable but it's euphoric. Even though there's baggage with being out, it's better than the torment of being closeted.
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My three best friends growing up were straight guys who were typically teenage guys - homophobic attitude and never even socialised with gays.
When i came out, i'd already mentally cut them off but to my surprise... i changed their perception on gays. After a while they realised i was the same person, and two of them now are really liberal on the subject (one is a bit meh on the subject, because of religion). Maturing helped them; now they're early 20s, but i think a lot of people like that just need a reality check. And coming out to them was the reality check. Made us better friends IMO.
But i agree, prepare for the worst, and be confident in yourself first.
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Originally posted by ontherocks
other gays quite frankly.
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This in regards to dating, tbh.
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Being ugly and not toned tbh.
Gay's are ruthless.
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Less possibilities in finding a parter than straight people.
+ The gays that are out of the closet and open about it tend to be promiscuous, cheaters, or don't want a relationship at all.
We all have issues, mostly because society/family/religion/etc. ****ed us, but I just want a normal romantic-comedy-kind-of-relationship (and no, I'm not that desperate for wanting that with anybody).
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Gays never want serious relationships... It's seems like all they care about is fu***** a different guy every week and never being monogamous. And yeah, not being able to have kids and share genes really makes me sad :/
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Watching Greek Gods go out with girls that look like they fat sewer rats. 
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